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Thanks a lot man that's a great answer, just one thing.
if you've read the linked post, she already refused one time claiming she doesn't know me enough yet, so assuming this one is a yes even in this case? wont it put pressure on her so she will refuse again?
Of course it is still a "yes" ... she hasn't ran away from you. Is she still communicating with you or did she completely cut ties?
- The point is she is still there to give you an opportunity.
Now, assume its a "Yes" because she hasn't ran away. Then I said to find alternate angles to impose your agenda upon her. You said "she already refused one time claiming she doesn't know me enough yet" ... so you rationalize for her by saying.
"I understand how you feel that you don't know me enough yet (EMPATHY) .... That is the reason why I'm asking for us to hang out. So we can enjoy getting to know each other. If a movie is to much, then come quickly get a coffee at xyz cafe?"
This is the process if a girl resists:
1) Step back ... don't make a big deal out of it.
2) Statement of Empathy.
- Say that you understand how she feels.
* Can sometimes be difficult because you almost have to read a girl's mind. But in this case she said how she feels ... so address it by telling her you understand.
- Cause maybe a movie is to much of a big jump for her ... so do something smaller like a coffee date.
- Only through experience of dating lots of girls you'll understand all the possible patterns a girl can resists ... then you'll know how to find solutions for them.
3) Find solutions to her rationalizations.
* You see the girl is actually trying to help you with her rationalizations. She is telling you "This can happen under these prerequisite."
- This prerequisite is she needs to know you more (you have to provide more value)... You rationalize for her by saying this, "I understand you need to get to know me more. Then come join me for a quick coffee at xyz cafe. We'll just chat and enjoy getting to know each other."
- If a movie is to big of a jump ... then do something smaller.
- I said 'quick' ... the girl will rationalize ... "it will be a quick date."
- The girl will think ... "Oh he understands how I feel that we need to get to know each other more. He isn't an asshole."
REMEMBER:
1) The girl has not ran away ... she is still there communicating with you.
2) Let her know that you understand how she feels (empathy).
- The purpose of empathy is so you don't come out as an ass hole when you do the next step.
3) Find alternate solutions to her rationalizations.
- Baby step the compliance ... if she doesn't comply to LARGE jumps ... then do small jumps.
- Provide more value so she can comply to your Large requests.
- Value can be achieved by how much time you guys spend together.
"The difference for a girl to comply when you ask for her to give you a "Blow Job" to getting you a "drink from the refrigerator" is how much value you offer her."
Sincerely,
Donston