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PostPosted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 2:25 pm 
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Long story short, I went out with a girl for a while, found out she was engaged and I ended it. I went out with another girl, and when she broke up with me I went back to the other one because she was great in bed and I figured a fuck buddy would be just the thing I needed to take my mind off things. Yeah I know, that was a mistake but I wasn't up to making any real effort cos I really liked that girl and I felt like shit.

It worked, but at a cost. She became too unreliable for my liking and she's really, really, really stupid. I told her that if she's not able to come round she shouldn't agree to in the first place. She apologised and said it wouldn't happen again, and of course she did the exact same thing the next time she was supposed to come over. It was a few days later, she was horny and said she'd be over in an hour. The bus station is a 5 minute walk from her house and she somehow managed to miss the bus... she said she'd get the next one which was in half an hour.

I said that was OK, but I knew exactly what was gonna happen so I found other things to do... and of course I didn't hear from her for another few hours. I was expecting some sort of apology but it was just a casual "how are you" message, as if we hadn't spoken at all that day! So of course I phoned her and the excuses came, "oh I had to help my mum with stuff and I forgot". She knew in the first place that she wasn't gonna be able to come over so why the hell did she tell me she would? I told her she was disrespecting my time and that she wouldn't be seeing me again.

Text messages. Lots of them. I replied at first telling her she wasn't getting any more chances and to stop texting. It was wasting my money so I stopped replying altogether; she just doesn't get the hint! Eventually she got pissed off with me ignoring her and told me she was deleting my number, and with a sigh of relief I made myself a delicious victory sandwich.

Unfortunately, this was short-lived. I got messages from her a few days later and this has continued steadily over the past few weeks. These are from last night, I mean seriously... does she have some kind of condition she isn't telling me about? I've translated into proper english so you can understand properly.

18:05 "Hey, what are you doing tonight??"
18:11 "Where did you go last night?"
18:17 "Where did you go last night? **** or where? Write back please."
19:37 "Sorry if I annoyed you earlier. What are you up to?"
21:18 "Where are you heading tonight?"
23:06 "Do you have a problem with me in any way?"
23:09 "Lighten up I'll leave you alone, hehe"

Can someone tell me what the hell she's thinking? I don't wanna talk to her, I made this clear. I ignore her completely yet she sends me messages almost on a daily basis. Most guys would be happy to have a sex hungry girl begging for their attention but I can't fucking stand her. She isn't interesting to talk to, she doesn't understand why I got annoyed at her fucking me around and wasting my time and she's rude to my family, which I will not tolerate. Guys, help me get rid of her... ignoring her doesn't work. :(


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 3:13 pm 
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She is the female equivalent of an AFC.

Unwittingly, you have played the Cat-String game on her, but without any pulling.

She craves your attention MORE because you are ignoring her.

How do you make it stop? Ring her, make sure the entire conversation is serious. Tell her you're in love with someone else.

Basically, hit her with the truth, where it hurts. Harsh, but it would do the trick.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 11:31 pm 
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and if that doesn't work, you're a PUA man, you KNOW what DOESN'T work on women! ;)

Just start replying to her, then send her more messages, then even more, then call her once or twice a day, then basically flip it around and annoy the shit outta her the same way shes annoying you! :D


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 12:13 am 
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Haha, might try that! Although tweeby makes a good point, I should just tell her I'm seeing someone now and I've got a new phone. If she thinks it's not my number anymore she'll probably quit trying after a day or so. I guess it's not too much of a nuisance to delete the messages as they arrive anyway... well, now that we have a couple of solutions in the pipeline does anyone else have a similar experience or do I just attract the nutcases? :mrgreen:


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 6:41 pm 
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and if that doesn't work, you're a PUA man, you KNOW what DOESN'T work on women! ;)

Just start replying to her, then send her more messages, then even more, then call her once or twice a day, then basically flip it around and annoy the shit outta her the same way shes annoying you! :D
I'd agree with that IF he hadn't F-closed her.

That makes the situation different, it would be sending out mixed messages.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 4:58 pm 
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had a similar situation, though not as serious. I girl I F-closed started to flirt with me and wanted to kiss me and stuff everytime i went to a club in this town. Got annoying, but all I did was change clubs :D she doesn't have my number so she can't annoy me :wink: but yeah, good luck with the girl, you should probably try tweeby's way first, but if that doesn't go, I still think my way would work... though its a bit drastic :P


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 5:48 pm 
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haha funny story, I dont have any advice but I had one similar to this, but the only difference is I had never slept with her. So I figured, I havent slept with her, she annoys the fuck out of me, If I nail her, it is going to make things worse and all I did was ignore her.Havent called, havent texted, its been a while and its great.

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Well, I might be odd, but I look at this like a blessing.

Just ignore her, but hope the text messages keep coming. Then you can use them to you're advantage.

Open a set with "hey, this girl is stalking me, here look at these texts. What would you do?"

You got yourself an opener with TONS of social proof built right in.


As for her? just keep ignoring her. Don't call, don't text. Just pretend she doesn't exist.

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Had a very similar story myself... i hammered on telling her i really dont want to talk 2 her, called her every name in the book and all she could thro back is "babe, i can tell ur upset, lets talk about it"... talk about calling me on a shit test haha...

all i did is respond with "Listen i have some problems at the moment that i dont want to, and wont be talking about to you or anyone at that matter, so please give me the space i need so i can deal with them myself" it worked...

sounds harsh, and ur probably all going to tell me im a mug, a fool or just simply not nice, but u have to be n the situation to understand... desperation and needyness (on a females behalf) is far from attractive!

Hope you sort it out buddy, good luck!


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Open a set with "hey, this girl is stalking me, here look at these texts. What would you do?"

You got yourself an opener with TONS of social proof built right in.
and i like that alot!


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Is her name Bronagh??? Lol :wink:

Seriously though!!???!!! :(


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