met this girl from daygam..i number closed..had 2 dates with her and yet even to kiss close but she keeps raving how awesome she thinks i am but she got the pic of guy who is a big time player as her profile pic and she keeps having a different picture of him..she insists they are just friends but is that normal and she keeps updating and posting on his wall? so players what do you think? i suspect she wants him and he doesn't want her so she keeps posting stuff about him with the hope he would return her affection and that she only using me to fulfill her emotional needs? i am overthinking? plus she is always eager to meet me and she says she dumped her boyfriend cause of me...so i am overthinking or my gut feeling is correct..plus i told her meb and very attractive females can't be friends..it is the ladder theory and i absolutely believe in that theory...

I agree in the ladder theory and am a big advocate of it.

I feel there is no right or wrong answer and there are probably shades of grey. Both scenarios are correct.

If he's pre-selected. She will want him. Just like she wants brad pitt in her. Obviously she wants that more but you get what I mean.

Just keep the game going. What is key and I know it may seem crazy but you have to keep gaming other girls. You have to keep showing her others want and desire you. Only when you have no girls (like me currently, will you relaise this).

Keep your push pull going. Make sure your not easy. That you are the prize. And all in all.

Be prepared to lose her. That will bring you closer. (Style said this or words to that affect).

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plus this chick has many guy friends it is so fucking weird...yeah probably i should just game other girls..

SHe likes you both. But she is emotionally extremely attracted by the other guy, the player. And since she knows he is a bad choice, she can't stop thinking of him. She knows that rationally you are the better one, that is why she keeps in touch with you. But she can't stop her feelings for the other guy.

Pretend Facebook doesn't exist and game her as normal.

If she doesn't kiss you on the next meet, then I would ditch her and let her contact and chase me (if she really thunks you're awesome)

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thanks brothers i will keep you updated..

As Pebble says make a move or ditch. Drinks at your place. Have condoms. Don't need to complicate this shit.

quick update: i texted her some 16 hours ago and she is yet to respond and i am sure she saw my messages and ignored them...i texted her" i find it strange that you wuld say you are interested in me and you keep yapping about other guys".then i sent another "you can have every guy's attention but i wont waste my energy on you "...she is yet to respond..

what girls say don't matter they are good gamers just let it go, its a common mistake, we start a mind game with girls and projecting fight, she already got that you will fight for her, and she lost interests.

matador my friend. This is classic afc behaviour.

This girl holds far too much value. You need a way to attract girls as nice and as hot as her. You need to up your game.

Firstly, if she is not responding then she is not worth your time.

Right now, if I was you, I would soft next her. And go after other girls. However a big part of me thinks a soft next will not work and that you have not got enough attraction, but only you can answer that.

I think you may have to give this one up. 3 messages in a row with no response is beyond needy!

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^^^

Perfectly said. I say that you quick with the texting, if she wants to text you then she will. Don't worry about that guy, go back to basics, put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself why is she chasing this guy? He probably doesn't give her attention, is chasing other girls, and doesn't give a fuck. Do the same, go out and do your thing, chase other women, do exciting things. When she asks what your doing or how you've been be short with enthusiasm. You've been going out all the time, crazy shit that happened on the weekend. Make it up, she doesn't need to know what your really doing. But don't get friend-zoned. The path you're walking right now is very close to it. So pull away from her, when she talks about him. Ignore her. Then start talking about something fun you just did or are doing. Tell her a made up situation with some girl you're with, for instance: "So this girl that I've been talking to for the last two weeks wants me to come over tonight, but I just don't know how I'm feeling about her, she is super hot, but we just clash, I'm too wild for her". Through her off guard, stop being an AFC.

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A woman can only use you to fulfill her emotional needs if you choose to be the subject of them. I can't drive your car unless you give me the keys to it.

So what you are doing with this post is whats hurting with you with the girl all round. You're pointing your finger at the girls and this guy and not yourself. A true man, a wise man would ask himself.. How did I allow myself to be placed into this position in the first place? And then how do I get out of it.

And the truth of the matter is.. She's only taking this large interest in this guy as opposed to taking it to you because you are interested in him as well. The fact that this bothers you in the slightest says to her that the guy has something you don't. And if you believe this guy has something you don't( which your post pretty much says)), why would she want you instead of wanting the guy that has something you don't?

And I know you probably aren't mentioning this to her directly, but women are 10x more intuitive than man. So if you think it; she feels it and will treat you accordingly.

I believe that answers your question.

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quick update: she replied and baffled by my last messages she said..she said she wants to meet up soon..will keep you updated..

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Just want to say that it's not as simple as this ^

We are all different and can probably point out a few things about ourselves any given guy does not have. The problem is the girl wont always know.