Don't text HER THAT! Thats fucking crazy not sexual. If you want to punish her stop talking to her. As far as did she or didn't she sleep with him ask yourself how many times have you slept in a girls bed and at least not gotten head...I am older and can count on one hand how many times. I was having a conversation with a friend (girl) of mine awhile ago and her boyfriend slept in a bed with another girl....he said nothing happened I called bullshit, she believed him....while later they break up after he cheated and he told her he fucked that girl that night also. Unless he is no question hands down gay, then he at least tried to fuck.

Is this a long distance relationship?
What does she mean when she says "if something happens she's not responsible?"

Ok I'm joking with her, she won't see it as crazy. And yes I have to travel for work sometimes, so at the time of writing it is temporarily long distance. Ok, you are telling me she most likely has cheated, I understand that.

If I was to choose to believe her or give her another chance, how should I respond? Should I wait for her to fight more to keep the relationship going?

I wanted to send the joke message to show her that so it shows I move on quickly. Maybe we have a strange sense of humour but she has a submissive fetish and I have a dominance one. That's a personal joke, all I wanted to do is not dwell on it but at the same time I have to let her know how close I was to end this. If it had been anything but apologetic, I was gone.

Or tell her,
"If anything like that happens again, I am ending this. Understand?"
or
We need to talk about this My preference is for the latter.
or
continue the silence and see how she responds

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Morals aside, what this boils down to is that I am threatened by another guy sleeping in her bed, and too insecure to deal with it.So I put it down to pride and decorum. That's assuming it is possible to have attractiveness from both people at all times in a relationship where it's actually not.

However, the alpha male exudes so much ability to protect and lead that he should not feel threatened by any other man. In this case, I am threatened by the actions of my woman.

So the basis of this is loss of attraction/my insecurity >>> resulted in me feeling threatened >>> must result in me moving on as by the very fact that I have been threatened and made insecure.

If she feels that I am leaving her just because she has hurt me, surely that will be a loss of attraction on my part. Therefore, I must have the mindset, ok this isn't really working out, play it down and cast my eye elsewhere.

If I show signs that I am now disinterested in her because I don't like her behaviour, could this work out better? I.e. I am not attracted to little girls that play games.

I know you are all thinking, why don't I just leave her and move on. The answer is she makes me happy, and I like the stability she offers, so there is an emotional connection there that I don't want to lose.

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I need more from her than she's given. Something like, "Who invites a male friend round to sleep with them for no reason? You obviously take me for a fucking fool."

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More guys will be sleeping on her bed. If you can take the emotional abuse, just go ahead and enjoy lots of psychological pain down the road with this woman. Down the road, it will be bad for your career or education.

Another option is to fix yourself first (you have lots of very unattractive qualities like neediness, nagging, and so on) and then find someone else who will not give you this much pain and emotional instability; someone who will be good for your career and mental health.

Some of us here can take the thought of our FWBs sleeping with their boyfriends or husbands for the simple reason that we know the dude is a lousy fuck and girls enjoy our cocks more. If you want more emotional pain, we can let Hunter_Foxe detail how he fucks his FWBs.

Guys, let the mental torture begin!

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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OK, I guess this will be a learning curve. How can you deal with it? I'm not exactly in the normal range of persons anyway...

1. How do I deal with this? I would like to be secure and strong enough to just pass this off.

2. In the meantime what can I say to the girl to let her know how close I was to breaking this off, without coming across as needy and insecure?

3. What action can I take to fix my unattractive qualities? (I have some health problems, I can't control that, I just have to accept my reality --- perhaps an indicator as to why I am like this --- I've read the game, and magic bullets and watched a lot of videos, all of which have "enriched my life")

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Find Heywood's epic post on neediness. Start small and with simple things. Your learning curve becomes exponential as you build momentum.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

1. Buying gifts.
2. Romantic gestures.
3. Expressing your desire.
4. Doing “favours” without reciprocation.
5. Chasing.
6. Over calling/text messaging.

I have bought gifts, romantic gestures (only once on valentine's day) - I write long messages :/ - I am guilty of over calling/text messaging - I don't do many favours.

Define "expressing your desire".

Would "I want you so bad baby" or, the old chestnut, "I want to fuck you in the ass" count as expressing desire? Surely in certain circumstances it is good to tell a girl what you will do to her, or let her have.

I understand there is a certain mindset of being happy in your reality, the external no longer dictating your reactions, that is essential to PUA, things that make you feel fulfilled, so that she is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. I was beginning to get that, lost it due to health issues.

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Kinda the idea, I would ONLY express sexual interest to her, at this point, if any at all.

But you....

If you start off from the mental place that you are an amazing guy, and that you don’t need a partner (or anyone else for that matter) to validate you, then you are on the right track. The woman you become attracted to becomes important for you, but not necessarily 'everything'. You don’t depend on her to make you feel important, or like a man, or even loved, because those things are already part of you. Therefore as a man you would still be capable of rational thought, and capable too of knowing that your relationship MAY come to an end, but you know that wouldn't be the end of the world, because you are a slick enough person to find someone else worthy of your affection.

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She says 'ok thank you for ignoring me' How to respond? Assume at this stage that I will continue the relationship.

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60yoc summed it up perfectly with his Zen way of looking at life: Every relationship ends. Either you break up or one of you dies. Accept that every relationship is temporary and you will be a lot happier. Every relationship is like a flower. Enjoy it while it blossoms and blooms but don't cling onto it when it dies. Breaking up with a girl is just the end of a chapter in the book of your life. Meeting women is easy. Remember that.

The key to getting your woman to respect you is equal investment.

Examples:

1) If you text her and she waits 3 hours to text back, do the same to her.

2) If you text her or message her 8 lines and she texts you back saying "Ok lol. Luv u too. C u soon xxx" then stop sending her long messages

3) If you both live alone, don't travel to see her more often than she travels to see you.

4) Learn to say "no" to a woman sometimes. It's attractive.

5) What do you do when you're not with your girlfriend? What's your drive and ambition? If you lose your drive, you will lose your woman.

6) If you call her twice or more and she ignores you, ignore her when she calls you back.

7) If she threatens to leave you to get her own way, stay calm and let her go.

8] If you spend $200 on her birthday and she only spends $50 on yours, spend $50 on her next birthday. You get the idea. The relationship dynamic is actually very similar to the Push/Pull dynamic in pickup.

We cannot hold your hand for every text you receive. Don't text her back because then you are falling into her frame. She is so used to calling the shots and ordering you around that she's not used to you not replying to one of her nice texts. Deep down she is insecure. Let her squirm and reply in your own time. You need to slowly regain control of the relationship because she has stolen your "trousers" and you've been wearing the skirt for so long. It will take time.

The dynamic between you and her should be like Father to Daughter, not Son to Mother as it is right now.

beautiful

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Tried to resist rising to this, but just had to comment The way I always view the boyfriend / husband in these situations is like my very own personal eunuch. That is to say, he is like a castrated man who looks after the woman emotionally and financially and also protects her against advances from other men when I'm not around. If she does fuck him out of sympathy, she thinks about me. Two older women admitted to me they actually NEVER fuck their husbands (one is 43 the other is 51).

As for the sex...

- Whenever i start seeing a new girl with a BF or husband, this is usually how it goes. After we've got past the first few initial fucks and she has established i can make her cum hard, I make her strip and get on her knees, while i remain clothed. i have a black leather dog collar with metal spikes and a chain lead which I put around the girl's neck while she is on her knees waiting for my instructions. Great for dragging her around on all fours and extra friction on your cock for blowjobs. The most useful tool for training your woman in the bedroom is a collar. Highly recommended, but remember not to whip it out the first time you fuck or she will freak out. Start domming with your hands first before you move onto collars and impliments.

- I have a ball gag which I use if the girl is being too loud and killing my boner. Extra "STFU" gaffer tape on hand if necessary. Also force blindfold and earplugs for maximum domination.

- My mattress is fitted with restraining straps for the clinically insane. You can fill in the rest.

- An assortment of whips, canes, paddles and a tawse* (a type of strap split down the middle). One cougar I am currently seeing had to lie to her husband and said she had haemorrhoids (piles) because she couldn't sit down for a week. Admittedly got carried away that time lol. She even bought piles cream to make it seem more legit lol.

- I have trained the aforementioned cougar to dominate another younger FB with my whip while I sit and watch in the corner masturbating. Just realised I've never admitted that to anyone! Actually makes me feel like a pervert writing about it, hah!

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