I met this HB9 a month ago. I used up all my game and got her as a LTR after 2 dates. But it all turned sour within a week, I did not treat her nice like what a boyfriend would gentlemanly do for his girlfriend. (Lack of after game material!) So she got pissed off and decided that I wasn't the type of guy she was looking for. Fair enough, we broke up.

Now I want her back, is there anyway to re-initiate attraction? Her best friend is feeding me alot of inside info and it's all negative. She's totally not attracted anymore and I'm seeing her this weekend with her best friend. Being the c & f me would definitely not work, she believes that I would never be able to change to become a nice person.

I treat this as a challenge; should I be the 'nice' guy?

A little side info: I asked her out on valentine's day together with her best friend and her best friend's boy friend. My target told the best friend that she doesn't want to go because it seems like a signal of acceptance for me. She hasn't gotten back to me because she doesn't dare to break the news.

In a word, NO.

I would move on. It's hard enough to regain attraction, especially so when your being the "nice guy."

it's extremely hard to get your ex back if she's not attracted to you.

i ordered a book on this, and bascially it recommends that IF you really want her back, you first leave her alone completely for one full month.

create a jelousy plotline that is not intended to be mean, but just a jelosly plotline. then start over again.

the problem with this is that she already knows that you have low value (in her eyes at least), and so it's not enough to just demonstrate high value. this is why you wait a month. she'll forget a lot of the bad, and tend to remember the good

I would not focus on it so much, and would go out tomorrow night and meet another girl. Forget about her, and fixing it. If she is running around telling her friends bad things about you then forget her. Find a new girl and let her know about it. You will forget about her in a flash if you go sarging and meet someone else. It will clear your head and you will be over this whole desperate thought process with this girl.

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I agree. Go out, sarge other girls and work on your calibration of how much C & F to use. I've got a wing with this same problem, he goes overboard with the C & F so I've been giving him hypnosis to help calibrate him. So go out, practice on others. if in a month or two you meet her again you can give it a go then but for now practice, practice, practice.

as soon as you achieve attraction, just be yourself man. you dont need post-game material, you dont need to feed her any lines, just be you man. thats all she wants. but ya shes gone, kiss her ass goodbye.

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Thanks for the great advice! It's pretty clear from the replies what the general consensus is.