Hi guys,
I will explain the situation as best i can then i'd love to hear your advice.
I'm 21, final year student at university in England.

Basically i'd been going out with this girl for a year. It was super intense as we lived in the same house (not by design, booked the house then hooked up) with 6 other people, 8 total. I wanted to live in the hosue as it was next door to my best mates but we didn't have enough to fill the house so teamed up with her and her friends and filled it. Living together for about 8 months, were going out for the past 12. She was the first girl i ever slept with more than once, first girlfriend, first love etc.
The relationship was fantastic when it was going good but also had some pitfalls. She has manic depression so can be a bit up and down whereas i am much more level emotionally. The sex was great (and ridiculously often), we had a lot of laughs and a lot of fun. Occasionally it would be terrible though, she would go out and get drunk, decide i was the worst person ever (perhaps i'd cheated or performed some other imaginary slight) and she would shout and scream at me. She would trap me in my room and argue with me when i only wanted to go to bed as i knew she'd calm down when sober. she would come back to me very sheepish in the morning and apologise and tell me she was being silly and pester me until i gave up and just forgave her.
In addition all our friends became the same friends (i had about 15 across the houses that were my friends before they knew her which became our friends). I felt i never had any time away from her as she was always in the house despite the fact i would go out to uni or spend a lot of time with my rugby friends.
Eventually (about 2 months ago) i decided i had had enough and broke up with her.
Now the problem is i'm still living in the house with her and will be for another 6 weeks. Despite my best efforts still in love with her and she is still in love with me. I have tried getting with other girls but have always found an excuse and run away. She on the other hand has slept with a few guys which has always made me really upset (even though she tries to be subtle living in the same house means i always find out). I vomited last time i found out and it makes me very very depressed and is constantly on my mind for the next couple of days. I am also paranoid everytime she goes out that she will get with a guy which means i can't sleep (pathetic i know). She has said they're meaningless etc. and she would take me back in a heartbeat if i wanted to.
I'm in the confusing position of still being in love with her, not wanting her to sleep with other people but also not sure i can promise her we wont have problems in future, i don't want to fuck her up again (she took the breakup hard).
I'm in a half way house where i won't sleep with other people but i know getting back with her is unfair if im not totally committed. The reasons i broke up won't really exist next year when graduated (when working you can't get hammered so often, we won't live in same house and we'll have different friends) but will be replaced by new ones (we'll live 3 hours apart).
I feel i've gone on a ramble, i do apologise. Basically the question is how's best to move on/ get over her while im still in the same house and constantly reminded of her? or if i still love her after 2 months and all the shit i've been through is that a sign i should take another stab at it and see what happens?

About me: I'm intelligent, confident, not great looking but not ugly, kinda short but got a great beach body. I want to be in a relationship and been half looking with limited success but if i could start pulling the trigger on nights out could probably sleep with some moderately attractive girls.

I will happily answer any questions. thanks for reading this far. much appreciated.

Well this is not an easy case for sure.

I was living together with my ex too in the dorm when we broke up, and I could only move to the room next door. We had classes together and I saw her every day, we stayed friends anyway, and it was a tough one. I had a dry period, no girls, and she didn't have much going on either. She needs sex like a drug though, and started calling up all kinds of her exes basically to fuck her. Well, all except for one who was still obsessed with her 4 years after the break up. Oh, and there was another ex she didn't want to sleep with: ME. So you could imagine this hurted a lot but the story gets "better".

We both stayed in the dorm for the summer. Basically it was just the two of us on the entire floor, and it was very hard work for me to accept her only as a friend. The fact that she's very flirty with her friends didn't help either. The other fact that I couldn't get another lay no matter how badly I was trying also didn't help much. And just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, I got to witness how she kissed some dude on a party where both of us were invited. Story is not over, when we got home she broke down in tears and started telling me how she wanted to kill herself 2 weeks ago, and that she couldn't find her place here at the university, and how she was useless etc. etc.

There were some things that helped though... I understood that with the problems we had in the relationship, it would be impossible to manage a start over. I also had my very supportive friends behind me, and I had the will to change my life for the better.

So after 4 months of Hell(this suicidal stuff was at the end of the 4th month after our break up), things started changing. I realized that this girl needs me as a friend, and eventhough she was my ex, I still liked her. I couldn't blame her more for our disfunctional relationship than I could myself, so there was really no reason for me to act hostile. After this relization both of us became more balanced and our friendship was fully functional. Another 2 months passed and I got together with my current girlfriend, have been together with her for more than 1.5 years now, and after a few months she also found a great guy. Everything is cool now, but I literally felt like something was trying to kill me during those 4 months. Everything went almost as bad as it was possible and this is what I want to tell you:

BE PREPARED FOR SHIT LIKE THIS!!

I can't really tell you much else as an advice. Be prepared because shit always happens, and start accepting her as a friend(I assume as you were together for so long she's generally a nice and intelligent girl who is a worthy friend), and start seeking other options. It's fucking hard to move on in a situation like this, but it's a must. You'll also grow as a person when you manage to.

Good Luck,

Peace,

In$tinct

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Thanks man.
Seriously it has been the most help i've got since the breakup. just to know that someone was in a similar situation and overcame it and is fine afterwards is a real confidence boost.
I came here as i thought it was worth a punt and come away with a really good attitude.
Can't thank you enough, your reply came at the right time and im feeling much happier.
You are a credit to this community.

no doubt he is.

This girl doesn't seem stable and is kind of a freak.