So I've met a girl who possesses all of the traits I thought I desired in a partner. She is extremely smart, talented, creative, sensitive and wickedly beautiful. She has her down sides too, with past abandonment issues and some dark family issues from her past, but still, I felt lucky to have her in my life.

We have dated for 2 months and it has been very turbulent, with lots of lows but ecstasy highs - Last night she told me she loved me and I told her "no and ended it". We discussed it for a couple hours and realised she wasn't over her ex and maybe that is why our relationship had been so turbulate. (I have to say I feel now that I manipulated her into thinking this some what, although it was definately a factor)

I have always ended my relationships when I see the other person coming too close to me, and they last on average 3 months. I speak about this now because she revealed something to me, that I am a narcissist. I have since researched it, and although I wouldn't consider myself as having a NPD, I definitely have the majority of the traits of a narcissistic person and had just never put them together myself.

I have never been able to put somebody else need and emotions in front of my own, and this concerns me somewhat. I know I am only 25, and I have my career and other aspects of my life to focus on, but I am concerned I could never let anybody close to me. I actually like that I am a narcissist, and that as a result I have a great social skill set to utilize in a professional environment, I enjoy manipulating people, improving myself both mentally and my physical appearance - but non-the-less, I'm concerned for what this could mean in my future.

I read somewhere that my narcissism would probably tone down considerably around the age of 30+, which makes sense to me and I would be in a stronger and more settled position professionally. I guess I would like to hear about the experiences of fellow narcissists that relate to my current situation or have done so in the past. Maybe you could give me insight into some possible future scenarios I might expect to become my reality and I'm particularly interested to hear about aging narcissists and their romantic relationships.

I hope I have made my situation and objectives clear.

Thanks in advance.

Are you sure you're a narcissist?

I can't imagine a narcissist coming on to a message board to ask for advice from others. If you're truly concerned, I'd suggest going to see a professional psychotherapist for some insights.

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