I read that if I focus too much on getting a girlfriend, then I will lose focus on other things that are reasonably more important in my life; education, career goals, life goals, passions etc. Plus, it can also lessen the chances of getting one. This is becoming fairly true in my perspective, thus I am 50/50 about it.

What do you think about it?

It's true to an extent. When before I got with my ex game took over my life, all I could think about was trying to get a girlfriend and it made me a bad person really, (neglecting friends/family, anger problems when I didn't have a 'successful' night out, college work started slipping). Since splitting with my ex a couple months ago, my new perspective is that of, improve the other areas of life, and suddenly getting a girlfriend or fuck buddies or whatever, isn't so important; it's a bonus. I think this is a much healthier perspective as it means that pickup doesn't get to rule you; by all means go out and game as much as possible, but always be clear in your mind about what's REALLY important in life.

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Well you just have to start by realizing that no woman wants to be number one in her boyfriends life. All women want a man that is going to be true to a sense of purpose inside of him. However big or small. She wants to know that he has a pillage to something higher than her, because if not how can she follow him? If she is number one, she is leading him throughout life.

So what I'm saying is by establishing something in your life that is more important to you than women first you'll be giving off that " I have purpose" energy when you are communicating with women. And thats the most attractive quality a man can have.

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What do you mean by "pillage"?

Very reasonable, but often, when I lose focus, then I will end up losing motivation. It has occurred a few times when it comes to thinking about pick-up and actually going out there to attempt it. Maybe I should just do this pick-up and approaching as second nature, as fun and sort of a hobby?