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| 3way | PostPosted: Sat Mar 29, 2014 1:07 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sat Mar 29, 2014 12:58 am Posts: 39 | | My girlfriend told me that she took huge risks to be with me. My response was me too. She asked me to tell her about my risks, "this is interesting". I changed the subject.
I later sent her a text saying, "I don't want to hear you talk about your risks to me again".
It really pissed me off. Grade A emotional manipulation. "I've sacrificed so much to be in this relationship." Bullshit, you are lucky to be in this fucking relationship little girl.
I don't want to be with a girl who thinks that I should be thankful for her being with me. Fuck that shit.
Any advice on how I should have approached this situation or what was going on here from a dynamic point of view?
How (or should) I explain to her why it is selfish of her to talk about the risks she took?
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| GamesSN | PostPosted: Sat Mar 29, 2014 1:24 am | |
Joined: Thu Nov 08, 2012 3:19 pm Posts: 1472 | | Dump her.
You can tell by the way you speak about her that the relationship is toxic.
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| 3way | PostPosted: Sat Mar 29, 2014 11:31 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sat Mar 29, 2014 12:58 am Posts: 39 | | My comments are fairly emotive so maybe come across stronger than they are. I can dump her any time, for now I would like advice on how to handle her remarks.
To the question "why?" how should I respond?
No matter what I say her this will be negative, it's disrespectful, it's childish etc.
A more honest answer would be, "In every relationship there are risks. I'm not responsible for your risks. Telling me you are taking risks is putting pressure on the relationship."
or would "I don't want to talk about it" be better? That's none communicative but really I just want her to accept that it wasn't acceptable for her to say that. I would not start talking risks to her.
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| Monsignor Crisanto | PostPosted: Sat Mar 29, 2014 1:52 pm | |
| Offline | | High Priest of Debauchery |  | Joined: Mon Mar 05, 2012 2:48 pm Posts: 3271 Location: Paradise Found | | That's girlie speake for: "I feel like I'm not being treated the way I like in this relationship."
It's trustworthy feedback on the girls-love-assholes frame. No need to get pissed off on this really. But if you're getting sensitive about nothing, just dump her and find another girl. Another option is to fix your inner game so girlie speake like this won't affect you emotionally in the future. _________________ Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate
Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:
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| AFCToTheMax | PostPosted: Tue Apr 01, 2014 12:54 pm | |
Joined: Tue Aug 14, 2012 2:42 pm Posts: 518 | | The only risk I could think of is getting hurt which is legit, that's the risk you take if you are in a relationship.
I would just ask her why?
You are overreacting this. However if someone say this to you there is clearly something they don't like. Better be open about it and try to find it out if you care about her.
If not, dump...
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