I sucked with girls and started reading into pick-up, although I do not consider myself to be a PUA. I've been around the block. I've felt the thrill of casual relations with beautiful women. I've indulged in the obscene peasure of a sucessfull hunt, but it has all been momentary. Like an addict's rush.

I came here hoping I would learn how to game a very specific girl. Obviously, an all out sucess at first try was too much of a stretch. I failed gloriously and have not heard from her ever since. I then enjoyed the meningless sex as my game got better, but it has only served to accentuate the void in my life.

I want an LTR, the same I've always wanted. I've been fooling around with the wrong girls until the right one shows up, and I think she has. I met a girl who fits my standard perfectly, the thing is, she has been burned one too many times before and my game attitude made me look unreliable and untrustworthy.

PUA has braught me this far. It turned me from a needy chode into a confident man with the traits of an alpha male. But I think it also harmed my chances of having a serious relationship by turning me into the kind of douche I always vowed I would never become.

I am grateful to everyone here for all your advice, but it is time to move on, so where do I go from here? Does anyone know about books or forums like this dedicated to LTR's instead of PUA?

Thank you all!

Pickup, as you learn it in this forum, is just a tool to get the girl you want. What kind of relationship you make of it is all up to you.

I just happend to stumble over this clip today, and I can really recommend it. I think it will answer your question about how to make the girl trust you. It is actually very easy, as you will see. It may change your view on game a bit too, and question things you have learned.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI

Fall in love with a girl instead of being in love with the idea of being in a relationship. Keep meeting more girls and eventually you will know which one you want to be in a relationship with. Or, you might never end up in a long term relationship. You might hate a fucking relationship. You never know... But don't think you should get into a relationship just because "thats what you're supposed to do" or because you're "tired of meeting new girls." That's retarded.

Sorry, bro. It's Blood In Blood Out. You're a player for life.

jk

Honestly, I told myself the same thing: that I've been around the block and now it's time to settle down. Unfortunately, I wound up forcing myself into a relationship/marriage because I had my mind set on just settling down, not necessarily finding "the one". Now I'm in the process of getting a divorce. Don't do what I did.

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Great video.

Majik and International, thanks for the advice. It's not like it's what I'm suposed to do. It's what feels right. Maybe after I try it I will miss the thrill of the hunt, but for now I want at least to try it.

Again, thanks for the good advice, bros.