Doesn't it seem a little wrong to not feel attachment



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PostPosted: Wed Mar 19, 2014 12:14 am 
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You know how we advise men to fuck other women if they get attached to that one girl, don't you think that is a little shallow...I have been doing pretty well in the relationship department but it's gotten to the point where I will try to make something work with a girl but if the girl decides to up and leave I don't have any plans to persist and follow her to change her mind. It's like a "Oh you're leaving, don't let the door hit your ass on the way out". It feels like freedom but seems a bit wrong at the same time. Like you never really were attached in the first place, as if you never really gave it that 100%. Holding back just to stay in control...I don't know, what is the message we send to guys telling them to fuck 10 other girls without providing reasonable reasons to do so.


It is all I have seen recently.

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PostPosted: Wed Mar 19, 2014 2:00 am 
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Always have a backup plan.
I don't follow the gftow rule.
But I do continue to have a backup.

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Always have a backup plan.
I don't follow the gftow rule.
But I do continue to have a backup.


That's what I mean...never fully sticking to plan A..always having that little doubt in the back of your head. Healthy or nah?

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PostPosted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 3:31 am 
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It's not about doubt, or even having a plan B. It's about realizing that no woman is truly that special, that human beings are not built to be monogamous, and that committing yourself to one person is just refusing to see the truth about our nature. If you do this out of fear, you're wrong. If you do this to embrace love for multiple women in various ways, you're on the right track.

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PostPosted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 1:21 pm 
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After some time, yes, it does get difficult to feel "attached".

I can quite like a girl, but actually feeling like I care? That's tough for me. Even if it's a great girl.


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Attachment will blind you. End of story. You should be ready to settle down in your own life before you settle down with someone else. Relationships put a stop to personal progress as in order to feed a relationship, you take food from yourself and accept food from the other. Sometimes that food is emotional stability. Sometimes that food is sex. You need to learn how to feed yourself so that you do not let someone else control how much you eat.


Attachment is blinding. If you do not follow GFTOW you are a fool. If the girl your with does not have 10 other options of men then the both of you are dependent on each other. If she has 10 other options of men then you are the dependent. If you both have 10 options you can see more clearly why they are the better option. You should clear out more than ten options before settling in on one of them. With every option you cycle through, you increase your chances of finding a better mate, as well as develop your ability to screen mates.

To the original poster- Your example was of girls leaving you. The whole point of GFTOW is having the ability to decide to leave a girl because you have 9 other options that are better or could be better.

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PostPosted: Wed Mar 26, 2014 3:24 am 
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In retrospect, I no longer follow the gftow rule, simply because there is no need. I have come to realize it just takes less in most instances. I don't have 10 options. My options are virtually endless. So are yours.

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I made a point to state exercisable options.

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