My body languge is much better, and I'm more aware, but I'm just not having any success, yet. Feels like I'm starting over, which I kinda am.

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The other day, I approached a staffer at my gym. I asked about her name, and proceeded to game her, talking a little about my family, as she'd talk a little about hers. That's establishing too much comfort too early, isn't it? I was using good body languge, I'd say, but there wasn't enough tension, was there?

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It sounds like you already have answered your questions.

Are you saying you went direct with her and started talking about family? For me that isn't exactly direct, i picture direct being you are telling her you are attracted to her and qualifying etc. Just because you approach directly doesn't make it a direct opener in my eyes, its about what you say. Body language should be the same in both cases.

Point taken; I guess I haven't been too direct, even if I'm becoming more so.

Yesterday, I approached her alone in her office. The situation was, I'd I'd earlier been talking to someone else near the desk, and she had been giving me a proximity alert. Taking that as a vote of confidence, I approached her just before I had to catch my bus, so I had a natural time restraint. <Complimenting how good she looked, ala direct. Then, I started talking about myself, whilst asking questions about her, whilst teasing, which worked pretty well. Said something that caused a big positive reaction, geting her to playfuly joke about throwing me out, but in the process omy reply, I made another positive comment about her looks, which led her to take more defensive body language. Shaken by her reaction, I decided to eject before stuck my foot in my mouth, anymore. I said I had to go, and shook hands. SHe had a strong grip, too; could have been an IOI, but I'm not sure.

Let's replay the situation: Were I going direct, how should I have played it? I did a direct opener, but I didn't do enough qualification, did I? Shoulda been open, qualify, while teasing intermittently, yes?

I guess I really don't know how to do a direct sarge; any good examples you could show?

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