Hello and welcome to my Stylelife Challenge journal. Before we get into the juicy finer details, let me introduce myself.

I am a 19 year old aspiring asian PUA currently residing all the way in Sunny Singapore. I wouldn't exactly call myself an AFC because I have had some limited success with women. In fact, it is that slimmer of success that brought me here. You see, I've had a few partners in the past as well as my fair share of girls from the club. Recently though, my girlfriend of two years cheated on me and left me (ouch) To me, she was 'special' and I even went so far as to call her 'the one'

So I went into a state of semi depression, crying every night, thinking desperately of ways to get her back. Before I knew it, I was struck with the terrifying, terrible and rampant disease the pickup community dubs "oneitis"

And that's why I'm here. To find a cure for oneitis, improve my game and become a PUA.

Let the challenge begin.

DAY 1:

Evaluating myself

1. Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.
I would say that I believe myself to be funny, nice, athletic and cocky at times. I've asked some of my previous flings/partners before and they said I was charismatic and witty as well. However, deep down, I actually have some social anxiety and suffer from massive AA.

2. Write one or two sentences how you'd like to be perceived by others.
I would love to one day be the envy of the guys, the cool dude with all the chicks that everyone wants to be.

3. List 3 of your behaviors or characteristics you would like to change.
Firstly, I feel like I am too nice sometimes, especially when it comes to people I care about. I find it hard to turn down requests for help even if it means going out of my way. Therefore, I wish to be able to be less nice.

Secondly, whenever I see a hot girl in the public, I would just think to myself "man, wait till I'm a bona fide PUA, she'd so be mine" or "next time I see someone like her, now isn't a good time" I don't believe I'm the only one guilty of this I would like to stop this mentality and actually be able to confidently approach a girl that catches my eye, instead of just giving excuses.

Lastly, I would like to stop being so nervous around people I deem of "higher social value" I think we all have been there, looking up at that "cool" guy at the club with all the connections and staring in disbelief as he comes up to you to shake your hand or being stunned when a HB approaches you. You feel unworthy of such attention and start screwing up your confident front.

Operation Small Talk

So basically, I had to start a conversation with 5 strangers, regardless of race, gender, age, etc. This is what I achieved.

1. Old lady at the back gate of my condo who looked in need of help. Turned out she forgot her keys.
2. H&M salesgirl, asking for sizing
3. Salesman from Topman, asking for opinions on the Chinos I was trying on and for recommendations on a matching shirt.
4. Girl at Breadtalk, asking if so and so bread was nice
5. Cashier at GongCha (A shop which sells a popular drink known as bubble tea) asking if the place was busy with people or empty most of the time.

What I learnt: It is pretty easy to talk to people, especially if its about something mundane and with no ulterior motives. This was an eye opener for me as I always had the misconception that Asian people here were generally more reserved and didn't like conversations with strangers.

DAY 2:

Set your goals

What 3 accomplishments would you like to achieve to make you happier?
Be able to approach girls with confidence
F closed at least 10 of them (They do say that you should go and sleep with 10 girls to get rid of oneitis)
Become more sociable

What are the reasons these accomplishments would make you happier?
I love talking and interacting with girls. In fact, I actually spend more time hanging out on dates and stuff then chilling with the guys. Therefore, being able to interact with higher quality girls would make me that much more happy.
Under the facade of being a confident, cocky guy, I am actually pretty insecure. I don't think I am that good looking, nor do I place myself that high on the social ladder. It would make me happier to become more confident about myself.

What is your personal mission?
I will become an amazing PUA who will have no problem approaching girls at any point in time within 2 months.

Look Into Their Eyes.
So the same rules as yesterday, but this time, I have got to put in effort to look into the eyes of the stranger I am conversing with. I then had to list their eye color. As most Asians have dark brown eyes, all the strangers I spoke to had dark brown eyes.

1. Random army officer
2. Random army personnel
3. Old lady with dog at the playground
4. Girl behind subway counter (I believe she displayed IOI but I did not have the guts to pursue it)
5. Cashier at Burger King, he actually gave me more hot caramel sauce for my sundae because of our little conversation it seems.

Take aways: Eye contact is very important, and easily forgettable. I had one conversation with a stranger that I completely forgot to make eye contact with. Also, today reiterated that it is not thaaat awkward to talk to a stranger.

DAY 3

Find Mr. Moviefone

It seemed simple, call random numbers and get 3 movie recommendations. I was dead wrong.

Boy, this was a tough one. I spent about an hour plus on this before I decided to call it a day. I called a total of 59 random numbers, of which about 20 was not in service and the remainder was basically people hanging up on me, not having a movie to recommend and basically protecting their favorite movie as if I was trying to steal their credit card number or something! The only suggestion I managed to get was 'the avengers'

At first, it took some courage to actually dial a random number and ask for a movie recommendation. Seriously, the amount of nerves I felt was unexpected. However, as time passed, my confidence grew (although my patience did not) and I became aware of the ability to just call, pretend I dialed the wrong number and ask for a movie suggestion.

Maybe I will attempt this again one day.

DAY 4:

Ask an expert

Today's mission was relatively straight forward, I had to ask 3 women for advice on where to buy clothes. I decided to challenge myself by only asking HB6s and above. To complete this task, I headed to Orchard ION, a shopping mall for the more wealthy and fashionable crowd.

After some initial AA, I was shocked to find that all 3 women I asked not only responded positively, but could name a shop. My "sarge" went like this.

HB6: Recommended Topshop (I was too nervous to continue convo so I said thank you and goodbye)

HB6.5: Recommended H&M. I decided to push this one a little further and neg her abit by saying "isn't that a little too mainstream, I thought you were a creative girl" (Is that a neg?)

HB8: AH, this one was interesting. She was definitely my type, an asian chick wearing blue contacts with long hair, covering one eye on a very pretty face. Great legs too :p She was working at Adidas and I opened with "Hey, can you help me? If you were a guy, where would you buy your clothes?" She responded with a local shop named edit. I turned to walk away and at the very last minute turned back and asked, "Does this job ever get boring?" She replied yes. I said, "allow me to relieve that boredom, do you believe in ESP" and proceeded to do the ESP trick (the one with the 7) I got it wrong and followed with "SEE? PROOF. ESP DOESN'T EXIST" and she laughed. There was a pause and I realized I didn't know how to transition into getting her digits. So I just left the place. Hopefully further down the challenge I would be able to learn how to close.

Learning point: It is not very weird to talk to a stranger, and as long as you don't come off as creepy, they will probably entertain you. It is easy to talk to girls working at clothes shops because they can get bored at times and in Singapore, most guys probably do not hit on her or brighten up her day.

P.S. I thought of a pretty funny opener to use on a HB working at a shop selling only female clothes. "Hey, where can I find nice menswear? I don't think the clothes here really suit my style" Can't wait to try it out. Bring on the next day.

DAY 5 & 6:

I decided to do both days together because it seemed easy enough.

Day 5 required me to groom myself and also ask a salesgirl to change my style and get me a whole new outfit. Eventually I settled on a local Cotton On outlet after I saw a HB7 working there. I told her I had a dinner event and needed a whole outfit for it. After trying on many items and some laughter, we eventually settled for a pair of light brown chinos and a dark blue shirt.

Day 6 was simple enough, approach and compliment 4 women.

HB 5 waiting for bubble tea (nice top)
HB 7 walking (nice bag, where do I get it?)
HB 7 & 8 walking (two set, nice bag where do I get it? Points to other hb, I like your top btw)

Bring on Day 7 man.

Day 7:

Learn to open

So, I had to open 3 women (or groups with women) Trust me, this one wasn't easy. As usual, I did a warm up by just asking a random two set if they knew where the nearest SPAM machine is. This is a sort of ritual I developed to get into the mood of the game. The opener I came up with was "Hey, I need a female opinion on something. If a girl walks out on you, should you follow her or give her time and space to cool down?" I liked this because you can follow it up easily with "because I was with my friend and his girlfriend and she just walked out on him during an argument. He chased after her, leaving me wandering around alone" which would explain what you were doing alone.
Lmk what you guys think about this one.

Approach #1:
This was a cute hb7 who was manning a small shop on the top floor of a popular mall in Somerset. I opened with the opener I made up.

Her: Depends on the girl's personality I think, if she is the kind that loves attention then he should chase after her. If she is the kind that will go crazy, maybe not?

Me: But what if she was in the wrong, wouldn't that mean he was giving in to her?

Her: Well... then yeah maybe he should just leave her be.

Me: Cool, btw isn't it boring to work here? It's so empty all the time.

Her: Its okay, I guess

Me: Okay, anws thank you!

She was smiling and laughing and everything but I didn't know what IOIs to look for and even if I did, I don't know how to close lol.

Approach #2:
This was a two set at Scape, also manning a shop. They were sitting down at chatting with each other.

Me: Opener

HB5: She should follow

HB6: No, let her chill

HB 5: We have different opinions haha

Me: But if he follows, wouldn't he be giving in. What if she was wrong?

HB5: If he loves her, he'll let her win what!

Me: Hmm, cool. Do you guys know each other very well.

Them: *looks at each other, looks back silently*

Me: Yes, I can tell you guys do.

Them: *smile sheepishly*

Me: Because you guys keep looking at each other before answering me. Anws, thank you guys.

Approach 3:

This one was a girl at Popular bookstore. I came up with this on the spot and decided it'd be fun to try.

Me: Holding book, "Do you think guys who read are attractive?"

Her: Yes? It means they're more knowledgeable at least

Me: *Opens book and starts reading*

Her: *Funny look*

Me: I'm kidding, I was just trying to be attractive.

Lots of fluff talk, failed the esp routine and once again, I HAD NO IDEA HOW TO CLOSE. So I said thank you and left. IOIs were there for sure though.

All in all, I was shocked to see that most people were friendlier than I thought. Now I just really wna learn how to close.

Sup guys! It's been awhile hasn't it? The reason why I stopped the lifestyle challenge a little short is because I basically learnt the ins and outs of pickup without it. But don't take it from me, check out my video!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGvgWkG-RPQ

Much different from that AFC that posted about how depressed he was about his girlfriend a few months ago right? Be sure to like and share it around!

All constructive feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Peace out yo.

i like that you have challenged yourself. i like what i saw in the video. you presented a calm cool guy who was just meeting people. next thing you should work on is escalating and instant dating. that way you don't have to mass approach. you should kino from the moment you say hi. take a look at justin waynes videos on youtube. i think you guys have similar cold approaches. but he's trying to escalate from the get go. number closing will get you alot of flakes.

Thanks man. I will work on that. One problem I find though is that the girls here are always "busy" and "in a rush" when I ask them out on an instant date. Anything I can do to prevent this flakiness? (After all, if Tom cruise asked them out on the date, I'm sure they would magically have free time)

yeah kino from the moment you meet. if you start developing attraction (not just comfort) from the start then you get the date. it's not just your city people always have their own agenda and are reluctant to change them for a stranger. remember you are trying to make an unnatural act (meeting and seducing a total stranger) seem natural. again, search youtube for justin wayne. here's one video in particular that's good for your style and current level. Keep in mind not to mimic him just get the concept down so that you can adapt it to what you and your targets are comfortable with. So do not think you have to spin hug/kiss, lol.