No dude, relationships and gaming are totally different. The only thing you carry over to a relationship is your frame. You should have different values and expectations in a girlfriend as opposed to someone you just fuck.

You need to set the tone for a relationship so it can work for you. As a #1 rule when getting into a relationship you should state your interests, expectations and what you will and will not stand for in behaviour from your girlfriend. You tell her up front "This is what I want in a relationship" when it gets to that point. You give her the choice to stay with you under those terms or she can move on.

Trust me, i've had a lot of girlfriends and i've been with a lot of women. I know the difference between a relationship and gaming a girl and it is never the same. A woman can't respect you if you don't exercise control over your relationship and show little to no interest in what she does while in a relationship with you. Don't confuse what I say with being controlling or overly protective. You need common sense when you take "control" and have realistic understandings of what is "fair" behaviour and what is not. When she does wrong you punish her there and then. Don't dwell on it(nag) and keep going on, just one stern "Don't do it."

For example; a previous girlfriend I had was sweet, very loyal and innocent. She wasn't very up to par with social interactions and how she should interact with others. I caught up with her one of the nights(after she was begging me to see her) and caught her hanging out of another couple, hugging, kissing them on the cheek and acting a tool. I exerted control, took her away from them, put on a stern face and told her she can't do that while with me. She was shocked, upset, confused and apologetic. She never did it again and we never had any problems. In doing this I immediately established dominance over the situation, stood my ground and proved to her that I wouldn't settle for such behaviour. Every man should be doing this otherwise they risk being walked over and being seen as weak and AFC.

Establish control early into your relationship early. Set the frame for the relationship and you won't have any problems. If you act like a chump, turn a blind eye to stupid shit they do they will only see you as weak. The thing you're forgetting is when you're gaming a girl you're still gauging each others interest and trying to fight for the attraction and attention of one another. Jealousy at this phase is a tool for determining a level of interest. At this point, as a man, you want to keep her guessing to ramp up her attraction levels towards you. When you're in a relationship you already know you're both attracted and do not need to play the jealousy card. If someone in a relationship does this they're acting inappropriately and being immature and it's up to you to correct that behaviour, not reward it.

Neo, he said these guys were staying over and one of the guys was in her bed topless, a picture of this was posted in the morning. This would suggest he was sleeping in her bed that night. What were they doing? Sharing it? What girl gives up her bed for a guy and what guy takes a bed over a chick unless he's going to be sharing it with her? He also didn't give the impression he knew them but his girlfriend knew them.

My impression of this isn't that it was a harmless party where they were just having a laugh but these guys were actually staying the night and one of them was sharing a bed with his girlfriend. If you're fine with a guy sharing a bed with your girlfriend then that's a different story but most guys won't be okay with that, least of all if the guy is sleeping naked or half naked beside her.

at this point i asked myself if you are stupid or you just read whatever part you desired, you like stick to some part and don't see whole picture, also might be my English not that good, oh well good luck with that.

UPDATE***

Thanks guys just been reading through. So here is what happened....

Her two friends were visiting over the week end (boys) as previously said, there was a photo randomly posted. I had text her that morning saying that I was confused.

She messaged me about 6 times all day, I didn't message back until last night saying that I had no phone signal and my internet had gone off. (Acting as though I was fine)

She then tells me that she was worried that I had seen a photo and got the wrong impression, etc... etc... I replied.... oh yeah I saw that, wasn't bothered tbh.... Was too busy at the event as it was really stressful.

At the time last night she had been messaging me saying how much she missed me, and wanted me there etc... so doubt she did anything with them as she was kinda emotional for me. Anyway, she starts going on about how shes in a loving mood...wants me there with her.... etc... etc... so i said, cheer up, you got your friends over.. and she said, yeah its good but wish you were here with me etc...

Anyway, we are talking some more and she has another friend over last night (girl), and she said "The bed gets hot with us all in"

I replied, all of you? and she said yeah, and said how last night she had gone head to toes with the boys. So just casually said "Guess you wont mind me sharing a bed with a couple of half naked girl friends then?"

Her: Oh I didn't think how you would see that
Her: Are you mad with me?
Her:I'm sorry iv been a dick
Me: You can do what ever you want, but if i do anything like that you cant exactly hold it towards me
Her: I guess not, but i trust you so i guess it works two ways, if i can do it then you can
Her: I miss you etc..
Me: I'm going to bed night.
Her: Night
Her: you still didn't answer my question?
Me: what question?
Her: Do you trust me? I know you love me :p
Me: I don't not trust you
her: Night

I'm pretty sure it was an innocent event, she is young and these guys she had been with at school (bunch of nerds), but she did disrespect me, so I think I have punished her a bit here without playing any kinda of jealousy, She knows I can drop her at any time and get on with my life. Think that last part pissed her off cos i didnt say i trust her, just say i dont not trust her, wasnt sure what to think, but not texting her today unless she texts me.

UPDATE***

Thanks guys just been reading through. So here is what happened....

Her two friends were visiting over the week end (boys) as previously said, there was a photo randomly posted. I had text her that morning saying that I was confused.

She messaged me about 6 times all day, I didn't message back until last night saying that I had no phone signal and my internet had gone off. (Acting as though I was fine)

She then tells me that she was worried that I had seen a photo and got the wrong impression, etc... etc... I replied.... oh yeah I saw that, wasn't bothered tbh.... Was too busy at the event as it was really stressful.

At the time last night she had been messaging me saying how much she missed me, and wanted me there etc... so doubt she did anything with them as she was kinda emotional for me. Anyway, she starts going on about how shes in a loving mood...wants me there with her.... etc... etc... so i said, cheer up, you got your friends over.. and she said, yeah its good but wish you were here with me etc...

Anyway, we are talking some more and she has another friend over last night (girl), and she said "The bed gets hot with us all in"

I replied, all of you? and she said yeah, and said how last night she had gone head to toes with the boys. So just casually said "Guess you wont mind me sharing a bed with a couple of half naked girl friends then?"

Her: Oh I didn't think how you would see that
Her: Are you mad with me?
Her:I'm sorry iv been a dick
Me: You can do what ever you want, but if i do anything like that you cant exactly hold it towards me
Her: I guess not, but i trust you so i guess it works two ways, if i can do it then you can
Her: I miss you etc..
Me: I'm going to bed night.
Her: Night
Her: you still didn't answer my question?
Me: what question?
Her: Do you trust me? I know you love me :p
Me: I don't not trust you
her: Night

I'm pretty sure it was an innocent event, she is young and these guys she had been with at school (bunch of nerds), but she did disrespect me, so I think I have punished her a bit here without playing any kinda of jealousy, She knows I can drop her at any time and get on with my life. Think that last part pissed her off cos i didnt say i trust her, just say i dont not trust her, wasnt sure what to think, but not texting her today unless she texts me.

you did well, although better to show her how does it feels like, but its good now, you told her you can dump her anytime.

Are you fucking serious?

"You did well?" The fuck he did! He came across as a walkover. She even took charge of the situation in her last two messages: "I know you love me." and her ending the conversation and walking away from it. "Night."

OP, don't listen to shit like that. You handled that like a pussy, as Neo mentioned, who was trying to act "cool" and "alpha" when the only person being fooled was yourself.

Set her straight, put your foot down and control the situation, ensuring it never happens again. That or dump her ass. I would dump the chick if I was in your position. She's wearing the pants in your relationship. Normally I wouldn't place importance on who is "wearing the pants" and who isn't but I make an exception when the person who is is taking advantage of the other. This chick will continue to do this and all you're doing is reinforcing her behaviour. You need to work on conditioning this behaviour out of her.

Message her, come clean about how it's fucked up and tell her you're not okay with it. Just flat out say "It wasn't cool, I don't appreciate it and I don't want a girlfriend who acts like that." Don't add anything else, don't give her an ultimatum unless push comes to shove(She does it again despite you). You're merely making a statement of your expectations in a relationship in saying you don't want a girlfriend who does that, not giving an ultimatum. You're setting the tone and firmly placing your foot on the ground in regards to this.

If you don't stand up for yourself now you're only going to let this kind of stuff slide, becoming more and more miserable in your relationship. At that point you'll only have yourself to blame for letting things get out of hand.

Regarding with the mixed opinions above, it can be hard to fully analyse a situation. Will say that with regards to us, I have about 85:15 relationship control. Really bad i know, but her day evolves around me, i bearly think about her, she messages me 6:1.

She's been better today, think shes being careful and she knows not to fuck with me anymore.

Feel a bit bad about having so much power between us, but then again it is going well, her sharing a bed is a bit naieve of her, but i doubt she will be doing anything like it again. I think shes only now understanding the gravity within a relationship and learning that I can walk off at any point and I won't be as phased as her.

I'm genuinely confused. Relationship control but she slept with guys in her bed, not one but 2 nights? She knew she was being punished but still slept with guys in the bed?

Once could be a young naïve mistake. But if she knew you had a problem with it and she did it the second night, that's not control. Control would have been her not wanting you to be mad at her and sending pics of herself sleeping on the couch.

You punished her, she told you gnite...AND WENT BACK IN BED WITH THE GUYS. Sure, she may text you 100 times a day. She may send you flowers every day and cook 3 meals for you a day. But do you have "control." No, far from it. Is punishing her teach her anything? No, SHE SLEPT WITH THE GUYS THE NEXT NIGHT.

OP: Afraid to confront his girl and rather ignore her to punish her.
GF: Knows OP is pissed, says gnite and sleeps next to dudes again.

Who is afraid of losing the other person? Who is putting up with behavior they don't like. Actions speak louder than words. And if she was afraid of losing you as you are of her, she would have never risked it by doing the same shit the next night.

At the time last night she had been messaging me saying how much she missed me, and wanted me there etc... so doubt she did anything with them as she was kinda emotional for me.