Hey guys,

so last night I was hanging out with this girl I've been talking to for the past week. I was with her and her sister, and we were getting high / drunk. We ended up at her sisters place with all of her room mates, and she was doing all of the indicators for attraction. Touching me, being kind of annoying but playful, everything. Was doing alright and going for the lay later that night.

I'll spare the boring stuff.

After all of this they dropped me off at my place and within five minutes I get a text "Come to my dorm? " from this girl, and the first time all night showing any form of afc came through. I sent an instant "sure " but pulled out a "maybe not anymore..." After she made a snarky comment about that. I proceeded to take thirty minutes to get to her dorm, not much farther then five minutes.

I get there and it's instantly known why I'm there, to lay into this girl. She wasn't beating around the push, as she had mentioned a few days ago she had put her twin beds together, perks of having no roommate I guess. After a while we get going at it, she's breathing heavy and biting me. I start going down town, as I've come to learn many girls are different when it comes to being eaten out. Wasn't doing much for her, so I decided to just go for the lay.

We're going at it for a good fifteen minutes, and I just couldn't come. Something I would normally be able to fix but due to the lack of room (Literally 1 1/2 feet from the ceiling) I couldn't do much but just the basics. Kept going and I was actually getting embarrassed, starting to talk and make excuses. She ended up pulling me out and getting dressed.

To make things worst, I pulled another afc. I stayed! I don't know why, I figured I would tell her this wasn't the first time this has happened, not being able to finish the first time having sex with a girl. I tried, but just stammered and got all confusing. Ended up laying there trying to comfort her, but she kept scooting away. Was a little to late for me to bail without being rude so I just stayed.

Ended up getting a call from a buddy that saved me, though the circumstances were unfortunate. Didn't like the idea dhv using my friend's dad's death so I just told her I had to leave to help someone.

Anyways, my question is has anyone else not been able to finish the first time having sex with a girl? If so what did you say / do to fix this and get another shot with her or just in general?

Its cool man, the most important thing is dont make a big deal out of it, and I mean here between you and yourself as well, not only between you and the girl. Were you using a condom?

I am going to assume you were. Try going at it quite slow towards the end, I find that that gives me the most pleasure, and then when you cannot keep on teasing yourself anymore, go as hard as you can until you come. If you cant, just pull out after some good time, and jerk on her, there is nothing wrong with that. The most important thing is stay calm, breathre properly from your stomach, and focus on the girl, and it should work out.

With that said, I know a couple of my friends who are real horny fuckers, and get laid often, but they dont come most of the time. I mean these guys fuck for 2 hours or more, but they dont come, and yeah they do end up having blue balls. But just say sorry I cannot come while laughing or smiling and dont make a big deal out of it.

It's been bugging me all day haha, haven't texted her or anything today. Not sure if I should, but she does have a meet today so I might do a comfort text asking about that.

Anyways yes, I was wearing a condom one of the few disciplined practices a man should do. I did laugh it off with a qweerky laugh / grin and just laid down. Wasn't much physical contact after that though, she kept her back to me for most of the night.

I think I'll be fine, as I've only been talking to this girl for about a week and a half and saw my name on her phone was xxx<3, and if not there are plenty of other college girls out there.

Also been looking this up quite a bit today, and it seems to be pretty common especially with newer partners, so trying not to sweat it too much.

Thanks for the reply man!

Ended up texting her with "Hey xxx! Did you qualify in the mens?" then a minute later with a haha jk!. Was ignored so went for the third text, risky but not really worried about this. Told her I found her attractive and not to feel bad about last night yada yada. Kept it short. She ended up replying that she didn't go.

Ended up saying the worst chummiest possible thing ever, "You coulda done good!" with no reply, so looks like cold turkey tonight!

Haha oh well, lesson learned

Dont sweat it man. I saully dont come the first time either but thats usaully because iM shit face drunk.

Could have been worse could have been whisky dick.

I once failed to get an erection at all with a girl, played it cool, made light of it and saved the situation.

Haha yeah, I'm not to worried about it. Even if she goes completely cold I'll be out sarging hard

And whiskey dick is the worst, I think I was to high to really do anything that night. One of those nights, but cant live without learning.

You're overthinking it.

Sometimes, some girls who are insecure or not that worldly think that you not finishing means you're not sufficiently attracted to her. A girl I couldn't get it up for thought that, but reacting badly and worrying about it will make it worse and will make it happen again.

Stress and other factors can play a part in stuff like this, I've had performance issues when majorly stressed with work.

I know, overthinking is one of my worst behaviors.

I think it was due to anxiety, but it seems to happen the first time I lay a girl so I'm not sure. But it's all good, not too worried about it right now, and I realize I'm not the only one that it happens too.

She most likely got offended because you couldn't bust your nut with her. She thought something was wrong with her.

Don't make excuses or sweat it. Should have just stayed for a bit then tried it on again(On the floor?). Saying "This never happens" is basically telling her "wtf is wrong with your pussy? It can't make me cum!" That's like a chick turning around to you, having sex, always orgasming then turning around to you and saying "I'm sorry I didn't cum... This never happens to me." How the hell would you feel? Pretty pissed and down in yourself.

Yeah, sometimes you can have problems keeping an erection or cumming.. most of the time for me if I can't cum it's because i'm hammered which is totally normal. It's worse if you have whiskey dick and can't get an erection in which case the chick isn't going to take it personally unless she's severely insecure. Only time I couldn't get an erection was when I was a 16 year old virgin and that was down to nervs, nothing wrong with that.

Next time don't say stupid shit that indirectly puts it on her. Just say you're drunk/high and it's hard to cum. If you're hard just get her to suck you off and give you a handjob while you finger her or go down on her. Keep it sexual and you'll be able to cum eventually. If not just pass out and fuck her in the morning.

Text the chick, tell her you reacted badly and were drunk. Who knows, maybe she'll text you back and want to have at it again.

This has happened to me many times when I was drinking heavily. QUIT BRINGING IT UP OVER TEXT! If you want to talk to her about it (and you shouldn't) do it in person. The only way to make it right is by banging her and busting one all over her. Texting dumb shit about it is only making it worse. Try to get her alone and instead of telling her you find her attractive SHOW HER!

Haha yeah, I haven't texted her since she went cold on me. My text game isn't all that great so not sure how to go about that. If I do get the chance to see her again I probably won't bring it up, and just see how she's acting towards me, I'll probably have to do some comfort/attraction building again, but that's if I get the chance.

And yeah, whiskey dick sucks. Just couldn't bust a nut and I put that it on her, which isn't a good thing to do as she does have a smokin' body.

I usually think of the best porn scene I ever seen, close my eye and pump away

Tried that hah.

But now it's getting to me, getting down on myself for no reason. Even texted her, but admitted to myself I'm still an AFC which is true. So I've got work to do, but it'll all pan out.

This used to happen sometimes when I was first at it and more nervous

hey, it's not a big deal unless you make it a big deal


just wear a big smile and be cool with it, and if she asks, say that you enjoyed the sex anyway and there's always another time

if pushed you can confidently say I don't always come the first time I'm with someone
you cna even kid maybe if you wear something extra hot next time etc.

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