Hi,

There's this girl at my workplace who I opened with general chit chat and cocky funny humor. We started exchanging hi s and hellos. One day, she was coming down from somewhere, I caught her up in the middle, joked about her glass frame and asked her out for tea (in the workplace cafe). She reponded, "Now? You're going there?" and then politely declined, "I have some work left, you carry on." I said, "Cool" and walked off.

The other day, she came up to my desk when the whole office had kind of gone home and gave me 'proximity' in having a general chit chat with me. I did not fully respond to her and maintained my cool attitude. Then as I was leaving office, we exchanged smiles and she said, "Have a good weekend", I said "Thanks. you too" then left.

I am stuck at this. I don't know where to take it from here. Also, I see a lot of naturals teasing her, hitting on her and that kills my inner game looking at these men from a distance and her responding to these naturals.

The problem with me is, I haven't been able to really become a PUA even though I stumbled upon the community in 2010. I use the techniques here and there, get an LTR then forget about PUAdom until my breakup.

Could anyone out here help me game this girl? Any help appreciated please!

My friend you don't need to give up gaming when you're in a relationship. I've been in a relationship for 1 and a half years now, and I "game" all the time. Well of course I don't cheat on my girlfriend, but I don't stop teasing and being this cocky sexual guy around women simply because I can't. It's already a part of me. If I see a cute cashier or shop assistant in the bookstore I will surely make them blush to make their day, there's nothing wrong with this.

In your other thread, you mention there are so many targets that you say "Hi" to. Now I don't care whether you say Hi, or Fuck You to them, but you really shouldn't game all of these women. The reason is that this is a workplace, a social circle, and that means if you fuck up, bad reputation follows and your chances will be ruined with every women of the social circle.

Choose one target from this social circle, and game other women on the side from other social circles, or cold approach.

As for how to proceed, I wouldn't force it too much. Try keeping a fun vibe with her and asking her out once more, but not like this... You didn't really give her a chance. Maybe she was indeed busy. Suggest multiple possibilities when you are free, and if she declines, then you can take that as a no, and just move on...

Peace,

In$tinct

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Good advice from In$tinct! I have some experience of "office game" myself that I can share with you. At your working place you should indeed only choose one girl as your target to avoid bad reputation.

There is nothing wrong to show her interest as long as you give her space. In fact, you have to show her interest to avoid being ambiguous. Ambiguity can be really bad for you, so make sure that you are "clear in your intent" to use one of RSD's terms. No need to play cool and distant. That will only make her think "so this is how you want to play it? ok, fine with me", and she will loose interest and walk away.

About your insecurity when all these naturals hit on her... Learn to see the difference between real interest from her part, and when she is just being polite. Politeness can look like interest, but is usually just a facade. Since she came over to you when everyone else has gone home, I would guess you have something going on there.

In general, and especially if you want to "game" other girls too, you need to play it within the limits of what is socially acceptable. You just need to be an awesome guy that everyone likes. The trick is to show friendly interest in everyone (even dudes, and nothing sexual), asking them about their personal lives and make sure to talk more about them than about yourself, using kino in an appropriate (friendly) way, and just be a positive and happy guy who will charm the ass of them all. If you succeed with this, you will have the best kind of game there is, and the girls will approach you and ask you out instead.

Good points at hugge. Even if girls won't ask you out in the end, you will have a much better chance if you're the "life" of the social circle. High status in a closed community environment(such as a workplace) is golden.

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Thanks guys!

That is some really solid suggestions out there. I also gather that being high status at workplace is kind of a long term goal. Will aim for it by year end.

I am now thinking of asking her out for coffee one more time, in a playful fun vibe, as suggested by InStinct, and am thinking of running comfort routine like 5 questions game by style or cube at that point of time.

Let me know what you guys think.

Thanks again for your replies!

Do you like those routines? Do you think they are matching your personality? I recommend you not run routines that are "supposed to work" just because you read that in a book. It's okay to have a few routines in case you run out of things to say, that can happen with anyone, especially when you're only a beginner, but it's very important that you enjoy those routines and feel that they are real to you. Otherwise girls will pick on the negative emotions you project with your body language and you will come off as incongruent. Make an effort to have as few scripted things in your game as it is possible, because later when you get into relationships with the girls it will be awkward when you no longer have routines.

Peace,

In$tinct

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