This is something that keeps happening to me over and again. I realize what I ought to have done about 3 seconds after it seems too late. It's like, I pick up on her queues a few seconds too late.
A few examples:
The other day I was talking to a girl and a mutual friend of ours. She said she needed to go to an event right now, but then hung around for about ten more minutes talking. She seemed to be having a good time, but she was mostly talking to my female friend - not me. I didn't really think she was into me. We walked over to a door as a group(another friend was sleeping there). I'd set my bag down across the hall. Just as she goes to open the door she looks straight at me and says "Well, I guess I'll see you around Jared". I realized in that moment, she had been hanging around after telling me she needed to leave, because she was giving me an opportunity to say *I* needed to go, too. She wanted to get me alone, probably by walking her to her car.
In that moment, I guess I could have sprinted over to my bag, grabbed it and chased after her. But I didn't.

Another example. I was at a conference with a girl, and we spent the whole day together(with several other friends). She was telling me she was having problems with her math class and wanted me to help her - in her hotel room. BUT she had a roommate that was in there with her. I agreed. I mean, I did think it was because she wanted an excuse to spend time with me. But with her roommate there, I didn't think there was any chance she was thinking about sleeping with me. Well, we get in bed together, she kicks up her laptop and can't get into the wi-fi system(it wants to bill her like $20 for access). It's like 2:30am and I'm kind of exhausted, so I say I'm going to head to my room and go to sleep. I get up and she comes over beside me as I'm walking out and says "I understand if you want to go". That exact moment I realize she was planning on waiting until her roommate went to sleep. It was in her voice to a level I was certain of. But I didn't know how to flip that around. The only thing that crossed my mind in the moment was to respond something like "Actually, I want to stay with you, but I figure you'd like to get to bed". But her roommate, again was sitting three feet away and could obviously hear everything I said and that seemed too forward and sure to make her decline. So I didn't say anything.

This had been happening to me *constantly* the last few months. I realize what I should have done, when she delivers her parting shot of disappointment. I don't realize it hours or days later. She's always right there. It's almost in the moment, but slightly past. Should I just try to jump back immediately? If I know what I should have done a few seconds ago, should I just go ahead and do it, even if it seems really out of sync with the present moment?

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