Hi guys, I am really thinking its time to break up with my girlfriend. I really want to be trusting but she has given me reason from the begening to not trust her.

First of all she is a singer and has more guy friends then girl friends.

Second we met on a dating website and she was on often even though she said she had no time to do anything.

I tried to ignore all that shit and think okay maybe she doesn't trust me yet and to give her time... so now she has been officially my girlfriend since last valentines day feb. 14, 2014. So its been over a month now and we dated for about 2 months before that.

I actually deleted my profile but then I saw she stil has hers up , so I put mine back up too, even though I am not looking, its more cause she has hers on their. Last time I asked her if shes been on the website and she denied it.

I told her don't lie to me I already know you have been on their and very recently and she actually talked to 1 of my friends on the site but she wouldn't give her number or meet up with him. but still she talked to him wtf is that about ? so that means she is still looking and interested in a better deal etc right ? and most likely talking to whoever she wants.

whats the best way to deal with this guys ? supposable we are both looking for a longterm relationship, marriage and all, I just feel I cant be with someone I cant trust. thanks!

I am in a slightly similar circumstance.

Your relationship with her still has the new car smell.

Trust is something built over time, not with words, but with actions.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I was touring with a very famous band about three years ago. Everyone in the band has slept with thousands of women. Someone was airing his relationship woes and the bassist said this...

"If it's not perfect in the first year, get the fuck out."

I'm not telling you what to do, but you've been dating this girl, what...around three months now? You shouldn't be questioning her loyalty; you guys should be talking about the smell of roses and feel-good bullshit and if you're not now, you never will.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

This is a gladiator arena, so in most cases I'd say they always shop around for more, at least subconsciously, to some degree.

I looked into some detailed privacy of my GF (yeah, I don't care), and I proved that to myself. When we met, and then started going out, she had two orbiters. One was a beta bartender, and I sensed he was a pathetic wuss with no status when she talked about him in messages, she started to call him a 'bff' with her girlfriends.

The other one was a prude slimebag who tried to approach her but talked and probably acted like a typical caveman, begging her to go out as soon as he found her online. She mentioned to her GF that he is too aggressive and prude, BUT - she still kept a convo with him shortly giving him false hopes, however I noticed she decided to get rid of him, however not only because she was about to go out with me, but because she claimed he doesn't give her "space", its "too sudden" (in translation, cold approach with no game, desparate vibe).

Bottom line, its not that I had a perfect game, but when she seeked me out online, I played it cooler than those two, and maybe she would rather fuck one of them(I think one looked better than me), who knows, but I won and got a relationship with her. If I wasn't there, I bet she would choose someone else quickly.

Now, I'm not the best option either, I found out that she was speaking to her gf back then that I am alright and such but "relatively short"(which I'm not, I'm average but much taller than her), I also found out that she drooled about stereotype before meeting me - tall, dark-haired, blue-eyed, sarcastic/humorous(alpha?), physically well built guy. Then later in RS, she would tell me that this is not important to women, obviously for the sake of pretty lies. There was a case where she was young and tried to chase some foreigner close to this image, but he didn't contact her back, and I believe that this is the reason why she spoke how such guys are selfish, and not good for commitment, that she'd rather pick a 'nice guy', than someone like that. Sometimes they realize they cannot have everyone, a bit of rejection pulls them into reality, but there will always be this ideal in their head, and second best options.

Therefore, I think personally that they are always shopping around, checking out, and hoping, its just they won't admit it in relationship, of course. What they really want will be spoken about in their private circles when they're single. But its not much realistic.

And what are you doing?

Everybody wonders about the greener grass and knows it's a matter of perspective. But when your own grass is yellow, things happen.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Yep she's trying to find a better deal or what she thinks is a better deal before she dumps you.Get rid of her.