So I had a girlfriend I was seeing off and on for a year. She broke up with me over a month ago and now I found out she is seeing someone new. She was the one who broke it off. But the whole break up was strange. The night I went to see her we made out and we fell asleep together and I even had some second base action. Even though we did all that she still told me she wanted to break up and she was even crying. Given all that I figured she still cared. So even though she said she wanted to break up I didn't believe her. After that I tried calling and texting but she was ignoring me. She said she didn't have feelings for me but what we did the last night I saw her obviously didn't match what she was saying. I gave it some days and tried to talk to her again but she just continued to ignore me.

Today I found out that she is seeing someone now. I am having trouble dealing with it now mostly because she is a good person and was always good to me. She is a college grad and I really didn't have anything negative to say about her. In past break ups my exes always had major flaws which helped me not care about losing them. But this girl is just all around great. I have been with some effed up women and this girl was just good she cooked for me and she has a good career. I want her back but don't know what to do. What do you guys suggest I do besides the obvious "start dating again" response. I am not taking this break up too well. Should I tell her I know shes seeing someone? Should I try to see her again?

she broke up because she is seeing someone else. and you only found out now
quite typical, if girl breaks up she is seeing someone else. men do not know about it. women do not tell the truth about this one, they just say they want breakup.

I have had women break up with me before but she was crying when she broke up with me and we got very physical too. In the past when women have broken up with me that has never happened. So I didn't believe deep down that she wanted to break up. But I feel that her friends getting in her ear had a lot to do with it too. This break up is tougher than my others because there really wasn't much bad about her. Usually I would just focus on the negative stuff exes did to move on but I don't have anything to go off of in this case.

I was just wondering if there is anything I could do to get her back. What more can I do to power through this?

Oneitise. You have it. Consider it a disease; a problem you need to fix then work towards fixing it.

Once you take a mental note of where you are with her and why you actually feel the way you do(Sense of loss) you'll come out on top, man.

The other poster was right to an extent. If it's an on and off relationship or you're losing the fizz in it your woman is going to be more receptive to other guys and because most of them are new she's only going to see positive qualities and look to trade up. Probably won't last long anyway but the way I see it is she's still interested. You can hook up with her every now and then just focus on being happy, social, non-needy and self-improvement. She'll see this, the cracks in her new relationship will become apparent and she'll start having second thoughts about her break up with you "He wasn't that bad, we had our ups and downs... he was actually better than this chode and the sex was amazing."

Simple. If it was a matter of her not doing anything with you when you ended it then just move on and improve yourself anyway but she didn't. She chose to get intimate with you.

Here's what you do: Message her and tell her you're happy for her. Keep communication open if it didn't end badly(Name calling, insulting one another, etc., etc.). In a few weeks you can meet up for a coffee. Her seeing you, especially if you've improved and stuff, will make her want you more. She'll probably give you the fuck me eyes in which case you call her out on it and tell her to stop. That night you're going to fuck her and you're going to fuck her good.

She was crying because she felt guilty, both about cheating on you and for leaving you.

On this occasion, don't fuck other women for now. Don't contact her either. Be alone and mourn the loss. Be happy being by yourself. Don't fuck other women until you're happy just being alone. Otherwise you will fuck up your next few relationships trying to replace this girl. Neediness stems from going from girl to girl because you "need" a girl to feel complete. Sometimes when I break up with a girl, they are keen to show off their hot new arm candy, usually in places I hang out, and out of the corner of my eye I can see them looking across at me desperately to see my reaction. And it annoys the hell out of them when i don't react. But this merely shows she is just using the guy to "prove" she has moved on. Don't be like that, it's so painfully obvious what's going on. I find it irritates my exes more when they know I'm out having an awesome time by myself, dancing and goofing around.

Being with a girl should be a bonus to your already awesome life. Stop viewing girls as your "other half".

Ways you can do this:

1) Go to the gym and get ripped. For yourself. Not to impress women. It increases your state and is scientifically proven to boost your mood and testosterone.

2) Learn a new skill like dancing, a musical instrument or a language. For yourself. Not to impress women. These are useful life skills anyway. The fact that they make you more attractive to women is just a bonus.

3) Work on your career and work hard for yourself to improve your life. Push for a promotion, get a better job, start a business. For yourself. Not to impress women or your ex.

Yes. "Voices." I feel for you. If there's one thing I can't stand it's a bunch of no good bitches that a girl calls "friends" not minding their own damn business. When a girl's family/friends whisper in her ear to "dump the dope" because he's not "suited" to her or good enough, or whatever their manipulation may be... What they're really saying isn't, "he isn't right for you," it's, "He's not right for us."

Dudes. Don't be bitter. It's a negative attitude which hurts you in the long run.

A bitch who listens to her bitches' bitching instead of making her own choices is not worth bitching about.

Do this and you won't have time to "bitch about bitches bitching", and she will be off your mind in no time as well. Focus on yourself, not the women, and the women will come.