Okay, so, I'm on POF... My profile is detailed but not a novel, nor a few sentences. I have four pics, three with a hat on and one without. (I'm thinning is why I point that out, so I'm not trying to hide it.) My openings are around 3 paragraphs, personalized in the second.
Now, in the last month I've received 3 messages back from 3 girls I like... Yet after that it fizzles out for seemingly no reason...
- First example; This response from a girl I sent a follow up to; "Hi Ethan! Well, your second message worked! How are you? Yes, I'm new to POF and not sure how I feel about it yet! Just giving it a try...!"
- My response; "Well I'm glad it did... And honestly, I'm trying to get over a cold that I hear everyone's been getting! Now I see you're a teacher so do you tend to catch what your kids in school may have? As for POF, yeah, it can be crazy, that's for sure!"
-- Second example; "Hi Matt, Thanks for the message. It was a refereshing change from, "Hey, what's uo? Wanna chat?"
I read through your profile, and checked out your pics. You seem like a great guy who is very ambitious, and close with his fam. Your niece is adorable btw. I can't believe you let people bury you in the snow like that.
As for POF, it's ok- nothing super exciting has happened as of yet. I was on over the summer and met someone and dated for a few months but it fizzled out. If anything, it is a great opprotunity to talk with someone you might have never met otherwise. Hope you are having a nice night."
-- Response; "Haha, yeah, I'm nothing but sympathetic to your plight from the unoriginal \ uninspired individuals you get messaging you. So thank you for the compliments and yes, my niece is more feisty than her older sister but they're both special kids... I take it you have a big family too, with your cousins alone I'd imagine your holidays are busy. As for the snow pic, oddly enough it wasn't even that cold!
And I couldn't agree more about the opportunity POF offers. Again I feel bad for women around here as with the range of messages you guys get you could probably write a novel, but that's what delete buttons are for! And yes, hope you're day is going well too..."
-- After that, this, and then nothing else to my responses; "I have four nieces and nephews - 2 of each. Cousins- not sure of the exact amount I think like 30 first cousins for both sides. Any big plans for the weekend?"
---Third example; "You seem nice and some similar traits I can relate to, not sure we'd be a great match however I don't like to assume too much in life, and I'm sociable so we can chit chat if you'd like
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---Response; "Yeah, good point... Especially when you're seeking out someone romantically, avoiding assumptions makes sense. But yes, talking is fine. I always smile when I read that women will get guys phone numbers or asked for their own before they even get to the 2nd message. So like I said above, you've got a great profile, and I can't imagine the novel you could write from your time here... You tell me!"
It all seems so positive at first and then I don't even get past their first response, MAYBE a second one, and that's it. So at the risk of boring you all, I'd really love to hear your thoughts or critiques.
CHAT