I've been going Out a lot since starting uni, clubbing to bars, parties and hooking up with girls and making many new girl friends. I've also made plenty of lady friends in my tutorial classes. So I have a lot of numbers and new friends but haven't really pushed past this.

Last week a new girl was in my class that wasn't there before, blonde and gorgeous, so I doubled back after class and starting chatting with her. We talked for about 15 mins and I found out some basic info about her., like her coming from another state, moved unis, likes the beach etc.... Along with a but of banter about how she plays rock paper scissors.

Pretty much the same thing happened today in the class, had a brief chat about what we did on the weekend and the state of her apartment searching and yeah. Anyway we organised with this small Chinese boy to meet up in a couple of days to do some study together, so I got her number and we have that day set for a study get together.

I've tried to hold strong eye contact and even use a small amount of Kino but I seem to forget everything when I chat to her (in a game sense) and just start asking her things...so I really need some help. Also she is a couple of years older than me according to Facebook but we haven't discussed ages.

I really really really want to date this girl because she is funny, smart and beautiful and just my type, what should I do from here to get her interested and date her, starting with the study session in a few days. I need a solid approach that will help me get her falling for me. (quick facts on me, 6"1' solid athletic build, brown hair, drummer in a rock band, scholarship student, generally funny and easy to chat with girls, but not many past girlfriends and poor conversions)

Thanks guys for your help!!

Be a fun, entertaining, good-looking guy who makes her laugh... She needs to believe your life is an amazing adventure which she just HAS to be a part of.

Touch her. Touch her lots (provided she doesn't recoil or isn't visibly annoyed when you try)... Innocent stuff... touch her arm or her hand as frequently as possible or put your hand on the small of her back when you lean in to speak with her.

The goal here is to identify yourself as a sexual option and not a friend. You want to convey your interest in her through your actions and see if she reciprocates and/or isn't put off by your advances. This means lots of eye contact, smiling, and touching (called kino, for beginners)

Once you've built that comfort and you're confident she's reciprocating, get her number and tell her to get a drink with you.

It's that easy.

Thanks tons for the advice CF!!

I was chatting with my manager who is 27 and amazing with the ladies and he said that most important thing was to make her laugh a lot but not seem like I'm trying, and also don't come of as needy or easy.
In regards to what you said I already have her number to contact her for study tomorrow, but my mate said not too organise any drinks/get together just yet because it could be too forward and may e just wait and gauge her interest.

Mainly from advice, I need to be funny and entertaining, use Kino by touching her arms/hands etc, and basically smash the eye contact, smiles and kino.

What IOIs should I be looking for? And what's some easy ways to make a girl laugh in a one on one or small group setting??

Hey man,

Breathe and just come back into yourself for a moment. You're currently giving a stream of energy away to someone who hasn't even opened themselves up for it yet. Thats what causes the pushing of people away. We are only to give our energy when they are open to receiving it. That way we make a home in them as opposed to becoming overbearing.

Now let me say, that it is through forgetting to apply some of the concepts we learn in life in NEEDED situations that we remember in the future. You're slight "regret" for being forgetful at a time before is what will remind you to be conscious the next time you find yourself in a similar situation.

The thing a lot of men don't realize is that women only want to date the men that they feel are COOLER than they are. And if she has already slowed the slightest interest then she already feels that you are this. You just have to accept the position she is already giving you and things will go smoothly.

When you develop this understanding, things like IOI's kino etc. will go out the window. Because you will be operating according to role you've already accepted.

Think about when you have a conversation with your best friend.. At no point are you thinking about what you're going to say next or what you are currently saying. You guys are just hanging out and whatever comes out naturally just comes out and it works. Things are just flowing. Your plane is on auto pilot. So what makes this girl someone who would make you switch your plane to manual drive? Surely she isn't as cool as your best friend, and surely she hasn't invested as much in you as he or she has.

Energy follows thought man. Get things in perspective and the rest will bend toward your will.

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Wow I never thought about it that way, now I'm not sure if Kino and stuff is the way to go, rather then having her at an arms length and basically living life on a cooler wavelength/ in a more awesome way which will make her want this and come on to me more.

It's just hard to follow all the info and work out what to do because if not dated so
Much in the past mainly just hookup one of at parties and stuff.

Need to just play it cool and not fuck things up with her I guess.

We're meeting today for study at uni with another guy and then I'll see her at the start of next week in our tutorial, when should I put forward a hang out/date like showing her to a few cool bars near work after a work meeting...remember she's new to the state only a couple of weeks