I ran into a girl who I approached last week (probably a solid 9 or so she is super duper hot haha). Anyhow I was walking by her and almost didn’t recognize her but she remembered me instantly. We started talking a little bit and I wound up getting a picture with her but I forgot my phone at home today (felt naked all day btw weird). It started as me asking if it were strange if I asked a random stranger for a picture and she was like no. So I was just about to ask her if she wanted to take one with me but she beat me to it and asked me so I obliged. We took a picture and I told her I left my phone at home so she sent me the photo. Obviously now I have her number. Fastfoward a bit after some kino and boring conversation, I was asking her what she did for fun after class/at night. She was like I go out sometimes. So I asked her out and she was like where do you want to go. I totally b****ed out on confidence here on out in the convo. So for instance when she asked where are we going I said its up to you instead of telling her were going to get dinner then go for some coffee or something like that. She seemed interested in going out but from there on in the convo, things were getting pretty stale and I felt like I was boring her. Plus I used to always feel emotionally attached to women like I would want to instantly marry them but now I know better than to get emotionally invested early on. By the end of the convo she said she had to go gave me a hug and left. Anyhow, I just wanted to know what you guys think about me trying to use photo as a way to talk to her again and see if she is still on for that date. Is that the way to go or do you think that is sketchy? Also I am kind of nervous about going out with her b/c I don’t drive so I don’t know how I’m going to get around that. I felt like I kept boring her b/c I keep running out of things to say and she was on her phone from time to time. How do I get around this? Has anyone been in a situation like this before or has any tips?

here's what i do

to keep her enjoying the convo
1. i always have a couple funny stories that i memorized (all of which really happened to me but still)
2. i neg her alot, i might say something like "i can't believe you don't like _____ well i knew you were lame from the time i saw you" but remember when you neg always keep a smile on your face
3. be a little cocky, i once told a girl a funny story of how i went free running and a accidentally saved a women from falling out her window....i ended it with "but it was nothing im SPAM ofcourse"
4. just focus on her and makeing her laugh.....its 3 ways to a woman's heart sex, laughter, and confidence

now for your date
1. always pick the spot
2. pick a spot that you're happy with, you always want to be in control on the date, evenn if its just a date to the park or mall, you pick the route, you go to the stores you want to go to
3. make atleast a little physical contact......i stole this from Justin Wayne, but hold a girls hand, hug her, jst do stuff that'll make her feel comfortable with you....the more touching that she accepts and like during the date the more touching she'll want and love that night
4.think of a date as talking he into her pants...even if you REALLY REALLY like this girl, compliment some part of her body...say it as if you just can't help but hold it in...."im sorry i just had to say this but your curves look so amazing in that dress" or something like that....say it at the beginning of the date tho so you can put that image in her mind in the beginning
5. you can skip steps 3 and 4 if you want but make sure you just be your self around her....don't try to be something you aren't because if you act like a gangster but you're really like preppy kid and you end up falling in love with her then its your fault......this is just advice im giving you that you can think on...im not TELLING YOU to do it, just read it and say hmmm i might need to try that or

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I'm going to ponder on your tips and try to get a date with her in the meantime. Thanks for the insight!

GPUA

Hey fellas. I am a bit disappointed with how my game is turning out. I feel like since I started my program it is definitely easier to approach but not to the level where the fear is completely manageable. Now I have a new obstacle, mid-game. Over the past two days I talked to some cute girls. Each time it ended up the same way. I would open them, they would be intrigued. Either throw in a little kino and very small banter but then it always dies from there. When it dies I have this natural tendency (don’t ask me why) to ask if they have a boyfriend. I don’t know if that is for real or if I failed their s*** test and come off boring. My question is how do I stop being boring? I was given advice from someone recently to neg and have a few stories ready to go when this happens. It seems when it gets to this point, I start to slip up (lose eye contact, don’t escalate verbally ex. I’ll tell her shes beautiful in the beginning of the convo and by the end there is no sexual tension or desire in what I am saying to her, stop escalating by kino etc) Has anyone been in this situation before? What should I do and where should I go from here?

P.S. For any of those who have read my OP please let me know if given the situation I should call the girl from yesterday. I don't want it to be sketchy since she never formally gave me her number.

Just as a side note, I feel like I know a few useful tools for mid-game but I can't remember to implement them properly during the actual interaction because so much is going through my mind (what should I say now? what did she mean by that last comment? how is my eye contact and posture? Should I neg here? etc). How do I stop making this a chore and have fun with it?

facial expressions and body language speaks louder than words in some instances.....if your body shows confidence then she'll be interested, if you smile and make eye contact she'll stay interested.....if you feel the convo is getting boring then just ask for the number and leave, or ask her interesting questions such as "where did you get that ____ from" or "you have this weird vibe about you, do you go yoga" something stupid like that................DON'T FORCE ANYTHING IF YOU DON'T HAVE IT....it takes trial and error and sooner or later you'll realize what to do in certain situations and how to avoid being boring.........IF YOU THINK YOU'RE BORING THEN YOU'RE BORING.....IF YOU THINK YOU'RE FUNNY AND CHARISMATIC THEN MOST LIKELY YOU ARE

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I recognize myself in this. Sometimes I'm very introvert, have nothing to say (and couldn't care less about it) and find it hard to keep a conversation going. I'm out of state, for short. Other times I'm extrovert, extremely social, outgoing and funny. In state. Here is how I have learned to deal with this.

1. Learn conversational techniques. Be aware of so called hooks in the convo. These are things the girl mention but don't elaborate on. For instance, she says "yesterday I went to the mall with my friend". Some hooks here are "who is this friend?" and "what did you do at the mall?".

2. See it as a long term project to gain and maintain your social momentum. Keep talking to people all day long, all week long. As you do this you will notice how it becomes easier and easier to open sets and talk in general. Also notice how this momentum spills over to the next day, which means that one day's hard work pays off.

3. Release all pressure and performance anxciety you may have on yourself. Beautiful girls can be really boring, not contributing to the conversation at all (usually due to lack of skills), or just babbling about stuff you can't relate to. If you meet a boring girl, ask yourself why you even bother. Ditch her if she doesn't thrill you. Girls need to learn game too IMO. Being able to do this is key to get the right attitude in your game.

4. If you run out of things to say despite all the above, try to be present in the moment, mindful, and comment on things you see and hear. It can be fun to have a child's enthusiasm about things, like "look! and ice cream bar! I love ice cream, let's have some!", running towards it holding her hand.

5. Be self amused. Don't try to please the girl. Please yourself.

I hope this helps.