So guys I need your opinion on this one. I left my girlfriend of 6 months 4 days ago.

I’m having mixed emotions for the way things ended. Just wanted to know should I contact her and try to make things better. I’ll try to keep short.

Please help.

Started seeing this girl 6 months ago. Slept on the 2nd day and have been practically living together since then.

HB9 - 29 turning 30 in 10 days. I’m 22.
She wants to settle down soon and knows what we're doing is wrong. We've spoken about it a couple of times.

3 months back she saw some messages on my phone with an old friend – I wrote to her – I want you to be the first one on my new bed. I miss you lalalala. She read it and we broke up for a day. She got over it eventually and trusted me that there is nothing going on.

2 weeks ago she messaged me from work and was crying (her mom gave some marriage talk previous night) - We need to stop seeing each other unless you can promise or give me some hope that we can be together someday. I will fight my family for you. I really love and want to spend the rest of my life with you…… ( I told her its never going to happen. I cannot promise or give you any hope. My family wouldn’t agree. In reality I wouldn’t get married to such an older woman.)
Things were fine in 2 days. Back to normal.

The other day in the morning on the phone I told her that my old friend messaged me hi and I haven’t yet replied back to her.

Evening went fine. We went out for dinner and then to her place. At 1.30 am she woke and asked me if I still have the old friend’s messages. I told her I deleted my chat by mistake. She got so furious and started shouting and screaming that I was lying and she has a feeling that something was going on. And asked me to leave her house.

We fought till 3 and I finally left . Next day she called saying how much she misses me and was crying at work as well ( I put an impression that we broke up because of her behavior from last night).

5 pm she came to my place and cried for more than an hour to forgive her and let things be as they were and that she trusts me.

I told her – I really want to be with you. But after this it would be more difficult for both of us to part ways. So we should end it now and not see each other. She cried cried a lot.

I really want to be there for her. I know she is going through a very bad time. And that’s f**king my head at work and at night. I feel guilty for ending things this way.!!!

The chick has some serious attachment issues.

You've done well in calling the shots and being mature and respectful enough not to take advantage of a person so willing to give so much for little or nothing in return, only promises.

Stick to what you said: End it and leave her with reasoning behind your decision(She's too old, you're not ready, she needs to sort some things out, etc.). Be friends with her but make it clear you won't be together(Plus, in my opinion, the odd fuck every now and then isn't such a bad thing as long as she knows it wasn't leading to a relationship).

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Thanks guys for the replies. I haven't spoken to her since monday evening (when she came to see me)

I just got a call from her number on my landline. Luckily it's connected to the fax so she hung up..

Should I call her ???????????????????

Only if you want to fuck her. Other than that I don't see the point.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I don't want to fuck her. The whole thing will start again. And it will be more difficult to leave her in the future.

But i feel I'm being an asshole to her and that's killing me !

Your not. That asshole feeling only exists in your mind.

You sound smart for your age. And you've done everything right. Unfortunately, even a month or maybe isn't all it takes to shake free of someone completely. It takes time.

Your actually acting in her best interest.

Start seeing other girls.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks mate!

Called her. She started the usual BS that I'm cheater and how come she trusted me.

I told her if you feel that I lied to you all the time there is no point even talking about how things ended. Nice talk. Good night and I hung up.

I wasn't as mature as you are when I was 22, so fair play to you, can't fault you bruv.