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That's not what's happening here, though. He appears to be approaching women on the street and they walk away within 30 seconds. Following them is the last thing he should be doing in that scenario. That's not being dominant, that's being creepy.
No, it's persistent. Don't ever assume that something was creepy. Creepyness is only in your mind.
Mmm, no... That's creepy.
The following isn't meant to antagonise or put you down but help so don't take offence...
Don't take up bad habits and presume just because you think it's not creepy it isn't. You seem to be reading into things for face value here and taking vague guidelines as the be all, end all for every scenario and encounter. There's a finesse to approaching, opening and being confident and non-threatening we all have to come to grips with it and perfect it. You learn that things aren't so black and white in most situations a lot of the base guidelines are there to get you off your ass and not be pegged down the first handful of times you attempt to approach and open a woman, all the while improving your technique. If you're persisting in doing something the wrong way and believing it's correct you're only hurting yourself. The mere fact you would argue this point with a more established PUA who clearly isn't a newbie only establishes the fact that you really suffer from this issue: You've blinded yourself and won't take criticism in order to grow and learn from things.
Reassess your approach and opening, tell us what it is you're saying and exactly how they react. Simply saying "They smile but then say they're leaving and walk away" doesn't indicate mixed signals. It just tells us that the woman is being polite by smiling but wants you to leave. Yeah, you'll hear that eye contact and a smile is an IOI but not every smile and eye contact is an IOI sometimes it's just how people are in certain situations(They could be intimidated or just want to be nice and not insult you) and then there are different types of smiles and eye contact that you really need to learn to see such as fake smiles:
http://www.picturelikethis.com/1/post/2 ... -tell.html
Fake smiles are easier to assess and analyse.
Eye contact is also easy. People place a lot of importance on dilation of the pupil but that's just too much to be taking account of when you're in a social environment(Which most likely involves alcohol which skews the responsiveness of the pupils). Don't place importance on the pupils but importance on where their eyes are directed and how long they're directed at you or other areas then consider the setting and situation you're both in. You obviously need to know the types of eye contact... A deep and serious look with a smile or grin or even a change to a deep look with narrowed eyebrows is an indication they want to fuck. If you pull this you're indicating you want her to play pogo on your love stick. She'll pick up on this, change her body language appropriately(if interested: Get closer, turn towards you and reciprocate the same eye contact in return with open body language. If not interested: The opposite, look away unimpressed, take a step back, close her body off from you or slightly turn to face away from you).
Glances and gazes generally mean there is some interest there. Maybe you caught her attention from the corner of her eye which was enough to investigate. Second glance is a level beyond this indicating an active interest. Long gazes tend to be deliberate and an invitation to approach.
Here's probably the best advice you'll hear in regard to this: Follow your gut in social situations like this.
Yep, follow your gut. Unconsciously you're aware of someone's attraction to you and your "gut" feeling will be "This girl likes me" but your consciousness will be fighting that back to save you from rejection in the odd chance it comes to it. Your unconscious will pick up on all the cues, tally up the eye contact, the glances and see things you wouldn't be consciously aware off but generally you'll have to get in close proximity to this person to really feel it. Your gut feeling can be anything really that would otherwise make you feel slightly off balance or elated around this woman but the clear way to know someone likes you is when you get "butterflies." You know that feeling in your stomach when you're near a girl you like and she shows interest in you? It's because she is interested. It's like the spark love stories harp on about, that spark is purely unconsciousness and unconscious' way of letting you know this person is interested in you. If you share that interest you feel happy and have a positive effect, if you don't share that interest you might feel a shyness and force a fake smile.
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