This is my first journal, and I am very excited about going on this journey to become the best man I can possibly be.

I'll mostly be doing daygame, natural/direct. When I do hit the bars/clubs, I will likely incorporate natural style.

A brief background about me:

So this all started with my first "girlfriend" when I was 13 year old. My mom would visit her mom, and I would go with. Me and her daughter would play games like hide & seek. When we found one another, we'd make out. Fun times.

From 2004 - 2008 (high school) I was a social outcast in school, and flirting machine during holidays. I've had more long distance relationships than the fingers on my hands during high school, but when it was holidays... teenage girls flocked to Mossel Bay (a beautiful holiday distination in South Africa). I would number close during daytime, and have random make-outs during foam parties.

Needless to say, I was a unpopular computer geek, but that flew out the window when I let the fear of approach go completely during the holidays. I never got laid, even though I had many oppurtunities... I thought it was "wrong".

After high school, it bothered me that I haven't lost my virginity yet. I moved out of the house, into a flat, and started going out to a local club. With very little style, zero dancing skills... I hit a terrible dry spell. Then from nowhere I picked up a crazy-in-her-head girl one night, made out, took her number. She took my virginity, after she couldn't believe that I was still a virgin. Yes, I was the one giving her LMR! After 3 months of crazy sex and nothing but sex with her... she left me.

Another dry spell... and I started pick up. Reading "the game". Reading as much material I could get my hands on. All that I actually implemented, was disqualification, push-pull and a little bit of dance game. I had absolutely ZERO inner game. I managed to get 3 SNL's and a fuck buddy, until I "made love" to her and she ran for the hills.

Another dry spell (see the pattern here?). After 3 years of staying in a flat with buddy of mine, I had to move back to my mom's place... there was no clubbing... just a dingy bar. Text and FB game became my thing, and I hooked up with a girl that way. Dated for a month or two, but she was pulled by another guy. I held onto her like a fucking wussy.

After that... I sorted out my life. Moved to Cape Town, got a brilliant job, pursued my passion for acoustic/classical guitar, went hiking, went clubbing in Stellenbosch, with absolute no focus on women. Focused on my look, lifestyle and inner game. I took a year break to sort myself out.

Now I'm 24, ready to daygame and improve all areas of my life. Essentially, marriage is not the end goal here. Just interacting with women an emotional level, getting a few lays in the process and enjoying my life is what I want from this.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

13/03/2014

After watching some videos from SashaPUA and James Marshall's 21 Convention talk, I decided that natural is my way forward.

Daily Challenge: Cold approach one women every single day, with freedom from outcome.

Waiting for the train, a girl was walking to the bench to sit. I noticed her, made eye contact. She had coffee. I love coffee. She sat down, and I opened. "I should start doing that, that is a brilliant idea"

We ended up talking about our passions in life and I number closed her on the train, she has a boyfriend, but she's up for a coffee.

Good points: Opened with zero anxiety, had good eye contact.

Bad points: Showed no intent. Spoke too fast. Ran out of things to say. Almost no tension between us.

Challenge completed at 06h35

Later the day, on a highly crowded train back home, the was a girl standing in front of me, with a particular clothing style which I liked. Had a beach theme to it. I opened, held eye contant, complimented her style. Had a great converstation with her, stood close to her, in her space. The people around us didn't matter. One guy was just staring at me.

Number closed her after finding out some logistics about her weekend, and hugged her when she left. Full on hug.

After that, a girl approached me from nowhere and gets physical with me. I noticed she was in school uniform. I have her kiss my cheek and catch my train home.

Good points: Some anxiety, but still opened with a clear head. Held eye contact. Showed my intent. Got in close. Hugged her goodbye.

Bad points: Still ran out of things to say, spoke too fast. Too little tension, broke it too often.

Summary:
Opened two girls, number closed both.

Things to work on:
I speak too fast, have very few pauses in my conversations.
I don't challenge the girls enough. Little or no qualifying.
I need to show more intent.
I still have some anxiety with cold approaches if the girl looks bitchy.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

14/03/2014

Zero approaches today. Zilch.

Summary:

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

15/03/2014

I'm all fired up and ready to go daygame in the streets of Cape Town. I took my guitar with. I ended up going to a Japanese Festival at Green Point Park.

Approach 1) Whilst watching some Japanese cooking presentation, I noticed a girl a few rows down. I noticed there was an open spot. I needed to fill that spot. I filled it. Even though it ended up being an old high school friend, we did hit it off rather well, ended up speaking about anime, spendthrifts and hentai. We sat in rather close proximity, she didn't mind our legs touching etc.. when the conversation went sexual (hentai) I decided to kiss close (not great calibration, because she was more focusing on the presentation. She told me politely that she wasn't interested. Continuing the conversation like the kiss close never happened and hugged her goodbye.

Approach 2) As the high school friend left, I turned to my right and there was 3 girls. I opened. Basic introduction, and complimenting Emma (girl right next to me). Held good eye contact, again, basic "get to know you" conversation, but I spoke slower and held eye contact better. Asked if she has a boyfriend and she pointed to one of the other girls. Teased her about it. High five the other girls, hug Emma (target). I had to leave, so I went for the number, she rejected, but said she want to see me later. I didn't follow up.

Approach 3) Set (guy and girl). Girl opened. Introduced herself. I positioned myself so that I could engage with the girl, but I initially spoke to both. Handshake, eye contact... silence... she burst out of laughter and then invited me and my friend to some discussion group. (more on this later)

(later)

Met up with the girl, held eye contact, a fun chat... she number closed me, but it wasn't for the purposes of setting up a day 2... so that number is going to be a flake.

Approach 4) Approached a set of four girls. Introduced myself, held eye contact with all of them for a moment. Good responses all way around... One in particular caught my eye... we walked and talked for about 15 min, her arm was hooked in mine, one or two sexual references her talks etc. At the end of saying goodbye, I was standing very close to her while exchanging phone numbers. Held eye contact again... triagle gaze... kiss close.

Today was a good day. Four approaches. Two rejections, one flake and a kiss close (with possible day 1)

Summary

The bad: I need to do a bit more physical escalation. Also, I need to challenge the set more, by asking less standard questions like (what do you do for a living)

The good: Held good eye contact with everyone, including bigger sets. Kept the tension until laughter took over. I wasn't scared to pull the trigger for a kiss close.

Things I need to work on: Approach more. Practice day game during my lunch break. Less standard talk. More physical game.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

16/03/2014

Yesterday, I was absolutely lazy. Woke up at 10h00 and the sun is shining. I knew that today, I could chill a bit, after yesterday's fun run.

Anyway, at 15h00 I went to church to serve the people. Basically my job is to make the people who enter, feel welcome. I opened numerous sets, but didn't interact in a very flirtatious way. I used some physical game as there was so many people there, it was easy to do.

Even though I didn't get any phone numbers or recall any specific set that is worth mentioning here... I may have gotten about 2 - 3 leads. Girls that come and go every Sunday, which I had a fun interaction with.

Summary:

Bad: Very very short sets, bounced from group to group. Couldn't get too physical. Fluff talk was too general in the conversations I did have.

Good: Physical touch was generally easy to give, opened many sets, got good leads.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

17/03/2014

Ah... Glorious Monday. It was such a rush. I didn't even meditate.

If you want to read what happened during my lunch hour... Here it is: http://daygame.com/cafe/index.php/topic,4587.0.html

After coming from my lunch break, I kicked myself for not approaching.

I wanted to get at least one approach in for today... taking the train back to CPT... Oh hello there, you cute short girl. I gave her a hug, and opened nicely. Conversation was great, stood rather close to her and held eye contact... Mmm she had beautiful eyes... So as the train stopped, I put my hand on her back and lead her out of the train, thinking I can close for a phone number. She told be she had a boyfriend, but she was catching my drift... and we departed from there.

With almost every single train being delayed to take to go back home, there was about 15 - 30min to approach a few women. Ding ding ding, another approach, I know the girl... so maybe this approach didn't count, but I went in regardless, gave her a hug (held on for a while) and we ended up teasing one another about trains.

Shortly after that girl, I opened another one I knew, also with a hug that held for a while, and all the way home (she sat across from me) I held eye contact while chatting. She did most of the talking, and I just asked questions to let her continue. No real seduction in this, because she couldn't stop talking.

So today I had one cold approach, and followed up physically with two of my leads, which I think is a good thing.

Summary:

The bad: Stupid lunch hour with AA diving into the pizzas I carried. My conversations still needs refining, flirting, qualification and challenges... Eye contact and a strong physical presence isn't enough.

The good: Eventually approached, which is good.

Things to work on: AA needs to leave. NOW. Physical game needs a bit of a boost. I think my biggest sticking point now, is turning my conversations into flirting, challenging, teasing, etc. Although this will take some time.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

Solid posts, man. Do you ever run night game? Or do you most just stick to day? I like that you're not afraid to escalate or go for K-closes. Shows potential. Have a look at my FR thread: game-seven-nights-a-week-vt174285.html. And let me know if you have questions about anything.

Thanks man. I plan to document every noteworthy approach for the next 3 years. I'm likely to do night game as well, but just running mild physical game with lots of qualification. I'll probably document them too.

I'll check out your post out. Maybe we can give one another some feedback, sharing ideas and advice as we see fit.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

18/03/2014

Worst day so far in terms of actual daygame and approaches.

On the morning, I got off the train, walking to work and opened a girl carrying a textbook about Economics. It was easy for me to relate, and I opened on where she is at with her studies. She actually wanted to be a doctor from a young age, so I teased her about 91210. We exchanged names and went our separate names. I didn't go for the phone number, as our interaction couldn't last very long.

Now the bad part.

After work, the trains were heavily delayed and I knew I could approach at least 2 girls during this time. I approached a set (two girls). I tried using a situational opener about the trains being delayed... They laughed at one another... and I left. Not because they laughed, but because I noticed their body language towards me.

This was by far, my worst approach. Ever.

Just when I thought things couldn't get worse, I got onto the train, and plomped myself down with two girls. I introduced myself to both... Tried to make a joke... and they went on happily chatting to one another and ignoring me.

I regained some of my balls and approached a girl as I was getting of another station. We had a brilliant chat, playfully bumped her as we were walking together, and I qualified her a bit.. if she didn't have a husband I would've closed for a number...

Summary:

Okay so today I made 4 approaches. One ended up in a lead. Two was horrible rejections... and one was married. Once in a while these horrible approaches come, and when they do... they hit you back down to earth to show that you have just so much still to learn. I didn't over react on their rejections, but I did feel rather stupid just then.

The bad: My approaches sucked today. Sets seems to get into my head. I got stuck in head and tried to think of something to say after my lame opener, but I was lost. Completely.

The good: Did 4 approaches. Regained some composure, by doing another approach after two bad ones.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

Sounds good. Yeah, I'm working on day game myself at the moment. Night game has treated me pretty well though so far.

Don't even worry about rejections like these. They happen even to the best players. Once you've been in the game a while, you don't even pay attention to rejection. Trust me.

19/03/2014

Damn, I can't remember what happened today. Oh yes...

I had a chat with a 50 year old lady about the current status of South African politics.

On my way home from work, I approached a girl with white hair, and tatoos on her arms and back. I didn't want her, so I just had a friendly chat with her.

Today wasn't for numbers or anything. Just chatting to strangers.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

20/03/2014

Had a great sleep, woke up fresh.

Remember how I told you guys there was this girl who looked bitchy? I decided to find out. Just as the train arrived, I looked at her, smiled and said "hello". She smiled brightly said hello back, and got on the train. The interaction didn't last long, but she counts as a lead.

Lesson learnt: Whenever you think something about a particular girl... Go and find out.

It rained during lunch, so I stayed in.

On my way home, there was a girl on the train platform, sitting on the ground (instead of a bench). I knew I could improvise, so I went up to her, smiled and said "is this seat taken?" whilst pointing to the open ground next to her. She found it hilarious and patted her hand to show that the spot is open. Plomped myself down. We had a brilliant interaction. I challenged her, etc... it was fun. Ran some physical game.

We also got off in Cape Town together, and she didn't want to leave my side. By the time my train arrived to go home, I gave her a long winded hug, and kissed her. Didn't number close as her phone was stolen.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi

That sounds like a good encounter, and your open was clever. Is she the one who got away?

Yeah unfortunately I don't know what is the chances of seeing her again, but if I do, it's on.

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"Everything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it" - Gandhi