Hello everybody!

I would like to start by saying that I am new to this : The Game. In fact I just bought the book called The Game - By Neil Strauss and read a few pages and planning to finish it soon.

Meanwhile, there is this hot girl who lives in the same building, she's older than me and single (i'm 19 and I think she's 22) and I can tell she is attracted to me and I am as well attracted to her. She keeps staring at me sometimes and I stare back but I try to hide my attraction (Maybe that's why I've never had a girlfriend) and whenever we walk past each other the conversation starts and ends by "Hi there!".

I live with a room mate (a guy) and my appartment is on the first floor (She's in the same building) and she knows where I live.

Yesterday, She knocked at my door, I answered, when I saw her I tried not to look surprised. I asked her how she's doing she replied "I am fine thank you" and handed me something and asked me to keep it in my fridge because the power is out in her appartment. I took it and replied "Okay that wouldn't be a problem". She said Thank you and walked away.

I know for a fact that she could have asked a lot of neighbors (her friends) but she insisted on asking me for the favor. She has been in this neighborhood longer than me and she knows more people anyone could have helped her.

Anyway I feel like this my biggest shot at getting to know her and maybe being with her. The problem is I don't know what to say when she comes back for her food. I definitly don't want to say the wrong things or look desperate!

So I came here to get some advice. Thank you all in advance!

Invite her in for a meal or drink.
Or have something interesting to show her or require an opinion on.

You pretty much got it right. She came to you for a reason. That was your apporach invitation. But don't sweat the first failure, she's coming back. Matter fact, call her up and just invite her over to hang out. You know since she has no power, you thought she'd be pretty bored.

Your putting too much pressure on yourself. Get comfortable, don't hide your attraction, she surely isnt hiding hers

I personally think she just wanted an excuse to see you. When she comes for her stuff, tell her she cannot enter without knowing the secret password and then tell her it's $5 bucks a day to house the food plus tax. Or tell her she can just make it up by spending 30 minutes with you.

There is no need to repeat canned counterfeit jokes. If you're not the funny guy, you don't have to be the funny guy. She's not going to fuck your joke.

Get her number. If you have it, invite her over for a movie. Get to know her. When you find attractive qualities about her that you can pinpoint, let her know what they are and what their affect is on you. Gauge her. Then engage her.

See how she reacts to your attraction. If she is at least neutral to it you can escalate.

Keep the heat down. She'll get cold. You'll get a blanket. SHARE THE BLANKET. This is a good time to get your feed up on the couch and get some physical contact. That is an even better time to get UNCOMFORTABLE, so you can get more comfortable together by cuddling. Once you're there, you can go full on GABAPYCO.

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Get her number. Suggest for a hang out some place near by

Best would be a BAR. Get drinks. talk and then take her home / go to her house

skip the whole number close. she's your neighbor!! what you need a number for when you can just simply knock on each other's door. the above advice is pretty much all you need..i think your not confident enough for the number close and it'll show in your body language..just stop trying to follow pua routines. be natural dont worry about the number. build rapport through convo

Hello again.

So to keep you updated, the girl came back for her things. Only this time she seemed to be in a rush and like "Hello, can I have my things ?" and as soon as I gave her her stuff she was she was walking away. I had to say something so I said "No need to shout next time! I put it in the freezer " she turned back smiling and said "thanks for the favor" and then took the stairs to her appartment. When she knocked at my door the very first time, she came back after a few seconds and asked if I put the plastic box in the fridge or in the freezer and the then shouted "put it in the freezer" in a playful way I liked the way she said it actually.

I think I still have chance with her. And I think maybe next time I run into her I'll say : " I thought of your little problem, you know what you should do? Buy that fridge that comes with a large battery , when the power is out the fridge stays on for many days and I heard they're cheap it won't cost you more than 5000 dollars."(its not cheap) This product probably doesn't exist but I think this would be a good conversation starter.

Do you think it will work??

Agreed that you don't need her #.

The reason she quickly ran away upon coming back is potentially because she didn't want to give a sign that she had any interest since it hasn't yet been reciprocated - women are terribly afraid of rejection and it probably took a LOT for her to even do the thing with the food.

I think it plays to your advantage that you didn't take the initial opportunity to engage her.

Your hiding of your attraction sounds a lot like I was when I was your age.

Here's what I would have told myself if I knew than what I now know:

The $5000 fridge thing is basically telegraphing to her "DON'T BOTHER ME if you ever have anything else come up."

Rather have HER return the favor: So some weeknight in the very early evening just knock on her door OR if you happen to run into her, say in a playful manner (speaking as smooth yet natural as you can) "hey we never talked about how you're gonna pay me back, i don't hold things in my fridge for FREE you know."

She will possibly playfully say "oh really".

You can say "yeah, daily service charge" or whatever. From there take it wherever you want. "You need to come with me to X" or "I'm going to be doing X and you have to tag along" or she has to be the 'food tester' because you're trying to figure out how to make some dish or whatever.

The shitting where you eat thing applies here: Remember you are going to be seeing this girl all the time around the apartment grounds etc. so if it "doesn't work out" between the two of you you'll have to deal with that; then again you or her may move so this may not be that big of a deal.

Have fun.

Thank you Oceanx for your response it gave me lots of perspective especialy the first paragraph where you explained why she was distant when she came back. I already see things in a better way now!