My story goes in 2 parts!

I felt I was getting ioi's from someone on holiday. She opened up a few times to let me in but I didn't dare do anything! I left it too late and she lost interest! I thought I was completely misreading the signals which then made me reevaluate everything, I went to bars most nights to improve myself!

Then my work mate, again I saw all the ioi's play fighting, flirting, and stop it!!! Playfulness etc
Ioi's - telling me she like older guys, grinding on the dance floor with me, showing me the tops of her Calvin Klein underwear, speaking on the phone for 3 hours, play fighting, constant her touching me/a teasing slap!

Anyway after night out I ended up back at her place, beforehand she was texting me that she was planning on bringing a friend back (I knew she was seeing someone but why tell me that) and text me asking if I was going to try and pick up any girls that night-> my response was a funny remark about dirty dancing and I'd only pick up girls if that song came on-> I know not funny but I had to avoid the question.

Anyway got to hers thought I was completely in and told her I was into her, only for her reply she's not into me at all!!!
I mean wtf.. Did I completely mis-read the signs!!!
Again I did wait too long to make a move - so I get that I need more bottle and will work on it...
This turned me to the game and I'm now a rafc and researching and applying!
Any advice on this topic!

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Reevaluate the way you're approaching. First, I would next the target. Work on your approaches, patterning, eliciting values, and anchoring. Look these terms up they are gold.

I highly recommend you open up ten sets use coffee shops, book stores, etc. Use canned openers, establish rapport, and begin kino to get the close.

It looks like you act like an AFC. You need to convey your high status. She disrespects you with other men, because youre friendzoned. Workout more and perhaps take a boxing class should help your inner game. Otherwise, thanks for sharing and keep opening up sets.

Prob agree with having to DHV and demonstrate with my actions and make sure she see me do it!
I'm also her boss so I thought I had higher value anyway! Don't mix business with pleasure!
As for boxing.. I already do! It's great for self confidence!

If you're battling approach anxiety and can't get out of your comfort zone try doing a singing lesson for the first time! I've never shat myself so my in all my life! The interesting thing about it was I noticed my anxiety body language (my tells/ what psychologists call leakage) and I now know how to stop fidgeting! It's also great for tone of voice, projection of voice etc! Just think it's surely DHV if you can burst out singing as a hidden talent!!!

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