After having a great convo with an HB I'm into.. She always goes cold the next day where it'll be very short replies and then she just doesn't reply.. She does this a lot where she engages but then falls off a cliff for the next convo and I'm not sure why... Same HB from my other post. Very hot and cold not sure how to deal with girls flaking in convos, whether it be email, Facebook, or text.

maybe just talk to her in person, and ask her for a cup of coffee?? instead of those texts that lead to nowhere...(she knows you are interested, but she also knows you are not confident enough to be direct and make a move)

I've already tried that she is very off and on with it. Maybe I haven't built up enough attraction at this point and need to work on that a little bit more.

Don't text her the next day? Leave some room for her imagination and message her with either something interesting or for a reason like meeting up.

I don't do text game. I keep it "natural" and only message a girl after i've built up interest in person. It's so much easier to keep them hooked via text after you've been the fun and interesting guy they've been talking to in person. When I do text I don't follow many of the rules most would tell you but I make sure i'm not clingy or come across as overly into them and tease/poke fun at them a lot(Push-pull). I make it clear I want to see them for at least going out to have fun and not be their texting buddies.

I actually prefer doing it your way when it comes to texting. It was better when I first met her and I think I will try to leave it for a while and see if I can meet up with her at the party. The only way I see myself fixing this is actually spending time with her. I'm getting tired of the whole texting thing!

You clearly know the answer. You don't have enough attraction. You clearly are more eager, not enough of a challenge and it's boring.

Texting is shit. Only text a girl when you are trying to link up with them. Only after you guys are banging regularly and she likes you can you be 'that guy'.

Soft next and wait until you see her in person, where you will need to build attraction.

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I disagree.

Texting too little shows a lack of interest on your part and only says one thing "I'd fuck you but that's all and i'm not prepared to spend time on you." This is very unattractive for women. The only time being unattentive and showing little interest works is if you have a woman hooked and craving your attention. You are not going to have that level of attraction or interest built up in a woman from one meeting unless you've k-closed her and set yourself aside as being one hell of a kisser or you've fucked her already. If you've already fucked her be unattentive and show little interest, this will have her guessing and generate spikes.

Text as you normally would but keep it flirty and fun if you haven't got a girl hooked already or invested in you to a degree(F-close). I feel this is where this advice falls flat; if it's given in the wrong context. If a chick isn't interested in you and you fail to generate attraction leaving her along and not being interested or bothered yourself isn't going to magically have her chasing you.

So in this case I would continue to initiate text conversations and be flirty/fun until I know she's hooked.... Even though she has said she's not interested in anything other than talking. Just that aspect frustrated me the most since she flirts and engages when I do. I try to ignore it and tell her I understand but she's claimed it twice and then she'll continue flirting etc.

GamesSN is right. If you have no attraction you can not 'push pull' a girl. This is a given and is common sense. However he is incorrect in his advice. Right now you have very low attraction. To get this girl you need to be viewed in a different light. The more you push/force it the further she will run. When you have played the game for a while you will see.

I highly recommend you cut this girl. Hard next even. Keep working on living life. And she will see through Facebook and insta that your a cool dude. Hopefully serendipitously you can see her in a venue where you can game girls around, get social proof and attract.

As mystery said the game is like a computer game. You've been defeated and have to start from level one.

You being funnier and funnier, texting her more and more will only push her away. What I am saying may sound strange until you actually do it. Perhaps it will take trial and error.

You can try GameSN approach. I predict you will carry on getting sporadic messages back. No doubt you will take this option, just like I have before until I learned.

The hardest thing to do is walk away but you have to be prepared to do that. Without that you will always be at her mercy and you will never set the right dynamic. We'll let me know how you get on with gamesSN advise.

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I am going to take your advice and next the girl. A hard next at that. I'm currently gaming a few other girls at the moment so I can keep myself occupied and what not, this one is just very confusing in general. Not worth the effort anymore. I think if we happen to cross paths later we will see but in the meantime I will be on to the next few.


I have just tried the BF destroyer technique for the maybe third time in my life, I wrote about it in another topic thread. I'm not sure if it went well because the last time I did it was years ago before my LTR. I'm still pretty rusty being newly single. I do think I'm starting to get the basics back and understood! I think for next time I won't forget this stuff. I guess staying fresh is almost a necessity.

I wasn't giving advice in regard to this, merely giving input into the workings of how a womans mind works and how you(OP) should be thinking about this.

I'm not sure but it seems like the logical thing to do. Just hard next and continue gaming other women... Hopefully she continues to check up on me and she'll take notice, thus putting me in the right frame..

In my opinion you're just giving her too much time and it's clear you're into her. As I said in my first post "Don't text her the next day? Leave some room for her imagination and message her with either something interesting or for a reason like meeting up." Be a bit of a challenge and, if you don't already, try organise to meet up with her in person for some drinks.

Okay, I'll leave some space and time there. I'll text her in a couple days when my schedule clears up with something interesting or closer to when I have plans to go out to drink and hopefully she'll tag along. She obviously knows I'm interested so you're right about that aspect, I can't tell if she is though. I tried texting her yesterday but she said she was too busy to talk cause she was overwheed with stress from all the school work she had. I just said don't be sorry and that was that. Seems like she doesn't want to speak since that's happened twice in a row...which is why I thought it would be best to next her.

If that's the case i'd just drop her. Next time you head out just send her a message asking if she wants to head out to the pub. If she says no or gives excuses let her come to you.