This is a exchange I had with a girl through messaging on facebook. So basically i had met her earlier but I saw her at a bar this past weekend. We had a lot of fun, but I didnt escalate sexually fast enough so when i tried kissing her, it didnt work out. But I did funny stuff like say "i found a perfect guy for you!" and saved her from my sketchy guys. I proceeded to say that she now owed me drinks for what I did for her...and the facebook conversation is as follows:

Me: ill be waiting for those drinks you owe me

Her:I'm sorry, I'm not sure what you're talking about

1 day after her message- Me: Oh you know what I'm talking about. I know you would love nothing more than to buy me drinks and get me drunk so you could take advantage of me...and who introduced you to those two charming british blokes??

Her response a day after mine: okay, fine. I'm a little embarrassed that you've figured out EXACTLY what I was thinking.

Im not sure if shes being cold or flirty with me. What do you think shes thinking and how should i proceed from here? Thanks for the help

i think shes annoyed

its a bad sign that she didnt comply with your kiss close

also its dlv to chase her

i would move on to other targets and just be polite to her and forget her.

sorry i know its harsh dont take it personal just learn from it.

hang in there

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I'm not a pro, but I must agree with Skittlepimp on this, MOVE ON, this one appears that it is a dead lead.

I gotta agree with hobbit. Context is everything. With texting and emails its tough to tell sarcasm. She cold have just been negging you back. I try never to read too much into em.

hey guys thanks for the help so far...heres an update on what has happened. After a week of not talking I messaged her:

Me: i know you may not be into this whole craze called 'fun' so you will be relieved to know that I will be able to take some time out of my busy schedule to meet up with you later this week…that is if you repay me a drink

Her: We'll see. I have things to do too you know. When were you thinking?

Me: I'm going to be busy tonight and tomorrow, but lets get together on friday. Ill give you a call on friday to figure things out.

Her:I'm going to try to get theater tickets for Friday evening, so if that works out then I don't have time to meet on Friday. Maybe Saturday?

Now im not sure what I should respond. I feel like I should not accept her offer because a) she said maybe b) I should be the man and let her know that she needs to see me on my time and c) I dont want to accept and be like I dont have anything better to do on saturday.

What ideas do you guys have on this?

wow I screwed up big time. I ended up meeting with this girl tonight, after playing hard to get for like 2 weeks. I send her a txt saying "you should come along and entertain me, lets meet at 10"

So i met her there and everything was going great. I was telling great DHV stories. She seems a bit shy but the kinoing started to escalate eventually. Although she would let me hold her hands, touch her face and hair, she didnt sem to reciprocate as much bc ithought she was shy. All in all i MESSED UP! I acted like a total AFC and couldnt kiss close. I tried the first time, I mean our heads were touching while we talking. I went in but I didnt go all the way, she seemed to do a slight head turn away so I was turned off. I should have tried a freeze out, but I did a half assed job at that too.

I thought she was into me for some good reasons: 1) she came in saying she couldn't stay long, but we stayed until the bar closed at one am. 2) she said she had a migraine earlier, so staying out would probablyh not be someones first choice. 3) she said my text msg was mean, but why would she meet up if she thought I was mean?

Basically everything was set until I f*ked up and acted like a AFC. I feel like sh*t now bc I was so close. She asked me to walk her home, but I stupidly tried to kiss close again. She used an excuse like I wont kiss you until your nicer to me, other people are watching...blah blah. But...she had the chance to walk right into her place bc someone opened the door for her, but she opted to stand outside and talk with me for an additional 5 min, however awkward those 5 min may have been lol. I ran out of stuff to say bc I totally thought she would kiss me. Eventually I was like f*ck it, this isnt going anywhere and left.

I dont know what to do now bc I feel like crap. I think its pretty much over, but a part of me believes theres still a chance. I suck at this...what should I do?

It seems to me like you're not building comfort.

1. Walking her home increases comfort. Sometimes kissing can build comfort, but not in that situation.

2. She said she wouldn't kiss you until you were nicer. This is her saying she's not comfortable with you yet.

3. You were talking with her for 5 minutes and then you had enough of the conversation and left. Doing that...well, does not build comfort. It makes her think you had exactly one thing on your mind.

What should you do? Work on building comfort. You can try it with her again, or not, it doesn't really matter. It seems like she's already attracted to you and interested in you.

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