Hey all,

I went to grade school with this girl a long time ago, like 1st - 3rd grades. Last summer, I spotted her at a street festival in my town. I won't deny or bullshit here -- I am a pussy when it comes to approaching girls. I just suck at game, I hardly ever get laid. Anyway, she's super cute. My friend, who is a natural with women, said 'go say something to her.' I made excuses. He was like 'damn bro, I gotta hold your hand?' and went and opened her. She was with a friend. My friend opened the set and sort of wandered off after that, leaving me to awkwardly bumble through small talk. However, this girl was clearly interested in me, because again, I won't bullshit, I get female attention based on my looks (I'm mixed white/Asian and after a teenhood of terrible acne which fucked my social skills and confidence, I grew into a pretty good-looking dude, with some minor acne scarring, but the mixed-race features just ended up working out really well for me). We exchanged numbers. I thought I had fucked it up with my awkwardness, but the next week, she texts me. We made plans to hang out, and she seemed eager to meet up with me. It's obvious she's interested.

We meet up at a bar the next weekend. My natural friend and my bro are there with me. Me and the girl go to the other end and chat. It's awkward small talk. My body language was terrible -- I had both elbows on the bar, talking to her over my shoulder, like I'm 'hard-to-get.' We change venues. More small talk but we get more familiar with eachother. I'm too much of a puss to make a move or do any kino. I'm being too nice and respectful. Eventually she says "well, I think it's time for bed. Thanks for a great night." It wasn't sarcastic, but she's done with it. She calls a cab and goes home.

I text her the next day about being hungover and napping, she responds warmly.

A week later some asshole steals my phone at a bar, and I didn't save my contacts on iTunes. So I lost her number.

Two months later I look her up on facebook and explained that I lost my phone, and that I hoped she was doing well. She said she also hoped I was doing well. That was a month ago.

I want to bang this chick. I am aware that I need to get my game straightened out, urgently. I'm almost 30. Not that 30 is too old to sarge, but I have a lot of lost years to make up for. Is this chick still worth pursuing?

I don't see where anything necessarily went wrong here. Why can't you just hang out with her again? You're in the perfect position and she has made it beyond obvious that she is interested in you. She wants you to ask her out, she wants you to touch her, she wants you to kiss her, and she wants you to fuck her.

Next time, make sure sure you escalate with her. I've said this so many times before, but when in doubt, count to 3 in your head and just do it. Whatever you're afraid of doing, just go for it after you hit the count of 3. Don't think about anything while you're counting. Just fucking go for it. Whether it is something small like brushing her arm "accidentally" or going in for the kiss at the opportune moment, that's the absolute best way to do it.

I agree with Snarg. I think you're just in your own head too much, I have the same problem I'll go on a date, and think I did horrible then the girl txts me the next day saying she had a great time. I just learned to have faith in myself. As far as learning how to be a more confident person go into the pua videos section look up confidence broken down buddy of mine made it and he really breaks down steps on how improve your self confidence. I think it'll really help you out.
Anyway good luck!!

I mean what is the worst that could happen?

If you don't do it, she'll eventually walk away. If you do it and she rejects you, she'll eventually walk away. It's exactly the same result. BUT, and I want you to listen really carefully, the second option has a specific success rate. If you go for the kiss, there's a high chance that you can close her and date her after that, considering that you have met the circumstances and felt that the vibe was a kiss vibe. Trust me, you'll feel it because it's damn obvious.

Thanks for the replies guys, appreciated.

I got her number again, I'm going to pursue. Failing is better than not trying.