I been searching for the forum for maybe 3 days straight to find something that I can help me with this. So I decided to start a post

I am pretty insecure about my intelligence, because most the people I am attracted to are super smart and they want the same. I am pretty smart, not like IVY league smart like most my friends. Maybe this is where my insecurity comes from.

Some of them ask me, Would you consider yourself smart? Are you going to Business school? What your 5 year plan? A whole bunch of intelligence shit test to qualify me. Which I fail I think because I am insecure.

I just cant figure out a cocky funny response to these shit tests. Because I do feel super insecure, and when people start talking about like really intense math topics, orchestra experiences with my friends, or MBA joke terminology any random stuff. I do feel left out. Most my friends are super smart by the way.

I get alot of dates with smart girls but have a few good first dates....but the awkward stage between fooling around and f-close, is so super confusing because they are trying to qualify me, and I fail every time.

No Idea if this is a ramble or no. But I would like to have to be able to anwser these objections. This has already happened like 4x already in past 3 months,

Maybe I just need to date insecure dumb girls to make myself feel better, but I prefer not.

Dude, you just aren't confident. That's your problem, not your intelligence.

Buff up, work on being confident with where you are and what you're doing and don't deflect or look down on your own answers.

"What's your five year plan?" "My five year plan? Jesus, what kind of robot are you? I take life a day at a time and enjoy it." Yeah, you should have a general outline of what you want to do but being so anal as to have a five year plan? Here's what your plan should look like "Finish college -> Get a job -> Enjoy life." That's all you ever need to say. If anyone asks about "Five year plans" then just snub them and act like they're not worth your time because you know what? Life's too short to be talking about that shit with someone you've just met.

What age are you anyway? Still in college? You should be enjoying life and getting through college to get a good job, not worrying about five year plans and maths. Be obnoxious in these situations but more importantly be confident. If people are talking about boring conversations just ignore them and don't be afraid to let them know that THEY are boring YOU. Once you give off this impression people aren't going to be thinking "My gosh, this guy doesn't understand..." They'll be thinking "Shit, am I that boring?"

Completely agree. I guess I forgot to say, that I am older late 20s, I make around like 70k. Which is alright, but around 90% of my friends are making like 250k+. So I am pretty much the dead beat of the group. haha. But not really, my friends still think i am cool. But yea, its more the girls....i am having a tough time cracking.

I can slay girls, which I have done. But I guess I have confidence issues when I am dealing with higher calibre girls. I need to figure how to get my confidence back.

Man, I have never had a chick ask me how much I make. You must be making things boring or giving off the impression you want to marry a chick you're talking to. That's the only scenario I can think of where your income is actually brought up... Funny thing is i've fucked and dated rich women. Not many but i've fucked more than your average guy. Money never came into the equation and they seemed to want more than just a quick fuck.

Five year plan?

Waterfall models are doomed to fail due to the rapid nature of a globalized economy. Maybe in the 1950s five year plans worked because the pace of life was very slow back then. I take a more agile approach to life right now. I have a main objective and try to finish small chunks of tasks at 6 to 8 week cycles.

So, are you the legacy type?

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Could she be making an attempt at gold digging?

I don't see why a woman would be concerned about your financials unless she 1) is looking for a marriageable partner or 2) is looking for a gold mine.

I dont talk about income at all.

But interesting, I like the previous legacy quote Ill have that as a rebuttle.

This is what I read this as after reading through all this. Dude you make 70k, that's not peanuts especially in today's economy and who gives a shit how much money you make, that's not who you are, that's not why you laugh at certain jokes and not laugh at others, or why you like this type of music and not that, money has JACK SHIT to do with who you are. Never forget that.

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Of course, you don't. This girlie demographics is simply well educated and well read. They probably got drilled often with those management buzz words like 5 year plans, 7 habits of highly effective people, and so on.

To be better prepared for verbal exchanges with your girlie demographics, I highly recommend:

1. The Third Wave by Alvin Toffler
2. The Fifties by David Halberstam

Drizzle in a few readings on Tom Peters and you're good to go. MBA or masters degree chicks are some of the easiest lays and most open minded about sex if you can talk shop with them.

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I completely agree with everything you said. Thank you obi wan

Are you planning on going to business school? If so why and if not why?
What do you plan to do in 5 years?

Throw the "good" answers away and know yourself. If you're un ambitious be confident about that. You may not be what these women are looking for. If you have ambition talk about it. If you are a loser, answers to these questions will dlv you. If you're actually a man with goals and passion these boring questions will actually make you look awesome.

You can come up with smooth responses to these questions and get some pussy that will stay round till they get tired of you. Or you can stop and think about why you aren't confident with your life and future, decide if you should improve things FOR YOU and better your life.

What is your definition of a smart girl? I think there's multiple ways of determing one's "smartness". Are you just talking of very high IQ here? For me it sounds like you are dealing with some snobbish, elite gold diggers.
I'm sure there are lots of really smart girls outside of your common social circles as well, is it just that you yourself requite some social status with that intelligence?

If you're still keen on dating these same kind of chicks you mentioned, then remember they are still women. Normal women who'se attraction comes from the subconscious mind. Just the same as it is with everyone else.

Do you use online dating or what is your general way of making a date happen? For me it sounds like you are used to very formal dating, those things can often make things seem like you are in a job interview of some kind. I think you should do something to take control of the date and not the women control the frame.

How are your friends related to this? You don't go on dates with just the girl or you insist on dating girls from the same social circles?