You'll need to explain in a bit more detail, kino occurs naturally during conversation and should be congruent with your body language... how and when were you touching her, and how were you escalating it? It's important to start using kino as soon as possible because if she's talking to you for a few minutes and you all of a sudden start touching her, nomatter what the context it will seem unnatural to her. I have a feeling this is what happened with you, correct me if I'm wrong though.
Next time start small and start early, you can escalate after a few light touches to resting your hand somewhere for a few seconds at a time. I rest my hand gently at the fingertips at first because it's not as domineering/sexual. I'm not gonna go into really crazy detail here cos it's a hell of a lot to take in and you probably do most of this naturally without thinking about it anyway... it's more about making yourself completely comfortable with her. Next time you see her make sure to smile and just give her a quick hug - you'll feel relaxed right away.
I always use kino as I say something I want to emphasise, like when I say something funny or if I want to make sure she's paying attention. Try to make eye contact as you touch her aswell, the last thing you want is to look like you're concentrating on your hands... think about it, you use kino without thinking about it all the time but mostly with people you're familiar with ie. friends and family. Just give her a hug when you meet her and pretend you've known her longer than you have, you'll loosen right up.
One more thing I think might help... females are more socially developed than us and they're very intuitive about this stuff. They will mimic your kino aswell as your body language so if she's giving you similar kino in return it's a good IOI. And for crying out loud if you're not comfortable touching her, don't force yourself to! Don't think too hard about what you're doing either because she will sense the awkwardness of it and you'll have one of those weird moments. If escalation is going well and you touch anywhere intimate like her waist or legs it's important to use the outside of your hand at first, then your fingertips, then your palm. Just trust me on that.
CHAT