| So as the heading says...I'm a single Dad trying to adapt PUA skills. More specifically, I'm a 40 something-single Dad that has the kids a lot. So, I don't get many opportunities to Sarge at clubs. When i'm with the kids at a restaurant, roller skating rink, birthday parties, scout meetings, soccer practice, grocery shopping, etc., I usually get several obvious IOIs (staring, smiles, direct winks, verbal compliments on parenting, etc.) from other Single Moms. Those Single Moms also have kids with them. Usually, I try to wait for a moment where all her kids would be away temporary, but it never happens. I'm tired of lost opportunities like that one. So, I would like to fine tune my Game so I can still sarge with my kids in tow and approach Single Moms with kids in tow too. So anyway here's where I need help:
1. Is it ethical to Sarge with kids on my arm and/or the Single Moms arm? Any experiences?
2. Should I open with a Single Mom in front of our kids? If the IOI's were misread or unconsciously given, Will she get offensive?
3. Should I be discreet, so that the children wasn't aware of what I was doing? OR should I be "direct" and say " i think your cute" right in front of all the kids. My thoughts are that the kids wouldn't be scarred for life and it may save them future frustrations if they learn some social skills from their Daddy... So why not be direct?
4. How do I handle the obstacles (our kids) without being creepy? (Kids have a short attention span and wants to be center of the attention. So if I talk too long they will interrupt.)
5. what would I say to open a Single Mom with kids nearby. Do you have openers that you would suggest?....Direct, Indirect, Situational, Opinion?
----I thought I should go direct and have worked up this opening routine...What do you think? “Listen, I think you’re really cute. I would kick myself in the ass if I didn’t come over to introduce myself. Hey, I’m ___, it’s nice to meet you. Anyway, I don’t want to distract you from your kids. They may attack us at any second. Besides, we don’t want our kids to see you flirting with guys at the Roller Skate Rink…Soooo…you should give me your number…so we can talk sometime.”…
Thanks,
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