This is probably my weakest area, mainly on how to react and respond during the moment and afterwards. What can I say and do to communicate that it is not a big deal and that it doesn't affect me? Carefree. Like I am a man with options.

My first thought is saying "I wanted to feel how it would be like to kiss you." Is this any good? Maybe its weak. What is better? What I am NOT going to do is apologize for trying to kiss her.

Sometimes there are moments where I want to kiss someone I know, but I don't and I inevitably lose my window of opportunity. With people I see regularly like classmates and stuff.

And if there is a more appropriate section for this question, please let me know.

well the first part is easy, when you lean in and she backs off, laugh a little bit, almost like a male giggle, and smile.

100% of the times i've gotten a kiss rejected it was in the dance floor, mainly because i wouldn't try to kiss a girl outside a dance floor if i was not 100% sure she's more into it than me. A kiss rejected at the dance floor is just what happends, a kiss rejected in real life is sooooo much more awkward isn't it?

so i have a whole post on how to destroy LMR when kissing on a dance floor, if you want you can check that out the article, you should find a way to apply it to situations outside the club, if thats what you are looking for. its part of a series called The 9 Lessons for Social Dynamics:

Lesson 3: The Kiss LMR Destroyer Routine
http://selfdevelopmentpua.blogspot.com. ... son-3.html

I personally suggest to you what you already know: classmates, coworkers, they are all trouble. dont run game on them, social circle game is a WHOLE different thing. I have some experience with that, mostly on what not to do, some success stories, but i havent posted anything on that yet so if you want i could give you personal advice, just pm me or send me an email at the email address below.

again, avoid going for the kiss outside the clubs unless you know she wont say know, and you know she wont say no when you can feel her attraction to you through the way she behaves and looks at you. you can feel this by just shutting your mental chatter and listening to something we all were born with: the sex(matting) instinct. just listen to your body, if you hear nothing, then dont go for the kiss unless you are in a party or a club!

hope this helps bro,

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0h, by the way, that routine i mentioned gave me 100% success rate so far.

i can only warranty it will work if what you are trying to accomplish is not to get a girl that doesnt like you to kiss you, but to get a girl that actually likes you and is just suffering from last minute resistance (LMR). Mystery can explain LMR way better than me.

cheers!

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Jason That's a very good post! and I read your article too, keep up the good work!

I agreed a lot on the tension part before I kiss i tell this line "Did you know that the moment before the kiss is better than the actual kiss" Then I go very close but i don't kiss! It works all the times, they kiss me first!

The best way to make it come off like you don't care is to not care. Anything else will not hold water.

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Try not to care, try even harder not to seem like you care, back off in general a little (and temporarily) without acting like you're offended.

I think saying, "I wanted to feel how it would be like to kiss you," probably wouldn't be the best response because it sounds like something a needy and inexperienced guy would say, like you hadn't kissed a lot before. Ideally you want it to be no big deal, failing that, you want it to be her who's weird, not you. Somewhat related story: There was this girl I fucked on the 2nd date. I kissed her on the first date on the 8th hole of minigolf, and when I went to kiss her for the 3rd time on the 11th hole she said, "You're needy aren't you?" With a smile I said: "No, I'm affectionate. Why aren't you affectionate, did your parents not hug you enough?" She laughed and loosened up after that, later telling me that she just wanted to make sure I wasn't a desperate guy.

If she just uses body language to reject you it's no big deal. As to how to proceed with a girl who says, "I don't kiss on the first date," I'd like to hear others' opinions on that... I'm yet to f close a girl who said that, but I am probably less charming after they say that because I always think it's bullshit or they're total prudes when they do. My inclination for the future is to sort of shrug and say, "Hm, that's weird," and then ask her about something unrelated. Then look for an opportunity to kiss her later but let her close the last of the distance after I start moving in.

Kind of 101, but just in case you don't know: Try escalating step-by-step. Always start a date with a hug. Proceed with friend stuff like shoulder taps, back pats, and high fives. The first thing I do that I wouldn't do to a friend is usually messing with her hair, briefly at first and starting from the back. Most girls find it soothing, a few find it creepy. If she seems comfortable with you, e.g., moving her hair out of her face doesn't make her look uncomfortable, she's usually ready for a kiss. When you go for it, you hold eye contact longer and go in somewhat slowly, giving her time to turn if she's not ready.

Lothario has the best response. But if you're looking for a good recovery line just say one of these smooth recovery lines with indifference:

-Hot.
-Oops.
-Way to ruin the moment.

Or just don't say anything.

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What's worked for me over the last 5 yrs is:

I only ever do this when walking, outside, changing venues for example... also, on dates i choose locations where there are pleasant places to go for a walk. the harbour is the best.

Me: Is that your hair I keep smelling
Her: blah blah
Me: let me check, but don't get any funny ideas (grab her her at the longest tip, and smell it)
Me: Yea it's your hair, ok... you need to stay away from me.
Her: usually confused and somewhat aroused at this
Me: blah blah
Her: blah blah
Me: uncomfortable silence
Me: I'm trying so hard not to kiss you right now (then I push her away, or bump her away with my shoulder)
Her: 50% of the time, she says something like "why don't you?"... then of course it's on.
Her: 50% of the time she gets really bashful. so I stop and prop myself against a wall or railing, and just pull her toward me gently, to test resistance.. usually there is none, and i just keep smiling like I know what's on her mind and kiss her slow.

Boom

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