So I texted a past FWB the other day. Last time we talked was over 2wks ago, I wanted her to come over but she gave an excuse and that was it. Fast forward to this week. Graduation is coming up and I want to make sure I see most my friends before who knows when.

me: when do you leave this week?
her: saturday afternoon!
me: grab lunch this week then?
her: maybe wednesday or friday?
me: Im done at 2 on wednesday. Chipotle?
no response...
(next day)
me: I'll take that as a no.

All those texts were within a half hour then just silence. I don't really care about her individually, I'm just really confused on what the hell happened. Previously, I always got the feeling I was texting her friends instead of her so I think she was excited originally then her friends talked her out of it or something.

Side note: i've already set something else up with another girl that day so even if she texts me on wednesday like nothing happen and wants to still meet I can tell her I made other plans because she never answered.

"I'll take that as a no."

see what you did there?

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Nah a girls actions are rarely based on her friends advice. For example if her friends tried to talk her out of seeing you she'd think they were jealous and thus definitely see you. Don't overthink things like this, will drive you mad.

It's also never the girls fault. You fucked up, if she wanted to see you/get fucked by you then she would. Either there's a new fella on the scene or the comments ive put below are valid.
Don't ask, tell. A question can be converted to a statement so easily. For example: Lets grab lunch this week.
This wasn't a confirmation that she'd be up for it. It was more "oh I might be free on these days but i dunno" statement. She went with "carrot on the stick" method.
Instantly in there snapping at the carrot. Asking again what she wants to do..
N-E-E-D-Y. Why even bother sending this text apart from having an emotional reaction to her simply not responding. Don't do this kind of thing. Continue your life (like you have) make other plans. A busy/alpha male is a male with so much stuff going on that a girl not replying to him to confirm a meetup isn't a big deal because BAM there's something around the corner already.
Good stuff. Without the last N-E-E-D-Y text this would have had such a bigger impact on the fuck buddy girl. e.g.

You: Im done at 2 on wednesday. Chipotle?
no response...
(Wednesday arrives)
Her: Hey are we doing Chopotle today @ 2?
You: Ah sorry. Made plans with a friend of mine.

Then it sets off her "WHODAFUCKIZDAT?"

Last text slammed the door shut.

Just be more direct, assume interest and don't ask if a time or plan works for her. The question mark is your enemy. Just say "Let's get dinner on tuesday at the chipotle on main at 7. see you there". Don't respond if she doesn't respond. You have to give off the vibe that you're sending out a line and if she ignores you, you will ignore her. You are not needy for her. You'll make other plans and if she doesn't respond within a few hours, you have already forgotten about the conversation.

Appreciate the feedback guys, very helpful

whenever someone is like well I might be free on x...
I don't like that wishy-washyness so I think appropriate responses if it clearly is non-committal is just like "sure, check your schedule and get back to me when you know when you're free"

I would also like you to be more assertive in the plans. not like "Chipotle?" with another question mark

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also be willing to say I'll see you when you get back - if you have to

if you leave her on that and she likes you she will be thinking about you wondering why you don't call

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