as far as i could tell, she didn't say it like she was complaining. we were talking about places we usually end up going to eat, and she said something along the lines of "i don't know if you realize this or not, but you are a pretty dominant person". after a lifetime of being an AFC, this is foreign to me. the old me wanted to adjust my behavior and act less dominant almost like a reflex. but all of the things i've studied and observed tell me that male dominance is an attractive trait. the main thing that threw me off is that she verbalized it so openly.

so let me ask this question to you guys. would you take this as a compliment, or constructive criticism?

A compliment. I get it relatively frequently. No girl has ever meant it in a negative way. Most crave it.

But what does it matter? Do your thing. If you're doing your thing, then you're doing it right.

If she doesn't like your personality, she can fuck off.

Some girls like it some girls don't.

The main question you have to ask yourself is, is this what you are comfortable with? Are you comfortable being dominant? Is this your true nature? Then you have nothing to worry about.


Girls have told me I am pretty mysterious, don't really share a lot. It's not because I want to be mysterious, I just have been conditioned to keep things to myself over the years. I am in the process of changing it because I see it as detrimental to relationships in the long run. It's nice to sprinkle information here and there. But this is my decision and not others.

Back to your question, if you don't feel there is anything wrong with being dominant, then take it as a compliment. If you are being authoritative or a dictator, maybe do a few self-assessments and see if you are overdoing it a bit. Like I said, you know yourself.

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Thats a good thing.

If she was being overly dominant and it bothered you would you tell her "you're very dominant" or would you use another word like "You're so pushy"? Dominant is a compliment. A good response is to say (or whisper) "I'll show you later" and give her a wink. Unless you literally just met her and even then, fuck it, go for it.

If you play the game for the rest of your life you will be able to count the number of women you meet who are truly turned off by a guy being confident and dominant on one hand.