Last week a friend of me and I have brought two girls that attend salsa with us (right after salsa lesson) to a mall next to there and had a very nice conversation (in the end it was more flirting). When they started to feel some sexual tension they joked more than once, saying that they are old, or that they could be our mothers etc.. It's obviously a joke (they're 30 years old and we're 23) and they said it playfully, but I think that it was actually a shit test or something like that. I was wondering if there is a routine or a proper way to answer in these situations.
The first time I tried to neg them, saying not to go too late to bed, but I didn't feel like it was the best thing to say.
Any advice?

Older single women are uncomfortable and insecure about their age, so much in fact that it is rude to ask them. It is imbedded in culture. Why? Because they become infertile at middle age. Their sex appeal drops tremendously after college, if not, during college. Age just makes them uncomfortable.

Also, a woman's opinion on something is a good way to gauge a man. If you say you're a Yankee fan, and she says she won't date a Yankee fan, your reaction will determine her perception of your manhood. If you say "Well that's too bad because I am a die hard Yankee fan, but think of all the make-up sex we could be having after my team beats yours." BOOM! You have showed that the opinions of others do not sway your opinion of yourself. You have proven your manhood.

If you say, "Well I'm not really too much of a fan. I don't really watch baseball and it's not important." You just come off as this desperate man willing to say or do anything for her. Like a beggar on the street trying to leach value, you lose attraction instantly.

When you hold your ground on your values and show that you are confident in who you are, regardless of outcome, you gain attraction as a side effect. When attraction is the goal, you become desperate and appear as such.

Let age be her problem. Not yours. Attraction is universal. It transcends culture, language, and AGE. Treat it like a handicap. If it isn't a problem to you, then it isn't a problem at all. It is not an obstacle. It is an illusion. Forget about using it as a means in which to flirt from, but pretend as if it is not even there.

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I agree with _Lothario_, and would like to add one thing. Since the comment about her age originated from insecurity, she probably wanted you to validate her, make her feel good about herself. In such situations you can answer with something like "I like older women" (if they are much older, and no way to hide the fact). If they are only slightly older, as in this case, you should rather try to flatter them with "Are your 30!? There is no way to tell! I thought you were 25!", and try to make it sound honest.

I just of though of one. What do you guys think?

Ya your right I am too young, in fact you'll probably have a hard time keeping up with me.

I think you're both right. What is better is to make her feel less the gap of age, for example by showing confidence in my opinion and not paying particular attention to what may be a problem for her. At the same time it is quite likely that she's also seeking validation. Without thinking about it I said something similar to what hugge suggested.
Thanks for the advices

The above given advice is already very solid. I was just thinking that if she insists on talking about age because she says it is a real problem for her, you should probably let her go ahead. You will then see flaws in her explanation. For example she will probably make generalising statements such as: older men are more mature. Then I would look at her with a very puzzled expression of non understanding to make her feel insecure about her own point of view.
After a while I would then change topics as if this topic doesn't really make sense to me or has become irrelevant. However, I would not engage in a pro con discussion so that she doesn't get any sticking point.

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1. Grab her hand, place your other hand on the back of her hand, "It's ok to be attracted to a younger guy, quit being so insecure about it" with a smile of course. This is probably best for a on on one type of thing.

2. Look at her strange "Why does age matter?"
Her: "Older men are more mature blah blah blah"
PUA: "Mature guys are more mature"
Need alot of direct eye contact.

3. Her: I could be your mother!
PUA: I just met you, lets get to know each other before you start telling me about all your fetishes.

This is golden.

Agreed! Best possible advice!

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She says you're too young you answer:

"Nope, you're too old, I'm just right" - NEG

"You're as young as the people you surround yourself with and how you feel" - Qualifying loop

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Used to have to deal with this a lot in my younger days. My first lay was a 24 year old when I was 19 (maybe 20). She threw up the age shit test multiple times and everytime I said the exact same thing "When you grow up, you'll realise that age is just a number"
The idea behind it is that it makes her seem like the childish one, and you the mature one. I've field tested this with several other girls as well and it's never let me down, just make sure that you get off the topic of age ASAP.

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