He just needs to learn to respect himself, get rid of the scarcity mindset and let her or any future girlfriends know he's prepared to leave them and find someone else if they treat him badly.

I wouldn't be with a woman who would accept a guy treating them like shit. They make bad girlfriends. I sure as hell wouldn't accept being treated like shit by a girl either because there's no way should could respect me.

Why the fuck can't men be men?
Do not call, do not text, you owe nothing.
Wipe your dick on her bedroom curtians, walk away.
Get up in the morning do 50 pushups, go back, fuck her sister.
Call it a good day.

You can bet your dick that's what she did.

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OP, if the way you text is the way you talk to this girl, I'll tell you what, it looks like nagging to me. Nagging kills attraction; therefore, your girl slept with another guy. I'm pretty sure about that.

Nah. Nah. It isn't crystal ball gazing. This is experience talking. Although I haven't been cheated on yet (or maybe I haven't caught any girl yet cheating on me), I've banged several girls who cheated on their husbands and boyfriends. The pattern doesn't stray. That's just the way it is.

When a girl wants to sleep with a guy, with or without your knowledge, she wants to fuck that guy.

After reading all of the insights from the dudes around here who have lots of experiences and are very good with women (too bad Neo hasn't posted in your thread yet; he's got a very sharp understanding of these kinds of relationship situations), I'm gonna go with Heywood on this one, just walk away without saying a word.

Yep, as the other guys have said, work on yourself. Work on attractive qualities and purge your non-attractive qualities. The next time something like this happens to you in the future, you'll be better prepared for a fuck buddy mindset. Work on your fuck buddy mindset. Hunter_Foxe and Wolfwood have good pointers on this.

Some might seem to be giving radical, angry advices on here. Don't be fooled. Those are very good advices. These guys have been cheated on. Listen to them. The old wisdom holds very true in this case: Don't ask a plumber how to make bread, ask the baker.

Traveler, Hunter_Foxe and I may seem calmer because we are basically guys that girls cheat with. It's a different perspective so I think we have somewhat flawed insights. Yes, the three of us are wrong. Damn it.

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She text me last night. I left it for an hour or so, and said "we need to have a talk." She replied "what's wrong baby?? What is the matter??" I said "we just need to discuss some things". She replies, "Goodnight." I said, "If that is what you want." And left it there.

I put on my Tiler Dirton Smile and say

"I don't fight with women. I don't set rules. If this isn't what I want, I walk away. It is the same for any woman."

I say this to her in person or on the phone, there is no debate. The alpha male does not get hurt by women. I have a fucking huge ego.

If I show hurt or anger, it shows me to be vulnerable, that in my mind loses attraction. It is premature to end this one for this.

However, if I show that I don't give a shit like this, but am ready to walk away, as if I don't really care, does that set a marker that I think it is acceptable in the relationship for either of us not to care?

I am absolutely capable of smashing this one up, and I know you say don't burn bridges. I can just easily lose my temper and say "what the fuck is wrong with you? How the fuck do you think that's acceptable?" but as I said before I have been through many women before I got to her and I like the stability, the sex and the intellectual stimulation (believe or not she is post-grad in a business school) that she offers.

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I tell you what the bottom line is. I don't expect to have to deal with shit like this. This shit is fucking degrading.

I tell you how I see it, all you alpha males telling me I am weak. And you are right. That letter would have been fucking weak.

I see this as hedonism. PUA, is hedonism and nihilism. I've read the books. In an infinite universe nothing is bigger than your reality, so your reality is as important as anything else. Life is game, you life it as best you can, you be the best version of you you can be. Therefore you need;

Physical maximisation - the hunter instinct; strive for physical excellence; training, weight lifting, martial arts etc
A great diet - You are what you consume, the better you eat the more closer to your best you will be
Health - You need to be healthy, capable of fucking, capable of living
Independence and control - You need to have control over your life
Sex and mastery of yourself - You need to express the awesomeness (the true meaning of the word) of life through your sexuality, do what you are here for, every motivation in your life comes from your sexuality, the love of the female vagina, every woman is a purveyor of pussy, never let it be said that is not awesome, but every woman providing the same.
Intellectual stimulation and mastery, self actualisation - hunting - You need activity where you are living to your potential, being challenged, stimulated, sex fuels the fire for you to be giving back, for you to be a leader

To give back is not instinctive, it is a conscious decision. My philosophy is holistic morality. I am going to use my masculinity and my sexuality to live as I am programmed to naturally, at my best level, my highest level of motivation. I have a top 2% IQ, so with that comes a responsibility to give something back. If I spend £10 in a bar, if that £10 could have saved some's life somewhere in the world, there is no way that I am not culpable for that person's death. Do not be fooled into thinking that this is any less than a civilisation built on exploitation. Yes some people are built better that others, survival of the fittest. 85 people control half of the world's wealth. That is not fucking natural.

So holistic morality. My philosophy is to make as much money as I can, so that I can be seen to give it away, to shout about this. To do this I need sky high motivation.

Lets say I am not as good as I think I am. Who cares? There is no innocence in ignorance. I still have a responsibility not to be complicit in a civilisation that is built on unnatural exploitation and human suffering.

Be the entrepreneur, the opportunity to get wealth is there, do you have the energy of the alpha male to grab that on your own, your own motivation alone, no one pushing you to utilise every minute, to put passion and energy and 100% into something boring and mundane because of the fact that you know this is making you a leader and bringing you more female value, that pussy is getting wetter, whether it be 1 or 1000 pussies. When you attract one pussy, you are attracting them all. Attraction is universal.

To pull this back to my girlfriend, I found with her that she understood this concept of shared responsibility, globalism and holistic morality. This is a conscious idea, not an natural instinct to fuck as much pussy as you can. Also, to get to highest level of life that you are capable of being at, by ensuring that all of your needs are being met, so that you are in the best possible position to give back. A balance, Ying and Yang. After her, to me, a women became a tick box thing, that is why I no longer go out to fuck every pussy, because I choose to stoke my flame with one women, by being as attractive as I can, and fucking her well. Monogamy suits me, it may not be perfect, but it is suitable to facilitate my lifestyle.

That is why I find this whole situation degrading. I am a leader in my life, I will succeed or crash and burn, there will be no middle ground. Therefore, if a women gets the privilege of sucking my cock, I expect some fucking respect and standards of behaviour.

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Bro, a high IQ will not make you good with women. It's all about managing her emotions and banging her pussy real good. It's about EQ and bedroom skills. Monogamy is good but you'll need to select one who will respect you, serve you, and love you as a man.

The best way to do that, in my opinion, is banging 6 girls a week and choose the best fit for your personality.

Which one do you prefer best, a woman who loves your money or a woman who loves your cock and doesn't want to bang any other cock but yours? This one here is a weak area in your life. Let's fix it.

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I never suggested that my IQ level made me any better with women. A measure of your conscious intellect is not relevant, just means you have good genes. I don't have money. What I believe raises you Eq is living a natural lifestyle, as in eat, exercise (build muscle, stronger better protector of woman), stimulate the mind, be a leader (independent, take no shit) and fuck. Life is about the feel good factor, that is your ability to enjoy it. Our ultimate enjoyment comes through expression of our sexuality. I am used to having a girl that loves my cock, that's the point. I chose this one, maybe not out of 6 a week, but out of many.

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So what you're saying is you don't need to fix anything.

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yes you do

and that is not always good in attracting woman

try to control it

No man I don't. I don't know how to deal with this situation. It's beginning to sound terminal.

She is in her exams at the moment and there is a problem with her aunt (whose marriage is breaking down), who is like a mother to her because of her parents domestic problems. I forgot that she is in exams. What the fuck am I supposed to do now?

This is the message she sent,

" I don t know why you made me your crises and caprices in recent priods, I try to manage but the only thing you do is to increase the stress in my life. I want you to know that going through a very bad peiode and the most important thing now are my exams which will determine my future and insteed of helping me you only put pressure on me. everything I ask you foris to understand me, we are supposed to flourish in a relationship and support each other and I always make sacrifices for you to satisfy you Yesterday I was in my aunt place . so I could not connect. I found time to talk to you but you ignored me. thank you."

My response, "You have my support and my love. Your exams are paramount."

What else was I suppose to do?

I say something like, "You really don't know what the problem is do you?".

To me each of those enters into a discussion and that is the last thing I want. A girl will always argue more on her side, even if she is unsure that she is in the right.

Should I send her this, "I am stressed because my girlfriend was going to allow a guy to sleep in her bed because he was bored, no other reason." It seems infantile, and I doubt she cheated. There is no evidence of guilt in her words.

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Here is what I want to send to her in response,

"I am finding it difficult to reconcile that my girlfriend was going to allow another guy to sleep in her bed; this is the only reason for my stress."

or

"I am finding it difficult to reconcile that my girlfriend was going to allow another guy to sleep in her bed because he was bored; this is the only reason for my stress."

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Age; 26
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What that makes you is needy and clingy.To girls clingy guys are like Wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking!

You are listening to her when she says she's innocent because that's what you want to hear.

You are being taken for a fool. It's unfair the way she is treating you, it really is. Shes beating away at your confidence without even caring.

Get the fuck out there and find someone golden. You will. Even if she's the apple of your eye has a gold plated pussy, and can suck start a Harley, and you don't want anyone else - you have to do this, because she is going to continue cheating on you and fucking you over til she just tries of you and walks.

If your looking for a relationship, go get a healthy relationship dude, you deserve it. Sluting it up with another guy in your bed? Pathetic.

Don't fucking text, don't call, don't make excuses for your actions.

Don't be a doormat it's that simple.

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"No, I am not making this problem. The only thing that is on my mind is that you were going to let a guy sleep in your bed, for no other reason than he was bored."

I sent her this. The balls in her court now. I am not arguing with her on this one.

I shouldn't have said that. I should have left it. Now it's just more needness on her mind.

Well it's done now. It's over I suppose. She's going to think me unreasonable and irrational, wasting her time. I can't now go back to her and say "it's fine. Leave it. Let me support you."

This is a good a girl man. It would be really out of character for her to cheat. This is fucking tearing me apart.

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Uhuh. This is the triggering point where she'll rattle off your relationship crimes since day 1. It's not gonna end up good.

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There isn't many. We've been good up until this point. Tell me what to do. I know I should have left it. Bare in mind here, she is really busy and does not need this on her mind. Weak that may sound but I've been to business school.

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Age; 26
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