I see most of the people here making topics and most of them are in high school. I'm 26 - to be fair i found high school fairly easy. I got laid, i dated, i was popular - it wasn't an issue.

Now i'm heading into my late 20s and i feel like i've lost that. I have almost zero self-confidence even though other people - often - comment on my high confidence level... Which doesn't seem to help me get girls, at all. But i look at myself in the mirror and I just see this ugly, flawed guy. Ultimately, I feel like i'm a pretty awesome guy if it wasn't for my looks.

What's holding me back is that i find girls seem to be quite superficial. And it's making me angry, and bitter. For the most part, i don't even like women as much as i used to. I used to just see women walking down the street and i'd be like "damn, i love how women always stand with their feet together" or some other random thing i love about women. Now i mostly find them stupid and kind of juvenile.

Here's the thing, though, i'm not at a total loss. I fuck 1 or 2 different women a year (multiple times, or lots) but i find for the most part women just aren't interested. I don't get looks walking down the street, i don't think i've ever had a woman open me, i hardly EVER get compliments at all. I feel like if i wasn't so ugly i'd be bedding fucking everybody. I have an awesome style, i dress well, i'm funny and witty... It's just my looks, man.

What the fuck is wrong with me?

First of all drowning in self pity isn't going to help your game. In fact you will keep acting needy and women find this super unattractive. The key is confidence not looks, I'm not a good looking guy yet when I talk to women they are interested. This is because I don't rely on looks I rely on game. Browse the site read books watch interviews and your game will improve. You need to understand that people who are fuck ugly are getting laid. You should be too. Adopt a mindset that let's you understand you are the prize and not them

Yeah I know. Thanks for the reply mate.

Things have picked up a LOT since i posted that. Couple of dates, couple of lays (some pretty fucked up stories). I AM a confident person... but that's my sticking point. I automatically see any girl i find attractive and even though i'm confident i switch to this useless needy person... I automatically give her the prize title. I don't know how to get into a mindset where I"M the prize NOT HER. Big sticking point for me. Any suggestions about how to beat it?

Awesome to hear man

If you keep reviewing her as the prize that could be an issue. I recommend looking at some of hypnotica and Cajun 's work as they are experts at this. You might want to try the technique where instead of thinking about what you want from her, you view her for who she is and find out what it is about her that you like, start connecting with her and the feeling becomes mutual. Hope this helps


Good luck

You get socially conditioned from all realms of society; parents, family, friends, school, media, etc.

Society wouldn't work if everyone was a king or a queen, it needs its pawns. So after you're fed the bullshit- meant to keep the status quo of the collective- you then do things to unknowingly sabotage yourself. Fortunately there is no need to worry, for this is just remnants of past programming.

To change, begin by shifting your beliefs and making yourself the BUYER rather than the SELLER when it comes to women. Recognize that they are human too and placing them above you is automatically demonstrating lower value (think of a homeless person begging for change). This is definitely not the place where you want to be.

To win you have to level the playing field, and that's what separates the winners from the losers (or in this case afc's).