I have oneitis and have read for hours on the subject. I thought I would detail what I believe it to be.

My situation - I'd met a HB7 a couple of times before when we'd all been out as a group. I knew she was infatuated with me. I wasn't keen. But decided to hit it up as you do. So literally 2 months after last speaking to her. Send her a message. We meet up that night out. Group thing. Kiss close. Then we date mid week. F closed, but she got buyers remorse. Was really off. Met up with her again for a drink, she broke things off. I kissed closed her. We have been texting sporadically and meeting up occasionally over the past year. Only ever the occasional kiss close. The dynamic from the beginning where she was chasing me hard changed after the first month of us meeting to me now chasing her. She knows it, she said it. I have oneitis.

Now for my theory on oneitis. It is a strong feeling of attachment with an individual who does not reciprocate an equal or greater level of attachment. The emotions that a person with oneitis feels is fine if it is reciprocated.

Taking my example, after the f close, I thought we were past seduction phase, but really I was in attraction. The level of attachment I felt was at a different stage to her. One much further along.

Now we have the diagnosis, what is the cure?

I heard bang 10 chicks. I got 6/7 and realised that it wasn't helping. I didn't like these girls as much. Yes they were as hot (accept one), I didn't feel strongly enough about them. So it is not a numbers game.

I heard you should give it time. I have been and it feels little better. For me again this is not the answer.

The cure (I believe) is to replace that girl with another or preferably multiple girls. My aim is to feel those feelings with 3 other women. Now dependant on your standards this may not be easy but is possible.

It is important to note that oneitis is not the girl itself. It is the way you feel with that girl. Other girls can make you feel like that.

I also liken it to the abundance mentality with money. Your goal is to be rich, just like in the game your goal is to find happiness (whether that be from banging high value women, or finding an LTR). A business is a means to getting rich. Some are destined to fail. An ice cream parlour in Alaska won't fair to well. You wouldn't and shouldn't waste your time on the business. The same goes with the women. It is a lot harder to build attraction that is lost than it is to get another girl. So remember it is not the girl but the feeling you have with the girl that you want and this can be achieved with lots of other women.

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You have gotta want it, as bad as you wanna breath...

Then you'll be successful!

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This whole pickup thing is what got me over my oneitis.
Don't meet women for the sake of curing oneitis.

Meet tons of women to genuinely get to know them. There are tons out there who are better than your oneitis. Not in terms of attractiveness but in terms of personality.
I found that my cause of oneitis was because I was attracted and in love with this girl's personality and thought she was perfect.

She wasn't. Met new people, found out new traits in people that I actually liked that I have never thought of. Now my oneitis seems just like another person. All feelings lost.

It's easier said than done but when you meet new women, don't find different women to replace your oneitis. Do it just because you can.

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