Yes, besides the awesome reference to the opening track of Metallica's legendary "Ride the Lightning", I am posing a serious question here...
Last week, a buddy of mine that I hadnt seen in a couple months asked to come over and hang out. He had no ride, sooooo he got this girl who he works with to pick him up and take him over here. This was my first time meeting her, and she was decently cute, but nothing worth going crazy over...
To make a long story short, there were times during this visit where I felt like I was being tooled by this friend of mine. Now trust me when I say that this dude is by NO means a ladies man, but at the same time, he is not often without a gf, even though most of his popularity faded with the rest of the preps/jocks' of high school.
This wasnt a specific occurrence either, as even through school he was like this too, one time even telling a girl who was in the process of giving her number to me not, (it was subtle, and I caught it with my eyes, but it made me smile that he recognized me as a threat!
Hell, he even admitted that to me in person the other night, lmao.
buttttt I don't hold him at fault, as we are all men. Nor am I trying to make a big deal out of this.
Which brings me to the meaning of this post... I already know of AMOGing, but if one was to feel it necessary, are there other ways of bringing to light the Beta qualities of another guy?
For example, (because the girl did seem kinda into him) would saying something like, "sooo tell me guys... is this official?..." while wagging my finger at both of them be good to use? I have known this dude for a while and I am almost certain he would crack under the pressure and say something to make him look beta, like deny that he finds her attractive, for example...
Again, I'm not into this girl, or anything like that, but in the future I would like to have some ammunition handy... AMOGing doesnt really work here, because the guy is a friend, and isnt coming off like a total douchebag to me, or like somebody who wants to start a fight.. Know what I'm getting at?
Not letting dumb things that are said bother you, is also a great way to react, and is of course an alpha characteristic, but if there are a few things that I'm missing out on I would love to know. Like a few good comebacks...
I know this post was kind of vague, but I hope you guys get what I'm trying to say here. I thought about beta qualities like neediness, insecurity, uncertainty, etc, and how I could use those things against a competitor, but as this post explains, I am desiring some assistance...
A couple of times I felt like he was tooling me....
We were talking about attraction, the human body, and preferences, and I described my ideal woman. When he realized that I usually only feel attracted to girls with dark features, (tan skin, brown eyes, dark hair) he was like, "Dude you're like a modern day Hitler" Of course then I had to point out that Hitler was for blonde hair and blues eyes, buttttttt that's a history lesson for another day...
Another time was when this girl noticed my guitar and asked me if I played, so I picked up my guitar and played some nice chords and melodic arpeggios, and then I started shredding. They both looked impressed, and then, walking right into this one, I started describing how this piece I wrote was in the key of F, and that I chose F because it's a very sweet and pretty sounding key, (I'm crazy about my music) and then he started laughing and was like "Oh man I love when you talk to me about music stuff... I dont know what the fuck you're saying, but it's funny..."
So yea, nothing to flip a shit about, and there were some other times things like this happened that night, and yep, it's definitely part of his personality, but in the future, knowing some ways to respond to someone who is trying to tool you would definitely be beneficial...
Any ideas welcome. Thanks guys.
-Shredder
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