Hi, I'm NoMoreLuck, and I'm a struggling AFC. My name is NoMoreLuck because I don't want to depend on my luck anymore to even get a date, I want it in my control. For the past few weeks I've tried approaching girls in class, in the mall, only to get flaked on and rejected =/. I don't have very good self esteem...I'm also very jealous of how guys I notice get girls as if it was nothing while I have to do things like learn about it =/. I just like..I just want some women who like me in my life...I'm so freaking tired of just not getting that and I may have become a little needy because of it.

So yea, I guess in a way this is kind of an emotionally filled post for me...because this really matters to me. I want to one day have a family and some kids, but how can I do that/maintain it if I fail to even attract simple girls here and there?? I'm 23 years old in uni now, I already feel "old" for starting to learn this stuff after the golden teen age of 18. But I want this women drought in my life to stop. I really, really want to become an Alpha Male, in control of my life, not just with women. I'm so damn tired of coming home after school feeling unnoticed, unimportant...unwanted...

Please, to any mPUAs/Alpha Males reading this post, how can I get myself out of this hole I dug myself??

First of all to get started...stop being a bitch..no man i mean it. Stop with the unwanted, unimportant etc. shit. You were born with a reason- to enjoy life. Let me give you a life advice...one minute of sadness is spending 60 seconds of the time you coud be happy. You sound just like me when i broke up with my gf...but then i realized some shit...there shouldn't be anything to make u feel so bad that u think yku are worthless...a monkey learned to walk and take a shit on a toilet, a little sperm won a huge race against milions of other little fuckers so u can be the way you are today
If you are not going to believe in yourself who will? Learn that there is no failure, only a lesson.
For improving your cofidence...hit the gym-that shit works and its healthy(also make a nutrition plan-boosting your mood), read some motivational books

Well, what brings me down the most is how socially awkward I feel I am. I can't tell when a girl ever wants me because I feel it's impossible for that to happen. Throughout my life every single gf I've had has ended up always cheating on me, every.single.time. When *I* try and meet new girls, it's always as if they have a boyfriend...or too busy, or whatever...I just don't know what else to do...I'm scared of ending up alone and being laughed at about it =( (it's probably what'll happen anyway no matter how hard i try...)

I guess I can start going to a gym, any recommendations on motivational books?

I'm new to PUA, but I know a bit about motivation.

1. Definitely go to the gym. It's one of the best things you can do for yourself physically and mentally.
2. The diet has to go with it. I don't mean those lose 30 pounds in 10 days or whatever but the basic stuff your parents teach, eat your veggies and drink water.
3. Checklists. Probably the most over looked. And the most cheesy. But there is something magic about putting everything you need to do on a piece of paper, then scratching it off as its completed. You begin to feel a sense of accomplishment, and become way more productive.
4. A journal. Write all your shit out dude. It feels good to get it out, even if just to yourself as well as it's a great motivation to re-read them months later and see your improvement. Another key focus is at the end of each journal write down 5 things that were positive about your day. You'll find yourself naturally beginning to think more about the positive and less about the negative.

Hope you find at least one of my suggestions useful!

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What goes around comes around.
I'm sure you've heard it before, and it's still just as true.

Honestly... It's about having balls and making a move. If you're not in the race you can't win it. You have to take chances and being a guy seduction is all about putting yourself out there.

First lesson is to keep running this through your head "If I don't try I won't ever get her." Or "If you're not in it you can't win it." That's some motivating shit right there. It's straight up, no hand holding bullshit. It's the most truthful thing you will learn in life regarding anything.

Studying? If you don't study you won't pass. If you're not in it you can't win it.
That great job you want? If you don't go for it you won't get it. If you're not in it you can't win it.
That really cute chick across the room from you? If you don't say hi you won't have a chance with it. If you're not in it you can't win it.

See what i'm getting at here? By not taking risks you stand no chance of gaining anything.

Next time you like a girl, maybe she's a friend of a friend, maybe she's some random girl... It's all the same except for the approach/opener. You just have to pick up your balls tell her she's cute, ask for her number or tell her to give you a kiss and then bring her back to yours. It's as simple as that.

"Hey, you're cute. Let's talk." shoot the shit then speak these magic words "Come here... Give me a kiss."

That's literally the gist of it. The bits in between are body language, learning how to approach without being a creep(Which is 90% confidence), being funny and interesting and not being afraid to touch a woman.

Get rid of that kind of thoughts...impossible to happen...nothing is impossible (almost nothing) just sort out your thinking and it's going to improve your game massively.
Well, that means you are in no hury to be in a relationship before jumping into one, change your attitude to yourself. Oh and yeah, stop putting women on pedestals, that's been said like 1000 times on this forum
Believe me, many guys here were like just like you...but they've changed. So stop making things complicated for yourself and start working!
Yeah sure...The art of happiness, The power of positive thinking, The social animal, The miracle of mindfulness, The four agreements,...
Read some PUA material aswell...Dobule your dating, The badboy lifestyle,...

this post made me feel so good. i feel like i am also turning into an arc because one girl i dated changed how i portrayed myself. lets do this.

And that point about writing your shit down is the magic trick. once you start writing it down u will automatically start following it before you even realize it. thats the first step toward success