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I'm trying to picture what I would have to say to a woman to actually get security go handcuff me and shit... It's not working, so that means you really creeped her out. Honestly, I'm not trying to insult you, but if you used kino and she is calling security on you, you probably escalated to quickly. If the vibe is good you can try to get a bit physical, one step at a time. Hand, forearms, shoulder, upperback, middleback, you know the works.
Just try to keep the conversation going for starters, be easygoing. If she not interested, try again. Rejected again, find someone else, she's not into it. I like the statement don't put pussy on a pedestal, but don't disrespect a woman. I'm not saying that you did, but just take it easy and work on it a bit at a time.
I furthermore second the things Hellhound and Textytext said, that's some good shit!
Keep in mind, 3 second rule, approach, small compliment, conversation starter and listen. Most AFCs try to tell too much about themselves. Women will generally do the work for you. I talked with a woman for 2 hours straight the other night and most of my replies were "uh-hun" and "oh really?". Keep things short, witty and don't put too much pressure on it.
I think I can manage that, but that's pretty far into the comfort stage, isn't it? I've found it hard to create strong attraction, even when it appears off the bat, and then proceed to kill it, or else let it fade into a boring friendzone conversation. Kinoing to ramp up the tension, is what I've tried, ,but isn't qualification a form of escalation, in and of itself?
Come to think of it, what are some good ways to qualify hired guns? Joke lightly about their place of employment? Uniforms?
As I've said, I think I creeped the girl by leaving, coming back near her, having her watch as I approached another set, glance her way, see she was looking and leave again. I came across as creepy not as much for how I approached her, but my whole manner, and transparently predatory behavior.
It was just context thing, primarily, and I'm pretty sure I know what happeend seems what's happened to me is rare.
Keep in mind, I was focused on conquering approach anxiety and mastering the three-second rule; I was not trying to even focus much beyond that, and just before security came, I was actually feeling pretty self-satisfied for a sarge well-spent in the effort of self-mastery after having dithered around for over five years before actively practicing.
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As to dress, In college (my target demographic), with my jeans, my green parka over my coat, and my beard and backpack, I fit in well, especially at The Evergreen State College (not the same one with the security incident).
As for shoes, I bought a new black pair at the start of last month, so I'd pointedly not look like a bum. I could get better shirts, though, and trimming my beard would be nice.
Some nice, red shirts would be in order, I think.
Sounds good.
Backpacks seem to be standard fare in there:
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Well, actually, I haven't been wearing jeans, lately , as I've been wearing baggy jogging pullovers atop my gym pants. If I
did wear just jeans, it would highlight my lean form quite well.
All things considered, I think I've gotten pretty decent results despite not dressing spectacular, and attribute my failure to a lack of skill. Several girls at that community college seemed to genuinely like me, and while I'm not going back soon, I don't consider sarging a failure. My confidence has grown, and if getting security called wasn't a test of my grown confidence, I don't know what is.
I'm sarging in a mall alone tomorrow, so you know. two, three hours of pavement-pounding, engaging hired guns, that sorta thing. Without the community college, it'll be harder to practice, but it'll be the first time I've sarged outside a college.
In some of the upscale stores, though, my attire really
will be a problem, as opposed to in college.
I ain't stupid.
CHAT
