Hey, hope this post in in the right section of the forum.

My main problem is, that I have no idea how to tackle this situation. I have developed feelings for a friend of mine. We have been out for dinner twice and last friday after dinner we went to a party where we ended up kissing and I woke up in her bed, no sex. She says "its just fun" all night long, and I have been playing along. She sends me IOI's, or atleast thats how I see it. Like grabbing my butt, touching my stomach, tell me how nice my parfume smells, how cool my leather jacket is, let me play with her butt, tells me not to stop cuddling her and more. I have not made any obvious moves, other than kiss her, instead I have just been having fun and made sure she had fun with me.

My challenge is, how do I get to see her again without being to obvious that I like her? I would like to play this game casually without stating my feelings for her to early, but Im not sure what my next step should be. Im going to show her my campus' bar in two weeks, but it feels so long and I think it would be good to break our habit from only seeing each other when we have party plans.

Any advices would be lovely

Firstly - Don't tell her how you feel. Just don't.

Show her. Use actions and not words - you'll just make it weird if you profess your love for her.

If you want to see her outside of a party SPAM - just ask her to do something. Don't overcomplicate it with all this crap about being obvious and playing mind games.

Call her... say:

"Fuck I'm bored. Want to grab a bite?"

Got it, no mind games and no telling about my feelings for her. Haven't done any yet and I wanted to "play" this as cool as possible.
I texted her if she wanted to grab a bite tonight, about 5 hours later, she texted me she were so busy and and group work after her lectures so she couldn't make it.

The last couple of times when I tried to make plans with her she allways suggested a new day for us to see each other. Were I to obvious? It's still only 3 days since we kissed. And what should my approach be now, just wait a little week and ask her again?

No, you can't just ask her out on a day/night, find out she already has plans and pretend you've been shut down. If she's not free then ask when she's free.

Well, the day I asked her out she declined, but later that day she said she were available for dinner around 20. But I had allready made other plans with some friends so I had to say no.
I have tried to figure out when she were available through some small texting messages, I found one night but she declined due to being to stressed with school. I changed a bit strategy, so instead of trying to figure out when she were available I just kept texting her with several days between. She usually answer with way longer text messages that what I write.

My question is, how to I go from here? She said she were busy with schools due to exams and really didnt wanna make more plans, she said she would find some days she would be available, but she never did. She just kept small talking over text with me.

I respect she have a busy time(law school) but Im not sure how to approach this. I would like to keep our calm cocky flirt going, but im not sure if this is the right to do due to her 1 month long exam period.

Thought are as allways welcomed

"It's just fun." Is her taking up the guy approach to this situation. She likes you(Obviously) and is padding it by giving you and her an excuse in the form of "It's just a bit of fun." so she doesn't have to feel like she's being too serious.

Just roll with it, keep up the "It's just fun" and progress from there. Don't go all in just let whatever relationship it is you have form naturally. If you want to see her just say "Hey, lets hang out." It's that simple. If she has a problem with it and says some crap like "this is awkward" or whatever just be passive about it: "That's cool. I don't think it is but I don't want that to get in the way of us hanging out." Simple shit like that. No confrontation, no pressure and puts the ball in her court which will end with her hanging out with you and shit happening.

Thanks man, sounds awesome. I will try to keep this in mind
But she is very busy with school and she sound pretty stressed about it, which means not that much spare time. I guess the difficult part for me is to keep her attracted with out coming out as needy. But guess Im going to keep the playfull tone and just have fun and keep busy with all the other things in my life

If she's stressed she's going to want an outlet which is good. Be flirty with her and have her hang out, even suggest she come to yours for some pizza and drinks or whatever. Just throwing an invite out there for a fun, carefree night isn't being needy. Repeatedly asking a chick to head out with you and messaging her 24/7 is needy. A lot of people i've come to realise believe giving any amount of attention or invitation to a woman is "needy" when it's not. What does it say if you invite someone out? It says "Lets hang out." It doesn't have to mean anything more. Your reaction to her reaction dictates whether or not it's needy. If she says "Sounds like fun lets do it." and you passively reply with "Cool. Come to mine at X. I'm going to jump in the shower/get some food/have a wank/whatever" it's not being needy. If you reply with "Great, can't wait! I'm looking forward to it so much, blah blah blah" then it's needy: You're showing far too much interest and investment in her. If she says she can't and you ask 101 questions about it that's showing too much interest which comes across as needy for a chick you've only kissed. If you just drop it and say "That's cool, i'll catch you another time " it's not needy.

If she's studying and stressed just offer her a stress free break. If she bites then happy days. If she doesn't then don't take it so personally, she is busy after all and probably serious about study.

Awesome advices man, thank you

Texted a bit with her today and told her we should find a day to grab a bite and get our minds off the exams, when we have time.
She replied enthusiastic that we should, but she needed to get an overview of her school and work plans. She asked why i were busy and we texted a bit more.

Guess im gonna lay a bit low now. I stated my intensions and now i dont feel like mentioning us grabbing some food anymore due to risk of becoming needy. How do you guys think this approach will work?

Saw on facebook that she were out having dinner with one of her female friends, so apparently she have some time for fun. Knowing that she have time off but doesnt ask me, mean that i should continue with the few messages og change approach? Im myself pretty busy and still f close a girl every weekend when i have time off to go party, but I have started to feel some guilt after the sex because I actually like this one girl, how to deal with this? And to make it a bit worse, i am tired of fucking the same kind pf party girls every weekend, any idea or other thread you guys know off how to deal with the empty feeling and how to spice one nights a bit up?

But back to the main topic, should i keep this distance until she asks me out or should i maybe ask her out indirect in a couple of weeks?

Just stop caring so much. You care way too much dude. first off you're upset she went out to dinner with her female friend and bothered that she didn't ask you. That's irrational on your part.

You need to step back and stop being so crazy about her. So what if you fuck a bunch of other women every weekend it only takes one chick to fuck you up if you let her get to you. So, either distance yourself and don't contact her for the better good on your part because she's got an effect over you or learn not to give so much of a damn and passively ask her out whenever, just carry on as you did before without feeling weird or analysing it. Once you analyse shit you start to over think it and people notice this. If you just take shit a day at a time without much care you'll be on autopilot.

Honestly, i'd suggest just ditching her. She isn't having a positive effect on you if you're thinking so much about her.

Sounds like you really like this girl and that you're not just looking to fuck her. From the sounds of it you've got no shortage of other women for that.

You need to play it cool for awhile. I can tell by your posts that you're pretty obsessed, and you're probably conveying that to her at the moment. Just hang back for a bit, regroup, and definitely don't incessantly keep asking her out!

We both have both finished our exams for this semester and we went out to eat and went for a couple of drinks after. It wasn,t quite as i exepted/hoped but we still had ton of fun.
But I have some trouble understanding her signals. First we are having the drinks in this bar which resembles a cozy living room with alot of pillows and only candles to light it up a bit, we have some light kino after she changed seats to sit in closer to me and share the part of the sofa with all the pillows. I tease her a bit and we have some light kino. She had complained about being tired the whole day so after two hours at the bar when i tell her we should head home(not together) she says she is so tired she could just sleep now and start closing her eyes and relax in the sofa, unfortunate due to her sitting spot and all the pillows there isnt really any chance for kino. After a moment they say the bar closes so we choose to head home again. When we are walking to the trainstation she says we should call one of our mutual friends, who live 5 hours away, and invite him over. We call this guy and talk with him on the phone with speaker for 30 minutes. After that we say goodbye and she ask me to hang out with her and a couple of foreign visitors comming to visit hear in 2 weeks and i told her she should see my apartment, got redocarated the apartment and she said we could cook dinner at my place one day.

Even though this night were alot of fun, im not quite sure which direction it went, i have a hard time thinking of what her actions meant, like the phonecall and her wanting to sleep. For a coupple of months ago she said i should meet some of her single friends, but when i asked last night she told me there were none available.

If anyone could bring some light to these signals i would very much appreciate it

I forgot to mention, she asked me about one of my snap chat pictures, which i had sent a week before. And just before we reached the trainstation she asked me how good she kissed that night. I didnt escalated on that due i couldnt read the signals, so i inded up just laughing a bit and told her that i would never tell her, with a cocky attitude.

Anyone got any thoughts on that night?

So, chick asked you how good a kisser she was and you didn't lead into it...? You should have just teased her and cut the c/f. Tease/flirt with her. When she says "Was I a good kisser" you say "I'm not too sure. Didn't get much to go by."