UPDATE: I randomly ran into her at the café where we first met today. We're both there quite often and I was there to kill half an hour before I was supposed to be at another place nearby. She was studying before she was going to start her shift, also in half an hour. During our last date she had told me that she had a shift this week, right before she was supposed to travel. I had told her I would stop by (that was before I had expressed my frustration with her) I thought it was tomorrow that she was working, otherwise I wouldn't even have gone to this café. I hope she doesn't think I was there to see her.

Anyway after getting a coffee I went and sat next to her. Didn't give her a kiss or anything. She seemed nervous and I asked her how she was doing. She said both good and bad. I asked why bad. She said something about her "stupid mind" so I told her to tell me about it. But just as I said that, a girlfriend of hers showed up. Someone I had not met before. She didn't seem very friendly towards me, but I greeted her in a friendly way. They immediately went out for a cigarette. She normally only smokes when she drinks (which she wasn't doing) and even so, I've managed to keep her from smoking every time we have been drinking together, except once at a party.

I continued sitting there, drinking my coffee and eventually they came back in. My girl saw me and went to the bar. Her girlfriend went back to our table and started shuffling with things in her bag. We didn't say anything to each other. I didn't feel like sucking up to her friend.

Then I decided to move. If she wasn't ready to talk and had made plans with her friend I thought it was best not to interrupt. I told my girl I was sitting upstairs if she wants to chat and that's when she told me she was starting her shift soon (up until now I didn't know she had a shift today). She told me to come and say bye to her before leaving.

As I was leaving I did come by her table again (approached from behind and put a hand on her shoulder. I made sure to tell her in a "small talk" kind of way that I thought she was working tomorrow. Then I told her to have a good trip and to call me when she gets back.

What you all think? I'll tell you what I think...

I have no idea what's gonna happen from here. I'm sure she will contact me when she gets back, but I don't know what she will say. I think I handled it well. And you know what else? I don't give that much of a fuck! Let me explain...

The old me would be worrying and stressing about this situation like a little bitch. I wouldn't have known how to handle it and would surely have fucked it up beautifully. But thanks to the painful experience my ex put me through I knew I had to evolve. Reading The Game, watching YouTube videos, reading more stuff, introspection, seeing what you guys write here in this forum... I still feel I'm far from where I want to be, but I've had more success with women in the last 7 months than I have in the last 7 years. And it's only uphill from here.

Right before I ran into this girl I've been writing about I had been talking to one of my colleagues at work -- a girl I'd really like to get to know better and to bang. I invited her for a beer sometime this week so she can help me with something and although it wasn't clear at all that I have ulterior motives, at least it's a start and I can focus on doing the right things when we meet up... I actually know what the right things are now. And after running into this girl I've been writing about, I randomly met another girl, who I've also invited for a drink. That means I have two potential dates in the near future.

The point is I'm not stressing about the girl I've been writing about. I've got options and it does wonders for my mental health! Despite running into her, the shady behavior, and everything still being unresolved I don't really care that much. I've had a great day! It was varied, I talked to a lot of people and had some unique experiences.

I hope this inspires you guys to keep at the game and also to remember to take care of yourself -- inner game is even more important! And thank you all for the help. Keep posting useful tips in here and in other threads.

If I have any more questions about as this particular situation develops, I will post more updates. Otherwise I will probably update anyway, for shits and giggles and anyone that might be curious.

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Ran into her at the café again. We were the only two in there (it was closed, but we are like VIP). I was sitting upstairs and she was downstairs, we just basically said hi and I asked her about her trip. Then she got a phone call and was on the phone for 30min - 1 hour. At least she was nice enough to make me coffee.

After the phone call she didn't say anything to me so I asked her why she was being so antisocial. She said it was because I was working and she was reading her book. So I ask her how she is doing and she tells me she is not doing so well. When I ask why, she takes a long time to answer and then says it's because she's behind with her studies. I ask her "you don't call me?" and she uses the excuse that she has been travelling (I know she's been back for at least four days, but fair enough, she is of course not obligated to call me). Finally I ask her "you don't have any ill feelings towards me, do you?" She says no and I ask her if she's sure and she confirms that she is sure. So I just say ok and nothing else.

I don't buy it. I'm sure there are things she is not telling me. Either she is sick of me or just wants to avoid seeing me or talking about this stuff until she is done with her thesis, which will be in a couple weeks. What do you guys think? I felt like if I tried anymore to get her to talk to me, I would be pressing too much and might even come off as needy. My goal was just to understand what's going on and let her know that I do care. Obviously I didn't achieve the first, but I think she got the latter.

There was a movie night planned at the café and more people started showing up. Eventually I came down and the movie started. I made sure to sit down first and on the only big couch (the other seats were for one person) to see if she would sit by me but she took one of the other seats.

After the movie I left pretty much immediately, said goodbye to everyone, hugged one of the girls, and then saw my girl who was behind the bar. I quickly showed her a painting I had made, which I had been carrying around. She asked me what it was about and I told her, then I said "see ya." Didn't even touch her at all. I just think it's totally weird and unnatural considering that we were going out for two months and making out all the time. I'm doing what I can to show her I'm open and still interested, but without throwing myself at her and coming off as desperate. Maybe she wanted to talk after the movie. I have no idea, but I figure I've been giving her plenty of chances. I'm not sticking around for some awkward "pretend to be acquaintances" bullshit. It should be clear to her where I stand and she's got my number.

I think it's a bit challenging trying to balance being "alpha" and at the same time showing her that I care, but that's what I've been trying to do. I think I'm doing ok with that though.

At the end of the day, this is a cool learning experience and I'm not too worried about it. The weather where I live has finally started getting nice and I have been going out and doing day game; it's so satisfying Old me wouldn't have anything else lined up and would be stressing over this and messing it up.

Let's see what happens with this one! Will continue to update this even if no one is reading.

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