I knew she was into girls, but I don't believe she is bi-sexual, she is just hyper-sexual and horny. Obviously, this is hot on the one hand, so all the teenagers that are going to tell me how awesome this is please don't bother.

Honestly, I know this is a shit test; she told me because she was mad at not getting enough attention. She is not bi-sexual. She is obsessed with 50-shades of grey and my dick.

Then I get a text from her, different to normal, “I love you boy :*” again deliberately implying that she loves me as her boy, her SPAM being her girl. I know this is all shit testing but she's getting out of control. Please re-frame from telling me to move onto other pussy. Now I have another text from her, “I love you baby boy”.

My initial text to her was describing how every girl I've been with is bi, regardless of their chemical attraction, tell me something new....this is boring 3:-) or something to that effect. If it is any usefulness, I am also slightly bi-sexual, but I don't want to show her I am allowing her to run the games.

She is out of line. She has not been honest with me about her relationship with her SPAM, and she is allowing herself to get away with something that is unacceptable and morally wrong, she has found away to fuck with me and not resisting doing it. She is not in her boundaries, she is doing something wrong and I cannot let this get out of control. Honestly, I am hurting that she was not outward by this, but at the same time I know that she did not think this was a big deal. However, she did at one point say, I was enough for her, after implying that she was with her SPAM.

It is subtlety, she is sending these texts with plausible deniability that she is doing this, both with herself and me. She needs to know I know that she is playing this game, because otherwise she cannot be sure. She also needs to be aware what she is doing and that this is not OK. Why at this stage is she feeling the need to fuck with me? She sees things in bad and good, black and white, sexy and loving, she sees this as bad and me as good.

I think I need to show her that I am indifferent, I don't think it's cool, or sexy or interesting that my girl has a girlfriend, but that is not real. It pisses me off and is not ok. So I need her to know that this is stupid and uncool, and I don't give a shit as long as she is into me. The point is not her girlfriend, the point is she is fucking with me. She is like an out of control child, trying to interest herself and get attention.

She is damaging my masculinity with this and it needs nipped in the bud, nothing about this in this relationship is positive. Again, telling me to dump her is not welcome feedback.

I'm tired and stressed with work and don't know how to deal with this. Please tell me how to react because my inner game is not on form at the moment, I am out of ideas and it feels like she is getting out of control.

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Now I am wondering whether she give her SPAM's boyfriend a threesome. This could work out well for me but in the short term I am more pissed about the breech of trust.

There is the other side of this that she thinks it's not a big deal because she's with a girl. However, we've been together two years and she has never outwardly stated that her and her SPAM sleeps together. Major breech of trust. I don't know if they are in a relationship or not. I know she said she thought her SPAM was a bitch for not getting her anything on valentine's day but again this may have been a shit test.

How do I tackle this nagging feeling that she give a threesome? Can I ask it?

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Age; 26
Use your knowledge and actions to be the best version of yourself you can be

If you're not comfortable with this, then walking away is your solution. I know its tempting to think "GIRL ON GIRL IS SO HAWT" and if you're into that then more power to you; but you're post makes it clear you feel she has stepped over the line and disrespected you and the relationship.

So yeah... I guess I am telling you to either live with it or move on. Or reframe the relationship into a more casual affair whilst you open up your horizons to new people.

If she's gonna sleep around then so can you. Use this as your green light to fuck another girl. It's impossible for her to give you shit for it without being a complete hypocrite.