Hi everyone,

Just a brief intro I suppose, but I am completely new here. I'm currently 17 years old, living in Australia and I finished up high school at the end of last year (accelerated through a year during primary). I'm seeking help with how I can show interest in girls.

To elaborate a little more on both myself and my issue:

I came from an all boys high school and primary, which meant that I had little to pretty much no interaction with females as I grew up. I've yet to have a girlfriend or even kiss a girl at 17 years old, which I find a little worrying for a straight male in this age. I am confident enough in my social skills that I believe I can meet almost any random individual and befriend them without just agreeing to everything they say and becoming their "bitch". With as little bias as possible, I believe I have enough charisma to connect with people and get them to like me and try to befriend me better.

Unlike some other posts I have seen around, I don't have issues with talking to females (believe it or not) in the literal sense. I can approach females and speak to them without being too affected by how hot they are. My issue is more that I simply don't know HOW to show that I'm interested in a girl, or how to "make a move" on a girl so to say. I honestly don't think I have issues with the idea of making the first move. I am comfortable initiating conversation or other ideas with girls or just people in general. I am not too comfortable with the idea of rejection although it is not a major factor holding me back. People have always told me to just "go for it" or just "ask the girl out" but I have always been held back by the fact that I literally (in all senses) of the word, do not know how to do this. As I've mentioned in my background, I've rarely ever come into contact with women until university and I grew up in a somewhat sheltered and isolated manner so it is actually really new and strange to me how I can "make a move" on a girl I like.

This is my first post here, so excuse me if this is in the inappropriate forum. I am being extremely honest with as least bias as possible here. While I appreciate that criticism may be harsh and blunt, I'd really appreciate it if there were no flaming or nonconstructive comments. I am being really open and direct about personal stuff, which in itself is a little unfamiliar to me already (going to all boys schools for most of my life). I would really appreciate any and all guidance/criticism people can offer which add constructively.

First off, if you've meet made a move, you do have issues. Te reason it's not nerve racking talking to these girls is because the thought of doing anything more with them is so far outside of your realm if reality that it doesn't even seem possible, thus you don't get nervous. To make the move, have them in isolation where there aren't other eyes on you and get so clsoe to her while talkin that you are basically talking into her ear, she'll get familiar with you being so close to her and not be surprised whine you kiss her. There's a lot more details but it will just screw you up if you've never tried befor

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Thanks for replying!

I agree with the fact that I do have issues, which is why I'm seeking a little help on here. I don't think it was honestly in my control whether or not I am in this situation or not, but I feel that what matters now is that I'm seeking to resolve the issue.

I'm not too sure I agree 100% on the reason why I don't get nervous, but I also don't think that point is a crucial one I'll need to debate/defend either.

I honestly don't know if it's correlated to the fact that I've spent all of my time around other males, but I find the idea of isolation and just the entire concept of it very strange/awkward to me. For one, it's very rare for me to get someone on their own; secondly I feel creepy if I just start getting up in a girl's (or anyone's) personal space without some sort of context behind it.

Do you have any other tips/thoughts you could share?