I think all of you guys have some experience of this. In case you don't know what the term refers to exactly I think it's sufficient to say it's the one who got away, the one girl in your past no other girl compares.
It is not hard to imagine this is what happens to pretty much all of us, or has happened and I think there's a lot of guys here who are trying to improve their game precisely to get over their One-itis.
My question is: How many of you guys have met your one-itis after being introduced to the game and PUA-material? I know, it seems impossible since PUA's should enjoy an abundance of beautiful women and never break their heart over only one of them. Feel free to tell your story or input.
Here's mine. For the background info I need to tell that prior to being introduced to PUA-material I had just gotten off from a really long term relationship (~6 years) was an romantic AFC with women and grown up as a "gentleman" giving respect to women when they didn't deserve it and lifting them to the pedastal in my mind, also undeservedly. All in all I was a great sample of the modern feminist environment and what it does to a man, I think you all know the deal.
What happened was that from the moment I got into PUA I started to loose my respect towards women. I started to look down upon them, even despice some even though I still treated them with proper dignity. I've allways had a lot of female friends and have up to this date as well, but even their logics and actions now just started to annoy me. To me women all around started to seem more or less like small children, illogical spoiled brats as time passed by.
When I had opened my eyes and taken the pill, I saw it everywhere. The world had become a much more cruel place, Love really seemed to be only for the foolish. One girl after another, it was getting increasingly hard to even find something to respect in them and I felt no love. It was pretty much just pure physical attraction, I did feel lust.
Then it happened. I met her.
She was an exotic stranger from Hungary. At first sight she was not the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, but still a very pretty one. Once I took a closer look at her I realized there was just something in her essence, in her eyes. Curiosity and innocence like I've never seen before. Warmth and feminity with a great smile. She was a pure woman, romantic fools of other times would have described her with one word: "angel".
I felt the shivers running through my body.
Once I started to interact with her, there was no gaming. There was a connection straight from the beginning and I think we both felt it. We talked a lot but words really seemed irrelevant, although everything she had to say was just making me more intrigued. Started dating her and just by being herself she showed me there still exists women I can totally respect to, even look up and admire. As a person I think she was better than me. Kind, strong willed (not in a feminist stubborn way), empathetic and intelligent among the forementioned things and a whole bunch of other stuff as well.
And yes, sadly it had to end at some point like all good things have to. She had to return to her home country and things came to an end quickly after that. I think there is no chance of ever getting her to myself anymore. Most likely I won't even see her anymore.
Still at times I keep in contact of her even though I do realize it's propably not too good for me. Even PUA's are allowed to break the code at times aren't they?
All in all, I consider it to be just positive I fell in love with her. Feeling some romantic pain that time showed me there still exists women I can fall in love with. Even though they are rare, at least some still exist. Now I only hope she didn't ruin in it for me with all the other women out there. It will be hard to match her.
Nah, I think eventually it will happen again, at least the door is open now.
Thanks for XXXXXXXXX for returning my faith in women! And to all of you Hungarian men, I've visited your country and from what I can tell you guys should be really really thankful of all the great hungarian women. You lucky bastards!
CHAT