Try and sleep with her again. Just go for it, if you fail, you fail. There are more girls out there.

while i understand the mindset i never mentioned that I go to a small school of about 2000 so girls that are this good looking and ready aren't a dime a dozen. However I get what you're saying and know I have to take on an anti-oneitis mindset

You can either carry on interpreting her signals, trying to read her and worrying about it or getting a slight boost when she smiles at you until you're overthinking it massively. Or you can just try to kiss her and find out once and for all.

Very true. Yeah I'm putting it on the backburner for now. All of you on here and other forums have slapped some sense into me. I don't wanna be the stubborn PUA that doesn't take the advice of others. If it happens again, it does. But if not, I have some possible freshman options I should probably start looking into..

I think the only reason I was being so stubborn was because she's the hottest I've pulled so far and because I've never been on this side of an f-close (especially with a girl like that)

Things will eventually fall into place I think

You already know what you have to do man! You said it yourself, sack up and be the man. Make her feel like a woman and she will want it, be dominant, tease her, maker her feel safe and yet unsure if you're going to make a move. Make her beg for it. Sex for a woman is an experience, not an act.

Odds are, you will fuck up. Thats the game you're playing. If/when you fuck up with this girl, move on to the next girl you'll fuck up with, and then the next and so on until you hit the jackpot again.

Good luck my friend.

if anything, stick with ur initial thought and make her ur FB. Ur already doubting to be something more than that, there shouldn't be more bad reasons to be more with her than good ones.

Save urself some pain, if u don't have much experience i wouldn't get emotionally involved with such an "active" girl yet.

Ok, you had sex and when you kept looking at her the next day she would look away.
Sounds like you have set some kind of hook in her.

Then you said she came back?
Sounds like she wants more & her internal "Good Girl" mechanism allows her to rationalise what you did... but she wants more.

Stop trying to talk about the night, when she comes over again, ask her what she is going to bring for food.

Challenge her, make her work for your time.

See if she can cook, or ask her to bring over Chinese.

If you talk to her again, NEVER EVER EVER talk about THAT night.
Tease her about something and look away.

It sounds like she is into you but your Inner Wussy keeps screwing it up.

She is a girl, in college that you are interested, don't ever let the word GF or relationship get into your head until you have been having sex for 3 months.

For gods sake also stop talking about it, treat it like it never happened.

This shows her you know how to fuck her well... & YOU KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.

She doesnt want you to spread the word on campus that she can be slutty.

She wants to be thought of as this good girl who... when around you turns into this slut for the night.

She wants to release her inner she sex hulk... and you get to enjoy it.

If anything else, you need to go out and find another girl that she knows and fuck her brains out & then stop staring at her when she is with other. Let her enjoy wondering if you are thinking about her...

Let me know if that helps.

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Allow me to give you my clinical diagnosis and what to do but you must follow these directions to a T.

You have one-itis. Go out and game some other chicks and you will be cured of your calamity.

Next time you see her, act cool calm and collected. Treat her like you would treat any other girl and when she gives you shit tests play it off like you don't care.

THEN (you need to see her socially and act like you don't give a fuck before this happens hence the directions above, It wont work if you do aforementioned below first)

Next time you see her in her room and are alone with her, slowly and deliberately walk to the door and close it, Then lock it. Make sure there is a loud click.

Give her a stare like you are piercing the back of her head with your eyes and then grab her and kiss her passionately. If you're already hard, grab her hand and put it on your cock. Whisper something in her ear like "I can't stop thinking about how hot you were the other night" You should be able to figure the rest out.

Trust me kid. This shit works.

BIG UPDATE boys, kind of a shameful one for me. Alcohol really fucked me over on this.

Like I said she lives across my hall in the dorms. I slept over at a freshmen's room on Friday (HB9 couldn't go out that night due to sickness) and made it known by slipping into conversation that 'I left my wallet in [dorm name for strictly freshmen students]'. Anyways, with some help from friends we were able to make it blaringly obvious to her that I hooked up with another girl on Friday in a very subtle way that she definitely didn't suspect at all. She probably thinks she's some sort of detective for putting it together.

Changes with her attitude were immediately noticeable - within the hour she began acting more interested in me, coming to my room, asking when I would text her, and if I wanted to go to Starbucks with her (I declined). She came back and stuck around in my room, took me and my friends to go get alcohol, went to eat, etc and complied with everything. Basically, I had a guaranteed f-close that night.

We started pre-gaming with the alcohol we bought together, and I ended up much more drunk than I should have been straight off the bat. Basically I came on too strong that night (I told her maybe 2x that night I wanted to sleep with her after k-closing a few times and dancing - I know I know, I was fucking up) and she wasn't as drunk as me so I'm sure I came off like an asshole/tactless.

Anyways, she called the other guy and they met up and fucked that night. As I type this I cringe because even my buddies knew how easy it should have been to fuck her that night. I hung out with the rest of our friends (in that friend group, she's part of the immediate friend group) for the rest of the night before sleeping. No action whatsoever. She knows I saw and know, she knows I probably feel salty about it.

So boys, where do I go from here? She reacted to the whole 'me hooking up with a freshman' situation and came back to me (stronger than ever), but I managed to ruin that the same night. I haven't seen nor talked to her since (despite her living across the hall), but I think she did see that she got a reaction out of me by fucking the other guy. The alcohol brought out the AFC in me and I'm never going to sabotage myself like that again.

Do I approach her? Avoid her for a while? Act like nothing happened? She's fucked this guy 2x without me doing anything in between except for some k-closes on her that night and fucking her before he ever came around. Should I apologize for being an asshole? In person/text? I'm inevitably going to see her again as she lives across my hall and we have the same group of friends that goes out 1-2x to parties together every weekend.

Mannnnn I have never fucked up like this and seriously have no idea on how to act. Never again will I drink like that for a pregame

I did do some of that - check my most recent (non-quoting) post and you'll see a situation update. Your input would be appreciated.

Yeah man, you're right I don't have much experience and she definitely is more active than I have ever dealt with. I just posted a big update, if you'll check that post (on this thread) and give me feedback it would be much appreciated.

My inner wussy was screwing things up but she was being very different/even a little closed around me until she found out I hooked up with another girl on Friday. Saturday she was acting like she wanted to be my girlfriend (after she found out) but I managed to fuck it up with alcohol that night.

Read my latest update to this thread - I fucked up a guaranteed f-close and seriously don't know what to do from here. Thinking I might just have to next her but I don't know how I should talk to her when I inevitably see her in the hallways etc, plus our friends all go out together EVERY weekend and we're all talking about living together next year.

Thanks - I bagged another chick but still have one-itis I think. Fuck. And this weekend something happened that might deter your plan (which would probably work and I would have tried). I've made a new post on this thread (not a reply to any of your posts) that details the new situation. Hopefully you can help me out!!

Reposting this so it's easier to find. This post is identical to my last post but it got lost amidst all the replies above


BIG UPDATE boys, kind of a shameful one for me. Alcohol really fucked me over on this.

Like I said she lives across my hall in the dorms. I slept over at a freshmen's room on Friday (HB9 couldn't go out that night due to sickness) and made it known by slipping into conversation that 'I left my wallet in [dorm name for strictly freshmen students]'. Anyways, with some help from friends we were able to make it blaringly obvious to her that I hooked up with another girl on Friday in a very subtle way that she definitely didn't suspect at all. She probably thinks she's some sort of detective for putting it together.

Changes with her attitude were immediately noticeable - within the hour she began acting more interested in me, coming to my room, asking when I would text her, and if I wanted to go to Starbucks with her (I declined). She came back and stuck around in my room, took me and my friends to go get alcohol, went to eat, etc and complied with everything. Basically, I had a guaranteed f-close that night.

We started pre-gaming with the alcohol we bought together, and I ended up much more drunk than I should have been straight off the bat. Basically I came on too strong that night (I told her maybe 2x that night I wanted to sleep with her after k-closing a few times and dancing - I know I know, I was fucking up) and she wasn't as drunk as me so I'm sure I came off like an asshole/tactless.

Anyways, she called the other guy and they met up and fucked that night. As I type this I cringe because even my buddies knew how easy it should have been to fuck her that night. I hung out with the rest of our friends (in that friend group, she's part of the immediate friend group) for the rest of the night before sleeping. No action whatsoever. She knows I saw and know, she knows I probably feel salty about it.

So boys, where do I go from here? She reacted to the whole 'me hooking up with a freshman' situation and came back to me (stronger than ever), but I managed to ruin that the same night. I haven't seen nor talked to her since (despite her living across the hall), but I think she did see that she got a reaction out of me by fucking the other guy. The alcohol brought out the AFC in me and I'm never going to sabotage myself like that again.

Do I approach her? Avoid her for a while? Act like nothing happened? She's fucked this guy 2x without me doing anything in between except for some k-closes on her that night and fucking her before he ever came around. Should I apologize for being an asshole? In person/text? I'm inevitably going to see her again as she lives across my hall and we have the same group of friends that goes out 1-2x to parties together every weekend.

Mannnnn I have never fucked up like this and seriously have no idea on how to act. Never again will I drink like that for a pregame

Alcohol released your inner wuss.

There is an easy way to fix this.

1. Extend your right hand out as far as you can
2. Open your palm
3. Slap yourself for listening to all the fratboy bs you are hearing at school.

A PUA doesnt need alcohol, women get drunk on him.

Go find another girl at school and enjoy her.

If this HB9 comes back tell her she ruined her chances... move on !!!!!

That being said YOU ARE IN THE HOLY LAND OF GIRLS.

FIND ANOTHER GIRL !!!!

Stop acting like Mikey from Swingers !!!!!

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