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Hy!
I have a problem with my boyfriend, and I would very much appreciate male opinion about it.
We have been dating now for about 9 months. The other day we went out partying, I went with my friends, and he went with his. We later met, so that we would go home together. I asked him, if he had a good time. He answered that it was fantastic, they were hitting on girls all night etc. It really bothers me. I know he isn't cheating, but the fact, that those girls really think he is interested in them, and they later add him on fb or something is really not ok in my opinion. He also doesn't want to change fb status into "in a relationship". I asked him if he tells them that he is not interested/has a gf, but he said that there is no reason for this, and that he just enjoys the attention.
Later that night we took a cab home, and he sat on a front seat, I had to seat in the back by myself. When we got back home, he didn't even look at me or say goodnight or anything else in that matter, he just went to bed. I found it rude, and it really hurt my feelings. Then we had a huge fight and he went home in the middle of the night, now he is not returning my calls. What is your opinion about the situation? Was I overreacting??
Thanks in advance for any response, I really care about this guy!
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of course it bothers you, and you are right with your thoughts, it does indicates you, that his interest for you decreased plus he doesn't want to change the status which turn a red light in your mind, plus you probably know better then me if he is a player/gamer or don't - which probably adds more fear that he doesn't playing with you.
also it does adds more fear when he doesn't return you calls after a fight, maybe he is a player that got good advice, but i doubt that.
we appreciate things when we start to lose them, 9 months isn't little time, so i assume he still likes you,
he isn't returning calls cause he is angry or something you probably pushing him out of his comfort zone.
also try to see if you did something that night that might pissed him off and for some reason he isn't comfort to tell you.
as i tell to guys so i tell you, if you afraid to lose her/him you will, there is no one side relationship, if you afraid to ruin them but he doesn't, you aren't equal, if this the case t will break up anyway, in simple words if someone of you doesn't want this relationship, then there is nothing to save, if he doesn't care for you anymore.
but as i see it's seems like he still does want this relationship
try to look again and see if you pissed him somehow that night at the clubs not all the guys really open to tell what they got problems with.
anyway i guess he just lost some of the attraction which you need to build up again.
my advice:
you got to change back you status to single, let him call you, if this relationship means something to him,
he will try to save it, when he calls you, you don't answer you send TEXT with
smile, "i will call you back, i'm doing something that girls do".
when you call back you hear him, you listen to his voice to his words and try to figure out, if is apologizing/missing you/ etc or /doesn't care.
if he is giving you signs that he is missing or sorry or something that indicates affection, listen to him 5 mins tell him you need to hang up the phone cause girls come and you go out.
so now you know he cares, all you need to do is seduce him back, dirty messages, signs of interest, giving him to touch you, pulling he hands back, letting get to you but you push him softly, he don't get sex nor oral nor anal, until he does what you want, anytime you act interested but pushing away, like you girls do so good, until you get what you want, yea you can flirt with guys, photos pictures, whatever, but being sorry at the end.
but at the phone conversation, if he doesn't care you don't get angry, speak quietly, tell him after 2-3 mins of conversation that you need to hang out the phone cause you girlfriend came to you and you are going to bar or party, whatever.
then go out with your some of your male friends also and take some pictures with guys, post them on facebook (you might in a relationship but you owe him nothing), not answering calls, telling him things he want to hear and then go out with other dudes, and of course no sex until you get what you want, generally things like girls do just seduce him.
also i really suggest you to look into your memory and try to find when you noticed that he became colder at the first time, and analyze it.
good luck
~Vlad
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